"I'm trying to rebuild my relationship with my daughter," she says.

on Jan 2 - The Dish0

Usually, an engagement and the planning of a wedding is a celebratory time, but for Kandi Burruss, it's been a difficult, emotional experience that's potentially damaged her relationship with her mother beyond repair.

As we've seen on this season of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Mama Joyce has been vocal about her disapproval of Kandi's fiancé Todd Tucker. Most recently, she's alleged that he cheated on Kandi with Kandi's best friend Carmon.

Now, she's speaking out about how she discovered the rumors. "Someone told me that they saw Carmon sitting on Todd’s lap at a club back in April," she told InTouch. "They were being really flirty and were all up on each other." Joyce went on to say that Kandi's turning a blind eye to the drama and ignoring the cheating rumors, despite the fact that it's apparently a hot topic in Atlanta. “She just doesn’t want to believe what’s going on.”

But Joyce adds that she's focused on reparing her relationship with her daughter. "Right now, I've decided to back off a bit," she says. "I'm trying to rebuild my relationship with my daughter because that's all I have."

Do you think Kandi and Mama Joyce can repair their relationship? What advice do you have for them? Tell us in the comments.

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35 comments
merci08
merci08

It's really sad to see someone's mother act this way on television.  Her behavior is beyond inappropriate.  It is disrespectful and ghetto.  "Mama Joyce" please get off this show and get therapy.  I am embarrassed for you.

Eurogirl
Eurogirl

Money, money, money, money, money, money. People that bow down to the god of money should never get married. Hear me mama Joyce? Stay alone cause that's all you care about. 

letstalkfriend
letstalkfriend

To mama Joyce, your daughter has a good head on her shoulders just lets her live her life ,if she gets hurt she will come to you.She seems so happy and has a beautiful daughter of her own, and give Todd a chance, you might just like him.Remember you didn't like A.J. either.Let her make her on decisions.This coming from a mother of 5 grown kids!

vikingblondes123
vikingblondes123

And,have faith in yourself as a Mother, Kandi is no fool when it comes to money. If she takes a chance on love, she'll come out onto.;)

vikingblondes123
vikingblondes123

Shame we can't believe Mama Joyce after she showed herself as a jealous, possessive, money grubbing, controlling "mother". Now Kandi is on her own to figure things out for herself. 

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Finally Mama Joyce gets it. I think she has made the right decision to back off. Parents should not be that much into their adult children's business.

My feelings about Todd and the job. This is a very modern world Kandi. My husband had to take several jobs out of town to help us survive early on in life. We have lasted over 30 years. Let the man get work, and you are right if he has to leave town to get work ... then that is what it is. Long distance relationships do work. Personally the heart grows fonder when your husband is out of town. You can not afford to keep tabs on your man every minute,  he will resent you. I would travel to where my husband was, even to England where he had to work. If you truly love a person tell that person you trust them and let them go. He is taking the jobs to increase his income and to be the man he is. He is also right when it comes to getting the best people to help you with the play. He is very right. If you want to be like Tyler Perry or August wilson, then get advice and a mentor who has done these things and who can save you some time and MONEY. Sit down with Tyler Perry, Debbie Allen and there are many others, before you do the play. I am sure it will be successful, but you want it to be everything you want it to be and more. Good luck.

boogiewiz
boogiewiz

MOMMA JOYCE and Kandi, you both need to understand the below:

 

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts,  For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,  which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them,  but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,  and He bends you with His might  that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies,  so He loves also the bow that is stable.

