Courtney Kerr

Courtney explains the importance of timing in relationships.

on Oct 3, 20110

When it comes to making a relationship work, I think the most important factor is timing. If timing isn't on your side, then most likely the relationship is dead on arrival. Throughout this episode, timing is a reoccurring theme, and you see several of our relationships either fail, blossom, or get put on hold. 

Despite my strong opinions about flirting with ex territory, once I saw the love that Glenn and Rebecca share, it was hard not to root for them. They have something really genuine and special that many people search for their entire lives. But it makes me sad to see that their stars haven't completely aligned yet. Whether it be geography or careers, something is keeping them from pulling the trigger and going for it again. I know Glenn has said that she means more to him than any other woman he has ever met, but sometimes men aren't smart enough to realize that they could lose the love of their life while they kill time and make their minds up. But in the meantime, he has plenty of girls in bikinis and high heels to keep him company! (Don't even get me started on that pool party again!)

83 comments
Renee Elizabeth
Renee Elizabeth

Follow your heart on the Matt front. You only get one life, you might get hurt, but then you can say you tried and you'll probably have fun along the way. He obviously cares for you, and I think you can maintain any kind of relationship with him that you want (this IS the 21st century) but do keep your options open while you're waiting to find out what he's going to do. YOu may meet someone along they way, you may not, but a least you didn't put all your eggs in one basket. I think life should be lived a little "dangerously," follow your heart, allow yourself to be vulnerable, but do it smart. Like you would an investment portfolio: it's fine to take a little risk, hell a lot of risk, just make sure your investments are diversified. wink, wink! :) And most of all HAVE FUN GIRL!

nikkiv
nikkiv

Hey Court,

Where is your blog from the season finale! Please share your final thoughts!

DontSettle
DontSettle

Courtney,

I don't care if it is for a TV show or not, but please do not put yourself in the position to be Matt love interest again ever in your life. The guy just does not value you. If he can choose someone like Taylor Armstrong over you, well then you be the judge.

Susan B.
Susan B.

I must tell you that if I was still your age, I would want you as a friend. But I am 50 years young and the advice that I would give you, is actually what I did.

Start taking some chances, you only live once, and what you think that you want, might actually come in a better package!

Live and experience different types of people, do not categorize, you might miss your husband!

Good luck!

Disgusted in RI
Disgusted in RI

Courtney, you must be ( you have every reason to be) furious with Matt. How dare he wine and dine you, get your defenses down, finally really kiss you, then dump you for RHOBH's Taylor who has a kid!?!? WTF? "Are you for real?" DUMP him. He is not mature enough for you. Get a new BFF for your own good so you can stop pining for this jerk. You can do better!

Mississippi Girl
Mississippi Girl

I loved the finale....bout time ya'll showed each other how you feel! Girl, you gotta get over this "timing" thing....you gonna let Matt slip right out of your hands! Just go for it!

DJ Debi
DJ Debi

I am becoming a true fan of you, Courtney. I'm not going to lie, I wasn't totally sold on this show in the beginning but it didn't take long to get addicted to MED. Being a born and raised DFW girl, the pure curiosity of a Dallas show caught my interest. And you girl are my favorite! You've run into a bit of drama along the way but don't we all. That's what makes our lives so interesting. I'm diggin' the new thing between you and Matt but watch yourself. Men like him give assholes their title. And even though you two have more than what's on the surface, he's still a man who has enjoyed his sea of Dallas women. You are amazing and deserve a man who will treat you right. I hope it works out though. It takes a good tough woman to change a guy like him but you are probably the one to do it. I've loved watching you on the show and getting to know your personality. You are beautiful, funny, honest and just plain FABULOUS! Can't wait until next season! You rock babe!

Washington DC viewer
Washington DC viewer

Courtney: Love the last episode with you and Matt going away. The kissing scenes were HOT!!! You & Matt reminds me of my relationship with my now husband. We were friends for a while, then progress to kisses, and finally marriage. We have been together for 23 years -- married for 21 yrs. Matt doesn't get the picture yet though. Personally I think he compares every women he meets to you to see how they measure up against you. I am torn between telling you to get on with your life & search for Mr. Right or hitting Matt upside the head with a frying pan kind of like a reality check! You & Matt have that type of relationship that his parents have & that he is looking for. Men sometimes need to have something gone for a while before they realize what they are missing. Maybe you need to make yourself seriously unavailable for a while for Matt to get a reality check. As far as Taylor Armstrong issue --- I don't see how he could go from you to Taylor. You are two totally different women ---- like night and day different. Unless Matt is a real PLAYEERRR, I just don't see it. Good Luck!!

