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Taking the Bait

Alex explains why she wanted to salvage her relationship with Sonja, and discusses the Governors Island debacle.

By Alex McCord

One thing I can say for myself -- this time, I didn't take the bait. Last week, my head started spinning around, and I nearly fell off my Gucci heels when Sonja went after my husband. This time, I tried to do a little better. Did I succeed? You be the judge.

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Obviously something had to happen -– she and I see each other constantly and newsflash we like each other! I have a lot more fun with Sonja than I do with other women who either take themselves way too seriously or backstab. . .so I didn't want to let this relationship sour over one -- okay, two –- moments of temporary insanity.

I invited Sonja for lunch and we got right down to it. I think I knew she would never see things from my perspective, and rather than forcing that, I suggested we drop it. She brought up Simon again, and her attitude regarding the proper behavior of husbands seemed a little old fashioned. Respect is earned, not automatic, and chivalry, while not dead, should not be blind. Enough, basta, finito…no more! We agreed to drop it and move on, and I,m happy to say we have done that. At Ramona's charity fashion show it was the first time Sonja and Simon had seen each other since my art party blowup with her, so there needed to be some kind of an acknowledgment for Simon, too. Although the group hug might have been a little awkward, it patched things up and everyone let it go because life is too short.

Watching Cindy (or housewives in any other cities) have nanny drama, made me grateful for ours, who has been with us nearly five years. We've had ups and downs, but most things we've been able to have a good laugh about later –- lots of that is in Chapter 6 of our book under "I Saw Your Nanny. . ."

Simon and I have been cheerleaders for Brooklyn since our show started, and now let us be the same for Governors Island -– it has only been open to the public for a few years and is 800 yards from Manhattan, which takes about seven minutes on a ferry to reach. It's a hidden gem in NYC that not many people know about yet, and home to artist residencies and all sorts of cool stuff. We had a fantastic day, and the only problem was that Kelly and Cindy arrived four hours late, just as the sun went away. It got cold, windy, and everyone was ready to leave. We didn't serve beer and wings either, which is the only reason I can imagine why Kelly wouldn't let Cindy eat. Moral of that story? If you're going to whine and complain, please do everyone else a favor and don't come. That aside, it was a great birthday and Simon outdid himself, fully surprising me with a day the chums and I will never forget. Some photos are here.

Speaking of Simon -– let's do that for a moment! I am so very, very proud of him. This week his webisodes debut on, AND he is the first househusband to release a single, I Am Real, which is fun, cheeky, skewers the reality TV genre a little and above all is fun! I hope you like it as much as I do!

What else happened this week? Kelly, Sonja, and Cindy did some dating, and Sonja looked like she was having fun -– I didn't want her to have to change tables! Not sure why Kelly suggested the improv exercise, but it was entertaining, though maybe not to the guy. And Ramona -– she outdid herself on David Meister's catwalk (in support of the Dawson Scleroderma Foundation) and I was so proud of her at the Women's Venture Fund dinner. She works very, very hard and deserves all her success.

Lastly, I did a photo shoot for my modeling book, and should have bloody well known that if I made any comment on camera about eating or weight, there would be shots of me trying on samples that don't fit. I'm pretty thin, but I am in my thirties so not everything fits like it does on teenagers –- all the more reason why fittings are important! I was beyond thrilled to work with Mark Veltman and his amazing crew, and was floored by the final images – one of which is in this week's Life and Style.

See you next week, and in the meantime check out Thug in a Cocktail Dress, our fashion recap and Simon's blog. You can also find us on Facebook as well as Simon's and my Twitter feeds!

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