 

Momma Joyce, you need to giver Kandi your blessings, this appears to be a good man in her life, who he himself is struggling to make hinself worthy

Real2323
Real2323

Kandi is one of my fab's  on #RHWOA but Kandi not standing up to her mother in some areas in her her life.Brought this on.Kandi can still love and respect her mother and still put her foot down.I know mother Joyce is scare she may lose her  daughter some.But that's life.Kandi is happy she deserve to be happy.We don' know Todd but he seems like a great guy.Most men would have fuss mother Joyce out.And left Kandi I'm just keeping it 100.Todd put up with a lot from Kandi mother and the sister"s it would take be forever to talk about them.Now they know they told some lies.On TV Hello People has Tamra would say (Get Your Life) I really  want to know what Todd side of the family has to say about all of this.Mainly Todd's Parents.I love Kandi &Todd has a couple I think they make a great couple.They fit each other and you   can tell they love each other.No one divided Kandi and her mother.But when you have allow this to go on in your life for so long.When you do finally take a stand .The person thinks they are being done wrong.I don't care who it is.They will fill like you have done them wrong.Just saying and just sharing.

mrsd@13
mrsd@13

Kandi, I love you girl but your mom is out of line. First she says she is washing her hands of you and todds relationship. Then she tells you that you put a dagger in her heart??? Really?? What in the world honey! I respect my mom but had she not liked my husband i married 4 yrs ago, I would have told her "Mom, I love and respect you and you know ill take care of you, but you have to respect my man and our marriage. Apologize to him and give him a chance. He deserves that."

Trishaf1962
Trishaf1962

OMG.  Kandi, you need to cut the ties with your mother.  Just because you do doesn't mean you love her any less.  But seriously, she is running your life and you are letting her.  Talk about acting ghetto.  Grow up woman (Mama Joyce). Seems to me you don't want her in a relationship because you feel all her money will go to them and not you. You really come off bad.  Need to change your whole attitude. You are a "grown woman".  Act like it.  You too Kandi. You need to start making some hard decisions. Man before mother if you are truly in love.  If not, quit stringing him along.

BRINKLEY
BRINKLEY

RUN!!!!!!  todd .... kandi is not woman enough to stand up to her mother...who is such a liar omg!!! joyce!! you really need to ashame of your self i mean really on tv lying like you have and your stupid sisters following you...now that was the joke of the show that night but c if i was carmens mom baby!!!! it would have been on plain and simple the way you attack that girl (young lady)  we saw that you were stupid but that stupid... for a mother to behave the way you have on national tv,  kandi should have you removed!! from the show,   and ms kandi come on sister  get really real even your baby is telling you to move away from joyce, its growing up time baby no one is telling you to disrespect your mother, but shes disrespecting you man!!!! and hes paying the bills....come on honey bunny get real ...and if you dont i pray for him to leave and not get screwed up with you and your mama drama!!!! hey hes needs someone to be in his corner because you are not, and i pray his mama tells him to go!!!! 

schotze17
schotze17

I believe in having the utmost respect...when respect is given. Kandi..there's a serious issue when your mother will not "tell the truth" when relaying a conversation, she had with your child? Don't cha' think? Your child never said she did not like Todd. (That one really stuck with me) Besides the taking off of shoes, aunties involved..yada yada yada...oh the dinner table scene..."I got my eyes on you Todd"...seriously..?

 

I admire your strength to remain calm, but sometimes, just sometimes "not speaking up" allows the behaviors to continue. You stuck up more for Phaedra dealing with that dingy Kenya, than you did your own man Todd.

 

The truth of it all Kandi, until "you" decide others can not dictate your personal love life, it will continue. You have to learn about those relationships. Often times the show shows you only as knowing about making money. Having that knowledge is great! You have to have some knowledge on functioning inside a one on one relationship with a man. Is this maybe why Ms. Joyce is acting out? Does she know something, not about Todd, but you, that makes her nervous when you venture into a new relationship? 

 

I agree with you on making sure she is taken care of, wholeheartedly. But somewhere the lines of respect have been crossed before now...and this is the result ...on a nationally broadcast tv show.

 

Between Mama Joyce & Kenya, I don't think I could do another season...

