Enough is Enough
Jill cries foul on Simon's cyber bullying and Alex's friendship.
Hi everyone,
13 down! I had an incredibly busy week, mostly with meetings about Skweez Couture. I have the "design bug" back. My mission statement, "Beauty begins with a great foundation," says it all and now I am building the "house." If you want to be the first to hear anything, follow us @skweezcouture and LIKE us on Facebook. You can check out the new website at skweezcouture.com.
A few months ago I filmed a TV show called My Favorite Place on HGTV. It will air this Saturday, July 2 at 6 pm. If you haven't seen enough of me, my guest starring role on USA's White Collar will finally air Tuesday, July 5. I will also be ringing the bell of NASDAQ to celebrate Tuesday morning's opening.
Now onto this week's crazy episode. . .
We begin with Cindy's Vajewel party for completely bare. Everyone was having a good time until Simon came over to me while I was sitting with Kelly. He asked me to set a date to have a talk with him. I realize now he was trying to get make the show about him. If he really wanted to talk with good intentions he would have called me, right? I felt a little on the spot so I said yes. Then Kelly jumped down my throat saying it was inappropriate. Was it? I didn't know what to do so I called Bobby. He is always the voice of reason and gives me the best advice. He said to say "No." Bobby thought it was weird for Simon to want to talk with me alone. Bobby knew he was involved with haters and didn't want to give it any oxygen. Here: is the truth. I am a reality star on a TV show. I realize love, love to hate, and even hate is part of the landscape. I signed up for that. But those people are total and complete strangers. Simon and Alex and even Ramona have engaged with these haters who have tried to hurt me and my family outside of the show. I would NEVER follow, talk to, invite to my house, be hosted by or communicate with someone who threatened another castmate. We need to leave the drama on the show and support each other to the outside world. It was Simon's relationship with these people that prompted Bobby to speak with Simon at Avery's party. Even though Simon promised not to communicate with these people anymore, enough time hadn't passed yet for Bobby to feel comfortable for me to talk to Simon alone.
I went over and told Simon how I really felt about it. I was kind and gentle. I was NOT at all aggressive. Simon was not happy to say the least and actually THREATENED ME! He told me to watch out! Watch out??? What the heck did that mean? Simon is over 6 feet tall and is an imposing figure. Was he going to hit me? What man threatens a woman? You would never see Bobby say that to a woman, ever. What he meant was that he was going to continue to support people that have stalked my family and sent me personal threats. Cyber-bullying is an overused word that is defined differently by anyone you ask. It means using the Internet to foster hate. Most of last season and during the time we filmed this season, Simon was doing a lot of that. After he was called out on it by Bobby at Avery's party, I was informed that he deleted his most egregious tweets. I will not tolerate bad behavior from children, so why would I tolerate it from grown adults? The fact that we are castmates makes it so much worse. Simon has crossed the line and Alex can't control him.
I'm a little confused about Alex's opinion about what's going on with Simon. First, she says if someone is not friends with Simon, she can't be friends with them. Yet when Kelly confronted her about Simon she says they are two separate people and she wants no part of it. Sounds like a contradiction to me, what do you think? She then suggests that Kelly take it up with Simon directly. Why wouldn't Alex tell Simon to respect her castmates' wishes and "back off"? First Sonja had a problem, then I had a problem, and now Kelly. Why doesn't Alex deliver "that" message?
Alex has alluded once again that somehow I was responsible for Simon losing his job. Last summer Simon gave a press release stating that he resigned to start his own company. Which is it?
I only wish all of us success. I was responsible for getting Alex a couple of opportunities after Season 1 when we were friends, and I have had a few opportunities since that I could have shared with them if they would have stopped all of this nonsense. It has been in their control. After Alex and I had a "heart to heart" and agreed to start over, I really made an effort to build our friendship. After watching each week's episode I feel I was deceived. Alex stated in her "confessionals" throughout this season that she still didn't trust me and that she never really liked me. I wish she had just been honest with me and said she doesn't want to be friends and I would have respected that.
As everyone knows I love to decorate and fix little things in my apartment. I have to thank two people. "Patty the Painter" who did an amazing job painting my apartment in Venetian plaster and repairing lots of scratches on the walls and doors. Also, Aline Matsika (www.alinematsika.com) who made some custom furniture for my bedroom and helped pick out some new fabrics to update the apartment. I am so busy that I sometimes ask professionals for help and I am so glad I did!
How much did you love seeing LuAnn helping to paint my apartment while wearing her Skweez Couture tights? I love days like that when we get together as friends and just enjoy each others company. As I said last week, I wish it was like this with all of the ladies.
Bobby and I are getting ready to go to England next week to see our friends, Robbie Williams (and his wife Ayda Fields) in concert at Wembley Stadium. I can't bring Ginger so she will stay home with Ally. Ally is working at a local day camp and doesn't want to miss five days of work. We will miss her very much but I have to respect her work ethic. I am so proud of her.
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See you next week! Have a happy and safe 4th!