Jackie E.
Jackie E.

Courtney, I love that you and Matt have a special relationship, but I don't think he is no where near marrying material right now. Be his close friend but don't sit around waiting for him. You will wake up one day and be 40, and you will wonder where did time go? You are too cute and pretty not to be out there having a date every night.

Jamie123
Jamie123

Courtney, LISTEN CAREFULLY, you will never marry or have a family as long as you stay "friends" with Matt. Remove yourself from his life COMPLETELY and start anew. You're attractive, smart and funny. Get an agent - you could probably land a TV or radio gig. I know you love Dallas - but it's time to spread your wings and get away from that man that is holding you down.

Mocatina
Mocatina

Courtney…. Courtney…. Courtney, girl you are killing me and majority of the female population. I know how much you care about Matt but listen here “HE WILL NEVER LOVE YOU THE WAY A WOMAN DESERVES TO BE LOVED!!” You are wasting your precious years on man who is not okay with himself and will probably never marry you. STOP WAITING!! Move on and find a man who actually meets your list of qualifications. Last night on Andi Cohen, it was sad to see you show such affection and it not be reciprocated by Matt. We have all been in that place and the end is always the same, they don’t want you until you are unavailable to them. Once you are available they no longer want you, he has proved this many times and sadly you keep going back. You seem like you are a great person but your lack of confidence and infatuation with Matt are holding you back from finding the man who will want to spend the rest of his life with you. Stop acting like a child and act like the grown woman we all know you are, if you had a friend in your situation you would tell her to move on as you did with Tara and Jody, take your own advice. I am sorry and I know how bad this hurts but it will only get worse and in the end it will destroy your friendship. People are not able to be friends with someone they love and watch them with other people, jealousy makes monsters out of us and it is already apparent you have reached this stage. You are a beautiful woman and you have great potential, don’t mess it up because Matt is a moron and doesn’t know a good thing when it is standing in front of him. However, if you continue to allow Matt to walk all over you and use you for his benefit then you have no one to blame but yourself when you are home alone crying over him and he is out screwing another one of his flings.

FYI….. I wrote on Matt’s blog, too. You both needed a good verbal lashing.

Jacque Schwend
Jacque Schwend

Courtney, the time is right. It is obvious that you and Matt are perfect for each other. Sometimes, men need a push in the right direction. Matt needs to make up his mind. Either propose to you or let you go. Don't worry about a ruined friendship. Once you both marry others, you will no longer be the friends you now are. Your paths will go in different directions. If this friendship is more important to you than letting Matt know how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same for you, cut it off now or your dream for a husband and children will never come to pass. If all that Matt said about his feelings for you are the truth, he will not want to loose you. If he is lying, he is not worthy of you. Either way, your clock is ticking. If Matt loves you, he will propose to you. If he doesn't, leave that group and go off on your own with your girlfriends. As long as you are with Matt, no one will ask you out when they see how much the two of you feel for each other. All they have to do is watch the program and you'll be history to serious contenders. I wish you the best. You are a lovely girl.

Nia&Mya's Mom
Nia&Mya's Mom

I think you should be careful with Matt. I really think he was just curious to see what it would be like if you guys were to kiss. Clearly he's not ready to settle down. However it was good to see on WWHL that you guys did not ruin your friendship. I honestly believe a relationship between you and Matt will not work at this time because he is not ready;maybe in the future.

serenafarinalovescourtk
serenafarinalovescourtk

First of all I want you to give my wardrobe a make-over. i am in love with your style and your hair! what you and matt have is special regardless of what happens. i however do believe that one day he will just propose to you without you 2 ever dating. he wants what his parents have and thats exactly what you guys have. let him get his girl crazy ways out of his system now!

