Maybe next year just stick to a gift card, Phaedra. "I think what people have to remember is gifts are given according to the recipient," the Real Housewives of Atlanta star tells s2smagazine about her, um, eyebrow raising birthday surprise. "All last season you heard me speak about Redickulous and Kandi requested she wanted to see it."
Kandi, yes. Mama Joyce? Not so much. "When I went to go and bring my gift out, Mama Joyce was on the other side of the room having fun with her friends," Phaedra explains. "I was shocked that someone had brought her back there for it. It was intended for the young ladies who came for Kandi's birthday party."
Even though Kandi's mother didn't appreciate Redickulous' extraordinary "talent," Phaedra insists there are no hard feelings. "She wasn't upset with me, and we don't have any issues. I respect her. We just had dinner together."
Even Apollo gave Phaedra the A-OK for letting her stripper pal tag along for the night. "God doesn't create anything that's not beautiful or wonderful," she tells the mag. "I love the human body. I think nudity is beautiful, in the right atmosphere, and not in a perverted manner. So many people are so uncomfortable with themselves without clothes on. It's a shame. Everything was created in God's own image, and I think my husband knows that."
Was Phaedra in the right to invite Redickulous? Start a Tweet Battle, and make your case.
I completely agree with the person uptop that said you cant be your daughters home girl 100% bc you cant you can a great relationship with your parent but being friends like that is like a polar opposite to me kandis mother reaction i dont think anyone expected bc she has been on kandi's sex talk show she supports this sex toy line she came out with last season they were tlkn bout sexual stuff on mothers day i mean there relationship is different to me its one thing to educate your child on sex its another to have the convos they be having so when you as a parent dont have a clear cut line how can you then be upset or feel disrespected bc other ppl dont see that line on top of that if she had liked strippers and was throwing ones what would ppl say then dont be that stupid her reaction was negative most ppls moms wouldnt like strippers but usually those ppls moms are being their parent and not tryna be their friend as for everyone else at the party who cares if they didnt like it it wasnt for them and honestly just bc ppl act like they didnt enjoy that doesnt mean they necessarily didnt deep down inside ppl follow other ppl and put up fronts all the time heck did anyone notice peter watching that what straight man watches another man strip like that or do his "talent" i found that odd if anything this should be a lesson on why ppl should realize you can be close with your children but dont neglect or loose sight of the fact you are their parent and try being their friend kandi seems to have enough friends her momma does not need to be something she already has she needs to be what she was called to be aka her momma and if she had made it clear boundary wise im sure this wouldnt have happened.
That was pretty sick. Total disrespect to all the guests. What a warped, perverted view of what people like. Get extensive therapy.
Yes Phaedra, I will agree that "Nudity is beautiful" but there was nothing beautiful about that freaky crap. That was not the right atmosphere and it was extremely perverted. The only thing I liked about that freak was the red box he was enclosed in...but you should have kept it closed.
Ok lets be real!!! I think it is a time and place for everything and for mama Joyce to be at the party on which none of her age level people where are out there is outragageous!!! My mama don't party with me so why should she. I think she just want her little tv time in that's all. And for kandi stop crying girl that is your mama not your homegirl. She needs to stay in her motherly roll and step back. I mean come on it was a party for kandi and not for the mother yes she should have respect for kandi mother but she should of said happy birthday and carry your butt home and play bridge with her friends shoot. I like phadra she is on point with everything she makes me laugh she is a go getter and I like that. NeNe keep doing you ma YOU ARE RICH BITCH!!!! Kim your baby is beautiful but your a hater and you need to trim some of that hair off your wig and Sharee you need to give it up you is a cock blocker and is jealous of everything anybody got to say or do.
Get over it ! Mama Joyce should not have been there period...dot. Mama Joyce seems to consume Kandi's life...at least on the show. She should have had a pre or post celebration for Kandi and let Kandi and the girls have a good night with out her. I like Mama Joyce, but you can not be a daughter's "Homegirl" and Mama at the same time. Draw the Kandi please....cut the umbilical cord. If not you all are going to be old spinsters together.
Kandi's Mom needs to stop partying with her daughter and her friends. I understand her wanting to spend Kandi's birthday with her but if she is going to hang with the crowd she needs to deal with what comes along with it. Kandi is an adult and her Mom needs to respect that!
