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No Excuses

Heather wishes everyone wasn't so filled with excuses this week, herself included.

By Heather Thomson

No excuses. . .

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Calling a man's wife crazy was probably not the best approach but initially Mario didn't seem to disagree that Ramona was acting irrational. And in light of her behavior, I think crazy wasn't far off the mark. Ramona should be fighting her own "bottles," but instead of facing her issues she's dropping bombs and then and running off, like always, and I am left to face Mario now. At least, Carole seems to agree with me.

Heather vs Ramona

And Aviva? What's with Aviva? Is her attack on me a way of changing the subject? Come on ladies, I am right about Jacques. Reid is defending me while Aviva is defending Mario? And why is she is still talking about London? LuAnn and I were excluded from Miami and we don't feel wronged. Enough is enough. Aviva and I definitely aren't on the same page all of the time, but at the end of the evening, we realize together that this really isn't about us and we decide to let it go.

Despite the fact that Aviva frustrates me at times, I do admire her and care for her. I arrived really late to her charity event at SoulCycle -- but not because I was angry at her or holding a grudge. I honestly am not. I was just held up at Yummie in a meeting I could not reschedule. You have to understand getting around in the city can be insane and you really need to allow yourself at least 30 or 40 minutes to make any appointment on time. Unfortunately, my meeting didn't afford me this luxury. I knew it would be a tight squeeze, but thankfully I got there just in the nick of time to be counted and support this great cause.

Aviva discusses openly about the fact that she suffers from panic disorders, which can be traced back to her accident as a child. I've told her that she is the calmest panicked person I have ever met. She is so smooth about her phobias that you really never see her sweat. But, when she talks going to St. Barth's without Reid, as I've said before, you can actually feel the panicked energy in the air around her. This is really stressing her out and I feel bad for her. I can only imagine how debilitating a disorder like this would be. It is clear that Reid really is her rock.

Later, Aviva and I planned an outing with our families and I thought it would be nice for us to have a stress-free afternoon together. I care for Aviva, and, like I said, the fight we had wasn't really about us after all. Reid seems to see what I see and he understands me more than Aviva does lately. I look forward to spending some time with the Dreschers. I do think Aviva is just having a momentary lapse of sanity with regard to Ramona and honestly hasn't everyone admitted Ramona can be crazy? She really is just too much! I only hope she's not contagious and is spreading her crazy to my friends!?

Flash to our playdate and there is that Hudson Drescher -- how precious is he?!? I just died when he said he didn't want to ride the merry-go-round because it would shake his penis all over. That is one of those moments during filming when everyone just falls out laughing! It was hysterical and precious at the same time and thanks to RHONY Viv and Reid forever have it on tape. My sweet little ones too!!!! It was a great day.And speaking of great days. . .I have no words for the children Aviva works with. Seeing that little boy with his new running blade prosthetics left me speechless. I cried throughout that scene. Happy tears. I get extremely moved by how bittersweet life can be. . .so beautiful. Aviva had invited me to this and we had planned that I would bring Jax along. He and Aviva have developed a special bond based on their struggles and I love it. She can talk to him about things from a place I cannot and she takes it very seriously and as a "responsibility." She loves Jax that much more for it. And I love her right back for it. Unfortunately, scheduling conflicts prevented me from attending this special day, but I loved watching it on TV along with you all. What a beautiful scene and how much do I admire Aviva for giving back the way she does. She is such an amazing role model for these little ones. Everyone is over-scheduled but this is one thing I was so very sad to miss. No excuses.

It feels like this episode was full of excuses. . .excuses for saying the wrong thing, excuses for not showing up to support a friend, excuses for not being able to travel, so many excuses! Some of them justified and others maybe not so much. We all have our reasons but wouldn’t it be nice if we didn't need them?

As always, thank you for all of your support and feedback. You make being on the show so rewarding for me. To learn more about me and my shapewear, go to Facebook,, and You can also enjoy 10 percent off your next Yummie Tummie order by entering code "iloveheathert10" at checkout. And please don't forget to follow me on Twitter (@iamHeatherT) and to visit to sign up to become an organ and tissue donor.

Xx Heather

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