Concerned but Hopeful
Concerned but Hopeful

This is the first show I have ever blogged about. You are fantastic, but you and Matt need to have an in-depth talk. Why would you say you're going to be in his life forever? You are giving him all the rope he needs to do whatever he wants without any pressure. It's like a teacher in school telling kids to read the book but telling them there won't be a test on the material. Pressure makes people learn, grow, and think differently (and sometimes make different choices/take different actions)! Remember when you/Tara/your mom were discussing Tara's dating/relationship rules? Here's a suggested rule for your relationship with Matt: No kissing (or sex) if you're in the "friend zone" (or even worse, the "bone zone"). I was totally shocked that you are not dating...your story was starting to look like a real-life Notebook (one of my favorite romance movies, too). I was excited to watch the finale. But now I am totally turned off on this show and probably won't watch another season (if one exists) because of the way Bravo/Matt led you/the viewers on. The ending/after show did make me feel VERY thankful that I'm not in the dating world now. I feel for you, girl! You can't really think your relationship is the same or better after your kissing/romantic explorations with Matt (whatever those experiences involved). You are at the point of no return. You can't ignore what happened! Your relationship IS different (even if neither of you want to admit it). Right now it appears more tense/strained. Don't settle by waiting for Matt. Take charge of your life, decide what you want, and tell Matt what you need/would like from him. If he's not willing to give you what you need, move on. But he is not going to change without an incentive. You are showing him how to treat you, as Dr. Maya Angelou (and her mentee, Oprah) has said on many occasions. And right now, that means you think it's OK to be put on hold, to be possibly given false hope, and to be not worthy of a formal "date." Get your friends to find other dates, take Glenn up on his offers of possible dates with his friends, try everyone that looks reasonable. Reconnect with Mark or other missed opportunities (that's how I found my husband many years ago). One of these possibilities will eventually be right for you. You'll be a great catch to some man who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve. But you'll never be open to him with your heart and hopes with Matt. If you and Matt don't end up romantically involved ever again, you'll eventually have other best friends when one/both of you are in a committed relationship with someone else. It'll probably happen to both of you, and I think it would hurt you so much to see him with someone else (my heart breaks for you just thinking about it)! Don't be on the sidelines waiting for Matt, make your future happen NOW! I am rooting for your happiness, Courtney (team Courtney; I love Neill, too...but you're my favorite!). Do what makes you truly happy (not focused on finding a soul mate, but enjoying life), and tell Matt how he could fit into your life if he wants to (so you can both decide where to go from here). And tell us when you find your special someone (I hope sooner rather than later)!

nicbit
nicbit

hes clueless!! ur great dont let him drag u along u tell tara she can do better, maybe u could to-is he worth waiting for??? he seems like he could be a good one!!! idk this will be a hard one for u

southtexas
southtexas

I hate to say it, but Matt is the type that will all ways looking around the corner for a better girl..... I know it hurts to let him go... but you need to.

Once you let him go a much better man will come around, stop comparing guys to Matt, He is not the best thing on earth.............

anoy
anoy

Did anyome ever told you,.. You look like Paula on the real road on mtv?

quinella
quinella

Dear Courtney,

I like you, think your classy and stylish. You seem to be a good friend. I don't like the way you treated Neill but I understand you felt threatened by her. I get that, but you looked really bad and insecure. I was REALLY let down by tonight's episode, OMG can we say teaser???!!! I thought for sure you two would hook up and be a couple. I cannot believe that you guys didn't make a go of it. I think you have been hanging on, trying to play hard to get with Matt and it has gotten you nowhere. You have to move on, he is a player and you will never get him to settle down with you. You need to find a man who has the same dreams as you, you want kids, and you need to get started ASAP otherwise it wont happen, you need time to meet the man, get to know him, get him to marry you, and then time to get pregnant, these things take time. So move on from Matt and start thinking about Courtney, Matt is thinking about Matt...not Courtney...I can see right through him...if he loved you, he would ask you to marry him and start a family immediately because your 30. He knows that he is passing up a life with you, he made his choice. Don't be a fool. Quite flirting with him etc, guys wont give you the time of day if they think you have a thing for Matt and it doesn't matter what comes out of your mouth, the camera footage speaks for itself, your madly in love with Matt, that is no joke....let it go or your dreams will fade and you will be 40 with no kids and no husband.

kim hickman
kim hickman

Courtney, It was such a happy and wonderful moment when you and Matt kissed it brought back that feeling of such wonderful happy loving bliss that you feel with a man. I have only had that feeling once with a man and sadly he died many years ago. But tonight it was great to see it for you and matt.