 

 

 

GiftedSage777
GiftedSage777

I've said from the beginning that Mama Joyce probably knows something Kandi doesn't know for her to have been so adamant about her getting rid of Todd and Kandi's best friend, but she went about it the wrong way. Maybe, it was the only way she knew how. A mother will do ANYTHING to save their children hurt, heartache and pain! And, Kandi probably would have listened to Mama Joyce if she had come off more loving and concerned versus "gangster" and demanding! Nobody responds to that! If there's a rumor, Listen...they come from somewhere! I looked in Todd's eyes and knew he couldn't be trusted. Then, when he refused to say he would walk empty handed (except what he came with), I KNEW he was no good! I know this hurts...I KNOW, but it's better to hurt and get it over with, than to turn a blind eye, and not only hurt more later, but discover the truth and let him walk away with a few millions of your dollars! I don't blame your mom, just how she went about it!

Revie11
Revie11

Joyce continues to try and make Kandi feel guilty for "taking sides" against her at the wedding gown gathering.  She and her sisters should grow up already.  We can all see that Joyce is more concerned about Kandi's money than she is for Kandi & Riley.  As a mother, it's hard for me to watch her self-centered, mean behavior.  BRAVO - please get rid of Joyce and her mean old lady gang.

sunnyd45
sunnyd45

Your mom is craaazzzie Kandi!!! She needs to get on some meds. Now she may die because of your relationship?? WTF?? Do you feel guilty because that's what she is trying to do.. make you feel bad. She wants you as a meal ticket. Parents sometimes take advantage too. tell her to back off!!!

bflorikkie
bflorikkie

Why are you so worried about respecting Joyce when she CLEARLY has no respect for you or Todd?  She has become a gigantic piece of garbage with the increased camera time she has accrued.  Cut her out now so she realizes that her actions do have repercussions and allow her to gain your trust back.  I love you Kandi and I can't stand seeing you go through this!  (and on national t.v., none the less).  Good Luck!

cheryl1
cheryl1

Joyce is always thinking about herself. She's brought it up twice now - the what if you choke on a chicken bone and then the trip to Phaedras office about what would happen if something happens to Kandi. Phaedra had to reassure her that a Will takes precedent over a spouse in Georgia. I haven't heard her say One thing about Riley welfare other than the pictures. And How petty I have pictures of my Mom, Dad, Brothers & sisters but most are immediate family photos. My husband my kids even our pets. What does she want a shrine!

60ssurvivor
60ssurvivor

Oh, and Joyce shouldn't judge anyone by their income.  Where did she ever make her money?   From her daughter's career, that's where.

 

60ssurvivor
60ssurvivor

Joyce (she's not my momma) seems only to be interested in maintaining a hold on her daughter's money and has no regard at all for her happiness.  She's a totally mean and greedy woman and Kandi needs to finally (please, I beg of  you) put her foot down and tell her momma to either get with the program or stay out of her life.  Dolphin:   The only thing Joyce knows is that she doesn't want anything or anyone to get between her and Kandi's money.  If you'll notice, she doesn't like anybody who gets close to her daughter.

Dolphin3636
Dolphin3636

Mamo Joyce knows something that we the viewers don't know. I don't trust that man. I hope Kandi doesn't make a big mistake and get a great prenuptial agreement.  Tod might be a gold digger.

Lck
Lck

Joyce needs to stop talking. Every time she opens her mouth, it just gets worse. Why publicly try to embarrass your daughter??

piperbeau
piperbeau

WOW she is still bashing Todd!!! What a passive aggressive blog!! Kandi needs to shut that down! Kandi how would you feel if Todd's mother treated you the way your mama treats Todd??! I bet you would leave Todd if he didn't have your back!! I'm sorry but your mom is preventing you and your daughter from having a good man in your life! I guess because Kandi has money she is too good for a man that has a normal salary!! and your mother called him one of the "worker" while she was being filmed by one of the "workers".... what an insult to all the crew members of this show! 

charris75141@yahoo.com
charris75141@yahoo.com

Joyce and Kandi was always going to be alright. I will say a hard head makes a soft behind. I feel like Joyce, why have Todd's family pictures all on the wall? But I understand why Kandi did that. But lets not get it twisted, and I hope Todd doesn't. Kandi acts as if she loves him a lot, which is great. But Kandi will never ever choose anyone over Joyce and Riley. It just will not happen. They are two peas in a pot. And no matter what Kandi is going to always show her mom respect. And do just what she want to do with her own life. Kandi made that quite clear on WWHL, and MADE me respect her, because one thing she said that no one can disagree with. Just because she started making more money than mom. Joyce is still just that Mom.  

