Welcome back to episode #2. I hope you all enjoyed seeing Tamra and I back to having fun together as I really missed her. I loved Hawaii as it was just the three of us, and I believe three is the maximum amount when going on a "girls" trip. More than that just causes chaos. Mine and Tamra's mission was to get Heather to loosen up a little bit, get a little "tipsy" and hopefully get her to dance on a bar top -- we didn't succeed! Ugh...
Tamra and her silly themed parties. When she told me she was having a "spooky" party I was like, "What the heck does that mean?" I'm not really into the whole Halloween theme, ghosts, monsters, dead people, mummies... so it was hard for me to dress up that way. I thought instead I'd wear a black dress and a cross! This way I'd keep all the bad things away from me. It worked!
When Tamra told us how hard it was for her to share her children 50-percent of the time with Simon, I felt so bad for her. Having the void of not having the three kids around when they are at their dad's I'm sure is huge. Since Eddie doesn't have kids, I can understand why she would consider having a baby with him so he can understand the love that a parent has towards their child. It's indescribable. It doesn't seem like Eddie wants a child right now, so it seems like Tamra should just put that aside.
When I was divorced from my children's father, I received 100-percent custody of the kids, which I loved. I couldn't imagine having them split between the two homes and only having them 50-percent of the time. I know how much her children mean to her, and I know how difficult the time that they spend apart has is so difficult on her.Meeting Shannon was great. I immediately hit it off with her and I was so pleasantly surprised at myself that I didn't feel the urge to haze her. Maybe because she was close in age with me, or the fact that we were both Aries and we both speak our minds. I was happy to hear that Shannon likes to cook, and the fact that she invited us all over for dinner I thought was amazing. So much fun!
Now...onto the therapy session with Dr. Sanders. I can't tell you how difficult this has been having my daughter and myself continue to not see eye-to-eye on some very important issues. The fact that she is moving away to OK makes me really sad because other than my "relationship" issue, we really are best friends with very little conflict. I am a firm believer that in time, things will always work itself out –- I just don't know why it's taking so long.
Going to counseling for me has really helped me be able to make choices that I WANT and not to be influenced by others. I was bugged that Tamra said that she doesn't want me to wake up in seven to eight years and regret my decisions I am making now in my life. What I have to say to her is that... I won't. I love every day that I am making, as no decision that I have made is permanent, and I'm enjoying my life and choosing to do things MY WAY now. For 28 years I have focused on being a mother and wife and business woman. It seems now that my kids are making their choices without any concern of what I feel...so I guess it's my time to do the same.
Life is a journey... live each day as if it's your last and enjoy the ride. I have no regrets on anything I am doing. I'm having a blast and choose to think positive and hope and pray those who say they "care about me" will be happy for whatever decision I decide to make.
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