When you hear a couple is in therapy, you automatically think "problems." Not necessarily. Here are some common themes couples try to sort out in therapy.
Issues With the Prenup
While the idea of getting a prenup is nothing new, a recent study shows that more millennials are getting considering the art of splitting their assets up legally, before marriage, part of their wedding to-do list.
“Couples are facing the need to have a prenuptial agreement before marriage because couples are marrying later and with more individual assets they want to protect,” said Mindy Utay, a LCSW and a former lawyer who changed careers to become a psychotherapist and certified psychoanalyst and mediator. “This is a difficult topic and many couples seek help to deal with the emotional reactions to facing a prenup negotiation and what it means for their relationship.”
Social Media Drama
Now more than ever, keeping secrets from your partner can become even harder to do thanks to a trace left on social media. Even if you didn’t have an affair, but simply found yourself getting a little too flirty with someone else online, a lot of offline drama can occur in your relationship.
“Couples have more access to each other's communications via Facebook, Instagram and other online platforms,” said Utay. “There is much temptation to look at a partner's device to see who they are communicating with or to view photos. This information may reveal things that cause distress and couples often come to therapy to discuss issues of trust and possible invasion of privacy, which can threaten their relationship.”
False Advertising of Relationships
Blame it on social media, rom-coms, or just trying to keep up with the Jones’ that surround you in life, but the idea of what a relationship should be like verse what it actually is, is so out of whack.
“The illusions precipitated media, movies and TV about romance do not match real relationships,” said Dr. Nancy Mramor, a psychotherapist, couples counselor, award-winning author and international speaker. “When couples realize their real relationships don't match what they have imagined from media exposure, they quickly want to find out why.”
So Many Parents
Today’s modern family looks a little differently than it did in the past. With divorce on the rise, parents are forced to face more of a reality with their ex partner, or partner, that co-parenting is something they’ll all have to agree on doing.
“Many couples are on their second or third marriage,” said Utay. “Dealing with children, ex-spouses and others relationships from a prior marriage is not easy and many couples come to therapy for help handling these relationship at the same time they are developing their own relationship.”
Couples are Falling in Love Online
While it might seem easier to find love these days with all the dating apps, websites, and online matchmakers constantly advertising to give them a shot at helping you find “the one”, figuring out a relationship path after meeting someone over the Internet may be tricky.
“While online relationships are often highly successful and lasting, the path to dating online is a different one and often both women and men need help to navigate the new way of matching up,” said Dr. Mramor.
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