Eurogirl
Eurogirl

@GiftedSage777 Joyce listened to what she wanted to hear. She is creating Kandi's pain.

You heard her say that she wanted to frame Todd - that is the act of a desperate and unstable woman. Yes, mothers want to stop their children from getting hurt but what if she's completely wrong? This will cause a huge divide between Todd and Joyce. I know I wouldn't be all lovey dovey with a woman who put me through the ringer. Not to mention the fact that she doesn't think very highly of her own daughter. She's just a crude woman who should back off.

BRINKLEY
BRINKLEY

 @Dolphin3636 todd has almost just as much money as kandi...dont get it twisted....mama joyce is a old school liar!!! and she needs to stay out of kandi's  and todd's business, and accept the cash that kandi gives her and stop being greedy...

 

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

 @Dolphin3636 If Joyce truly knows something, then she should handle it privately…not in the manner she has been behaving. It has only served to make herself and her family look ridiculous. Kandi has done nothing be enable this behavior in her mother…all of it no doubt for a storyline and relevance.

BeWiseNotFoolish
BeWiseNotFoolish

 @Dolphin3636  I appreciate your comment because I feel the same way about Todd.  His body language doesn't sit well with me.  I believe I saw the episode where Khandi's mother recited, "Ain't No Mountain High Enough" when she and Todd were seated at the dinner table, and he covered his mouth the majority of the time when he was talking with Khandi's mother.  What mother doesn't want the best for her daughter.  Just like Usher's mother tried to warn him and didn't attend her son's wedding because she KNEW his now ex-wife was up to no good, I believe this situation is no different.  I also agree about a prenuptial agreement, but a prenuptial agreement is to protect the property/assets of the wealthy person if there's a divorce.  A lot of individuals don't realize "gold diggers" and "opportunists" spend their spouse's money/wealth WHILE they're married and whatever is purchased can become COMMUNITY or JOINT property because it was acquired DURING the marriage.  For example, the building Peter bought/leased without Cynthia's knowledge AND said she would have to pay him rent!  Peter didn't have two nickels to rub together before Cynthia came along, but he wants Cynthia (his WIFE) to pay him rent - for a building that he purchased with her money!  Khandi's mother asked Todd at the dinner table (before Khandi served desert) if he would sign a prenuptial agreement waiving the statement "the manner to which I have become accustomed to" and Todd said he didn't know what he would sign.  Todd has become acclimated to a certain luxurious that Khandi gave him and he doesn't want to sign that luxury away.  I hope the best for Khandi, but . . . . .

 

sweeetd
sweeetd

 @charris75141@yahoo.com I agree with you some things just have to work themselves out. No matter what happens behind doors Kandi is still showing respect and let's not forget that her friend did egg mom on at the fitting. Look at the smirk on her face.

GiftedSage777
GiftedSage777

 @sweeetd  @charris75141@yahoo.com I agree with both of you. I don't trust Todd or her friend, and I never have. I just didn't like how Miss Joyce went about things. A softer voice is better heard than a battle cry, believe it or not! I pray Kandi don't get burned in this relationship with Todd, because she really loves that man!

peanutshelle
peanutshelle

 @sweeetd  Um, Joyce is the one who brought the drama at the dress shop. Joyce seems like she would have a problem with ANYONE who might offer Kandi an opinion that differs from hers. I can understand why didn't like AJ, but Todd is a good man. Get the prenup, elope, and keep it moving.

 

cheryl1
cheryl1

@sweeetd @charris75141@yahoo.com I didn't see that it was Mama Joyce and her sisters were egging her on. She came with a nasty attitude. I would have let her hit me with her shoe then she would have to worry about being poor. I've never seen any mother act like that.