Lang
Lang

Hang in there, he'll get a clue. I waited for over two years for mine to get a clue. We were best friends too and still are 16 years later. We've been married for over 11 years and nothing beats being hitched to the right cart to take the journey of life with :)

DKRC
DKRC

you don't have to explain your relationship with matt. whatever it is, it's rare and very special. labeled or not, ya'll are there for each other, no matter what. and that's something i wish everyone could find. whether you want to be friends... bf/gf... or whatever... doesn't matter. you will always treat each other right. i hope you and matt will always cherish each other as much as you do now. :)

Texsungrl
Texsungrl

WOOO! I am from the BIG D myself, born in Ft Worth, lived in Dallas and love it, love TX but currently living in DC. I was positive I was going to HATE this show...hated the previews and the concept....it looked pretentious and annoying. However...you and Tara won me over! Y'all are awesome and made me homesick for my TX girlfriends and our humor. Thank you for showing the world that TX is not just a bunch of hicks, rednecks, and $#*!kickers! You guys showed fun, fashion, friendship and diversity...maybe a tad pretentious...but hey...that IS Dallas, after all! Loved it!

Heather Smith
Heather Smith

Just watched the finale....loved loved loved you and Matt. Then saw the after show-don't ever give him a second chance!!! He blew it!!! And I sure hope he didn't make out with Taylor Armstrong---GROSS GROSS GROSS!!!

Jane Gold
Jane Gold

Matt is just using you to keep you on the backburner... In 5-10 years he will meet a 23 year old and you'll be itching toward 40! You dont want to be single, 35, and at his wedding! You'll never be able to move on with someone else until you get Matt out of your life completely. I was in the same situation once and the guy always said/did enough just to keep me believing "some day" things could work out. I finally got rid of him as I was nearing my 31st birthday and three months later met the man of my dreams!!!! I never would have let that guy in had I still been in that other place with "my Matt."

MKgil
MKgil

YOU ARE AMAZING! I love everything about you! Seriously, your hook up with Matt was really hot... and I was so excited for you!

Georgia Fontenot
Georgia Fontenot

Matt you and Courtney are made for each other.Put a ring on that girls finger before someone else does.Remeber what your mother told you she is married to her best friend.By the way if you two get hitched I want a invite.Best of luck to you both.Love Georgia Fontenot in Magnolia texas

jenkn
jenkn

I was wondering where you got your gold "c " necklace. I love it, and I want to get one with my daughter's initial. Thanks!

vinoqueen
vinoqueen

I just love you! your hair, you fashion, your sense of humor, your love of wine :) You and Matt are perfect-go get him! the African dude? not so much.

Monica mom of 3
Monica mom of 3

Ok woman, I am really loving the show and I get you totally! I am a southern peach myself, so I agree whole heartly about tact, timing and taste. Honey, it is your time. Don't let that hunky man Matt go!!!! He is yours! If I ever seen two people made for each other, it is you and Matt. It will break my heart if you two pass on each other. The love that both of you share for each other does not come around often, and you got to take what God surely is putting in front of you. I don't know either one of you, but I don't need to know you to know that you both love each other. Good luck and I really look forward to watching you both grow as a couple!

Chilli
Chilli

I hope to God you don't end up with Matt because he is a total douche. He may be what is considered good looking in Texas, but the rest of the world sees him as a moderately attractive guy who is a real loser. He is so full of himself, it's embarrassing to watch. And it certainly didn't seem as if he was 'leading Neill on' or that she was too heartbroken. She was obviously having a good time and didn't seem to care one way or another-if anything, Matt seemed a lot more hooked! You are a sweet girl, but their is A LOT more to life than finding a man. And if that is truly your goal-living a fulfilling life is an attractive way to meet someone.

Shiran
Shiran

COURTNEY, YOU ARE THE BOMB DIGGITY. MY FAV!

Truly101
Truly101

Don't fall for it. Matt was jealous and felt like he needed to make a move because you had someone else. Even though you lost me a few episodes ago it still sucks to see a train wreck in the making. Take Matt for what he is, just don't get your heart involved.

