Toya Bush-Harris

Toya doesn't understand why she has to defend her decision to be the Harris Household Manager.

on May 16

This episode definitely highlights the world on two opposite ends along the spectrum of my reality: that of what you see, and what really is. . .

As a wife, mother, and Harris family manager, you get a peek into what I "do." The life of a stay-at-home mother has a lot of benefits: I have the opportunity to be a classroom mother, which affords me the privilege of volunteering at my children's school; I get to be very hands on with raising my children (and experience the joys of potty training); I get to read with them, play with them, and really BE there for important moments, like Ashton's first starring role in his pre-school play. As a mother, I see that my children appreciate me -– every time my husband and/or I enter a room, the kids run to us, hug us. My boys really know how to make me smile. I am glad I have my family, and that I have made them a priority. As a black woman, I have made that choice.

Isn't that ironic? That in the 21st century, I have to defend my position to stay home with my children? Isn't that what the feminist movement was all about? The power to choose what you want, when you want it? How about we do a reset?

Name: Toya B. Harris
Occupation: Harris Household Manager
Hours of Operation: ALWAYS
Duties and Responsibilities: EVERYTHING

It's a lot easier to pass along the duties of child rearing to others. I choose to take care of my kids. Do I choose to "spend all my husband’s money?" NO, because it's our money. I am spending my share of our money. How about that?

Back to my "other" reality. . .

You also get to see that beauty comes at a price, and poor Aydin gets to see that it also comes with a certain pain threshold. Women were built to handle many levels of pain, and I think Aydin shows that we women definitely have a higher pain tolerance. Feel better Aydin. . .I hope it provides the refill your queen B needs for her honeypot. I'm sure your wife will put on her nurses hat for you, so you'll have a speedy recovery.