Phadra had no business showing that stripper in front of Kandi's mother if she knew that she would be there (which I am sure she did). Phadra's mother would have been pissed as well (if not more so). Her mother is not better than Kandi's mother because she is a minister. Both mothers deserve equal respect. Other than that, whatever grown folks do is fine as long as they are not hurting someone.
Phadra should not do something in front of someone else's mother that she would not do in front of her own. She knew Kandi's mother would be there so she should have waited to give the gift at another time. If Phadra's mother saw that she would be just as pissed off (if not more) than Kandi's mother. Both mothers deserve equal respect. Phadra's mother isn't better than Kandi's because she is a minister. Other than that, let grown folks do what they want. Phadra is lucky that Kandi didn't cuss her out. If she did that in front of my mother she would have been for sure!
Everything Phaedra does is to drum up business and make her money. This was her way of showing her "client" to a larger audience...the Bravo viewers. Maybe he'll get some gigs...not at my parties but maybe there are women out there who enjoy a guys penis in their drink. I have to agree with the other comment. This guy is not good looking at all. All he's got is a penis that is basically unusable for what it was intended, so he might as well put on his freak show.
Is it just me? Why would any woman want to see a man perform a sex act on himself. Phakdra knew exactly what she was doing when she bought out that perverted performer. Everyone would be talking about it and her! I lived in Atlanta and Redickulous is pretty well know there so Kandi and everyone at the party was already familiar trust me when i tell you. He's been all over the internet for years doing this. I find it disgusting and disturbing ewww!
Just a thought, Would Phaedra allow Ridickul .. Lust.. perform in at an event that her reverend mother was attending? Since she stated that everyone should see his act.
first i feel that there is nothing wrong with a birthday suprise as "BIG" as this. lol but i agree with crisco, that this was not the right place or the time, i thing the party should have went on in the direction it was going then i too think that the girls who wanted to enjoy the show could have went off in private. i actually enjoyed the stripper even tho the ONLY thing he had going for him was his "gift" because his look was BUSTED!!!! guess God had to give him something.the only thing i really was disgusted by and im a scorpio and freeakyness and openness run in my life, i did not think putting his penis in Kandies glass was a turn me on, nor seeing him put his own gift in his own mouth, but at the same time it grosses me out to see a dog liking himself either, it just grossed me out and made me wonder if maybe he doesnt mind puttin other ppls business in his mouth either and that thought just erased all the excitment i had for how gifted he really was.
First of all Phadra's comment about Kandi's mother being on the other side of the room when the gift came out was STUPID!!! Kandi's mother came to celebrate her daughter's birthday, and no the party was not about her, it was done in poor taste and respect should have been given to Kandi's mother. I bet if the shoe were on the other foot and Kandi gave a penis sucking stripper in front of Phadra's mother(the pastor)...there would have been hell to pay. She would expect everyone to give her mother the utmost respect, and the same should have been given to Kandi's mother. She could have at least told Ms. Joyce what was going to happen and given her the opportunity to leave before her eyeballs were assaulted. I don't have a problem with strippers, but the venue was not even set up for that, and I can't think of many men who would want to be in the presence of a male stripper.
The Birthday party was for Kandi. The stripper was a SURPRISE gift to Kandi. If you don't like it don't look. The party was'nt about Kandi's mother and what she liked. And she was right to leave. And really those people were not her equal!
I liked redickulous he was something else. I wonder if I could give him to some of my friends as a gift? Oh what a surprise!!!!!!
okay so nudity is beautiful in the artistic since, but what that stripper did was absolutely disgusting. It's something that is hard to look away, that's probably why you think everyone should see that! I also think like a lot of people already mentioned, that there is a time and a place for that and not at a classy party.
This guy has gotten BIG TIME (no pun intended) publicity, I'm sure he will be FIVE TIMES as busy as he was before! And to answer the question, there was nothing wrong with her hiring him for Kandi or anyone else, it was just the WRONG venue and atmosphere! What he did should have been BEHIND CLOSED DOORS with an audience that was down for the freaky deakness of it all! I want to know if he ever gets tired of his "job" or talking about his "talent" and even if it affects his love life? And what's the next step for him, porn? I sure hope not.
Then him show his "beauty" in front of YOUR mother. She probably would love seeing him "enjoy" himself. You are not that stupid and neither are we.