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LuAnn's Lessons Learned

LuAnn shares what she loves (and doesn't love) about her fellow 'Wives.

By Luann de Lesseps

Hello my friends! For the past five years I’ve enjoyed sharing my life with you and I thank you for your support. So much has changed since I began this televised journey, as you know. My children have grown up and I’m very proud of them, I divorced and found love again and along the way I’ve made new friends and frenemies. I’ve traveled, partied, fought and made up, and most importantly, I’ve learned a lot about relationships.

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I’m disappointed that Carole and I couldn’t make our friendship work. Maybe it’s because she considered herself more of a journalist than a Housewife? I do know that she never passed up a chance to criticize me and that she uses humor as a defensive mechanism rather than saying what she thinks to my face. I do respect her talent as a writer and I hope in the future she uses her considerable abilities to pull people up rather than bring them down.

Heather is a complicated girlfriend. During this season, I’ve felt that she’s had my back and in the end she didn’t. I do know that she’s very talented and a very good businesswoman. She did her best for Sonja and deserves more praise for her contribution to Sonja’s toaster oven launch than she received. I admire how she restrained herself when Sonja whipped out the logo sent in by a fan that she’s decided to use instead of what Heather and her team developed. Heather’s tough, smart and I’m glad we became friends.

Aviva is stunning, smart and she’s a great mom. She managed to juggle her family and she show with grace and dignity. I know she struggles with phobias related to her childhood accident, but I saw her face her fears and grow this season. Aviva loves her father in spite of his inappropriate behavior at times and he obviously loves her very much. I thought one of the best moments this season was when Aviva presented the little boy with his prosthetic leg. I hope that next season Aviva can resolve her issues with Sonja and Ramona and I look forward to spending more time with her.

Sonja and I remain very good friends and while she continues to face challenges with her divorce and her finances, she has a smile on her face and a glass of champagne in her hand. I think her close relationships with her interns shows that she is a very nurturing woman who loves her family and friends. I love spending time with Sonja and I think I’ve made a friend for life.

Ramona and I have had our issues over the years but we have a respect for each other that transcends our conflicts. The trait I admire most in Ramona is that she says what is on her mind to me rather than gossiping behind my back. I might not always like what she has to say but I like her honesty. She can be very fun to be around and I consider her to be my friend regardless of how much we agree to disagree.

As for me, I’ve learned some very important lessons this season about honesty and friendship. I realize now more than ever that to be a good girlfriend, I have to be forthright yet kind in what I say and do. I’ve learned that tequila clouds my judgment and that it’s better to take a car home than a ride from a pirate. I’ve also learned that Jacques loves me for who I am and that he trusts me regardless of how things looked on the show. Lastly, I realize how grateful I am to be able to share my life with you and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

And lastly, check out my new site ShopLuann.com to see my new jewelry line.

Bisous!

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