Tinsley is 43, single-ish, and she wants a baby. But she doesn't want to have a baby on her own; she wants to find love first. We feel you, Tins.
Of course, she does talk about it a lot.
But maybe her fellow ladies on The Real Housewives of New York City can be a little bit more understanding about that? Ramona Singer booted her from the car ride back from Dorinda Medley's home in the Berkshires to New York City just because Tinsley has babies on the brain. Poor thing was left holding her big, fluffy pillow like a little girl lost.
It's true they all have a child or children, so it's hard to understand that someone Tinsley's age needs to have a baby ASAP if they want one. The rest of them are past it. We get it; she really does talk about it all the time. But when you're 43 and want a family (and the clock is ticking), it is the one thing that is always on your mind.
Here's how the RHONY gals can be a little more understanding.
"She’s wearing out her friends, so that’s what’s happening from the friend’s perspective," relationship expert Fran Greene, author of Dating Again With Courage and Confidence, told Personal Space. "The friends apparently have no patience for a variety of reasons. They have no patience for anything other than themselves, or they don’t have patience because she’s like a broken record who keeps saying the same thing over and over and they’ve become numb. It’s like a dog that keeps on barking and you don't hear it anymore."
"They should be completely honest and say, 'We’re tapped out, we’ve given you our advice, and you keep coming back because you want our advice to change,'" added Greene, who suggests talking to someone who will actually listen.
"This is probably the time when she needs to see a therapist and have someone there for her 100 percent to hear what she has to say and help her sort out what is going on. Does she feel like she should have a kid because of everybody else? Does she really only have six months to do it? Is this on again-off again with her boyfriend her hoping for something that may never be? Why is she staying with someone who may never give her what she really wants?"
If she doesn't want therapy, she just needs to talk to somebody "who is a compassionate person," Greene added. "It’s also great to talk to someone who is in the same boat, single women in their 40s who are childless. Sometimes you just need to commiserate with someone who is having the same life experience as you."
The thing is, it's not abnormal to want a baby with someone you love, instead of just on your own.
"I would suggest to her to focus on the relationship with Scott for right now. Is this the guy she wants to spend the rest of her life with and who will help her fulfill her dreams?" Greene explained.
"She has to put the kid thing aside and figure out the relationship," she added. "She moves on and you never know, in three weeks she may meet the love of her life."
Crazier things have happened.
As for everyone calling out Scott for wasting Tinsley's time, Greene says this: "She thinks he's wasting her time, but she's wasting her own time."
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