Lala Kent Has Picked Her Bridesmaids — So How Should She Let the Others Down?
The Vanderpump Rules bride-to-be has three ladies in mind for her wedding party. The rest are out.
Lala Kent always lets us know exactly how it is in Lala's world.
The Vanderpump Rules cast member, who got engaged to Randall Emmett in September 2018, has a wedding date set for April 18, 2020 and says she's already deep into planning. On Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen, Lala said she's already chosen who will be in her wedding party.
Andy asked, "If you were going to have bridesmaids, which Vanderpump ladies would you have as your bridesmaids?" Lala responded, "Stassi [Schroeder], Katie [Maloney-Schwartz], and Brittany [Cartwright]."
So, safe to say Kristen Doute's out? Looks that way. Ariana Madix? Probably isn't interested anyway.
According to national etiquette expert Diane Gottsman, "Ultimately, your wedding day is your day and you get to chose who you want in your wedding party."
It's more how you go about letting others down politely (not that everyone wants to be included in a wedding party).
"If you do not intend to include a close friend from your friend group in your wedding party, it would be polite and most comfortable to let them know. Especially when three out of the four friends will be included and one will be left out," Gottsman says.
You should be totally honest, Gottsman adds.
"If the reason is because there is a problem between you two, you can have a candid conversation and let them know why," she says. "If it’s simply a matter of needing to keep the numbers down, it might be best to keep the group together so there are no hurt feelings."
If it is because of monetary reasons, you may want to find another role for them in the wedding so you don't hurt feelings, or potentially end the friendship.
"As an alternate option, they can also play some other part in your wedding and you can communicate the difficulty you had in making the final cut," Gottsman says.
But ultimately, it's up to the bride and groom.
"On the other hand, if you don’t want to include someone in your wedding it’s not necessary to justify a reason why," Gottsman says. "You don’t have to reach out to every one of your friends to let them know they will not be included in the wedding party."
Wedding Wire gives advice on how to let a friend down easy if you don't plan on including them in your wedding.
"Whether or not you choose someone as a bridesmaid in your wedding is often viewed as a reflection of how important they are in your life," Wedding Wire says. "Telling someone they are not a bridesmaid can feel like you are telling them, ‘You just aren't that important to me.' Even if that is not true, it often feels that way to the receiver which makes talking about it difficult and awkward. Though no matter which way you go about this chat, feelings are bound to be a bit bruised, it’s important to have it ASAP in your wedding planning, instead of avoiding it. This gives your friendship time to heal before your wedding date arrives."
Remember, be honest, let her know you love her in your own special way, and definitely include her in something special, like the bachelorette party or to sit with you and your friends on the day of the wedding.