Tiff in Knox
Tiff in Knox

Courtney-- It is absolutely no exaggeration when I say that I turned my TV on the other day....and started watching the MED marathon and within a few minutes of you being on the screen I thought to myself "holy hell, who is this woman and why is she saying EVERY SINGLE THING I'VE EVER THOUGHT IN MY LIFE?". I totally get, and totally love your dry, sarcastic, relentless sense of humor. Love that you fight hard for the people you love (without apology). Love your hilarious rants. You and your cast mates are wonderful....

Keep it real, I know you will!!

bike20
bike20

Courtney,

You had me laughing so hard about the High Heel's w/Bikini's!! I use to own a really nice Boat, one day we were sitting in the sun & our boat was tied up to a couple of friend's boat's. I happened to turn my head to look at the Boat's and I see this girl w/5" High Heel's, walking on the back of everyone's boat. The back of mine was leather. I told the group can you believe this bimbo! As I got up to leave & tell her she better not step on the back of my boat with those heel's, my husband tried to catch me, but I was like the wind. Our friend's told him , she is way to fast for you. I yelled " Hey , You - She said " Who me? " in this childish voice ,and I said yes, I said " do not even think of stepping on the back of my boat, it is made of Leather. " She said it is easier to get to her boyfriend's boat. I said never mind the fact that you do not wear 5" heel's on a boat, if you step on mine , you better be able to swim, because all that make-up ( another No , No when on a boat ) because you will be in the WATER - if you do not believe me, ask Dan ( good friend on his boat on the next row laughing ) ! He said " She is not kidding, I would not do it if I were you ? " She did not but , believe me when I say she would have been in the " WATER", WHO WEAR'S HEEL'S ON A BOAT, IT WAS NOT A YACHT!! ANYWAY'S , YOU MADE ME LAUGH SO HARD !! THANK YOU FOR THE LAUGH I NEEDED IT.

A.L.
A.L.

It is so refreshing to see Bravo have a show that isn't mainlining drama. I love getting to know all of you. You are real and funny and sweet. You have inspired me in more ways than I care to admit. I believe you and Matt are soulmates.... the walls have to come down for you two to be together. I'm hoping that is what happened on your little trip. I can't wait to watch. Be sensitive to Drew, he is used to not fitting in from what he says and seems very sensitive.... Love sent from Houston.

cathy p
cathy p

You ought to get Donna from Dallas to redecorate your bedroom. She is Chic and over the top elegant/sexy. Your Courtney name spelled out in childish wooden letters and undersized bed make you look like a little girl, not the strong, confident woman that you are! And, you are obviously just biding your time, hoping that your best bud will become your best man (forever).

Lisa Scott
Lisa Scott

Courtney, You are any man dream woman ... Where do I begin?

First, I love your views on a lot of things. You are a very discipline girl. You won me over immediately when I saw you go on a date with Glen and yet you refused intimacy. Unlike other reality show participants who will do anything to be famous, I have never seen you on the show going out with a lot of man.. I can safely assume here that even the Mark (South African) date was not easy for you to accept. Your friends most have really talk you into it.

I don't know whether you and Matt are a couple now, but just from a viewer perspective (I am now thinking about your phrase perception is reality) I can see that you truly love him. Some emotions that came from you (eg: bowing of your head instantly when he was Neill) did betray your true feelings for Matt.

I will go ahead here and tell you that please do not waste your time if you realise that Matt is not ready. You are really a woman of virtue. Don't ever change that.

alaskagirl
alaskagirl

You seriously need to get over Matt. He's not that great, and he's super annoying and walks funny. I see you more with a tall dark handsome real man, like a younger George Clooney or something. I almost wish Daylon wasn't gay bc you two would look perfect together! BTW I loved what you said about bikinis and the stupid high heels.

xoxoxo
xoxoxo

Im sure Courtney will split up with Matt right away.

ConcernedCourtney Fan
ConcernedCourtney Fan

Courtney,

I was really believing in romance when I saw you and Matt together in your show. I was however surprise this morning when I was going through the web to see a picture of Matt with Taylor Armstrong (Oh Cynthia). This is a red flag.

Are you sure that Matt is ready to settle down? Courtney, please do not second guess yourself. You are one of the most beautiful women walking on planet earth. Viewers are in love with you because of your honesty. You are not afraid to let the viewers know that you are from a blue color background ( A lot of your fans see themselves in you). Just looking from across my TV screen I am always happy to see you because of all of the qualities you possess.

You are now a role model for many across America. You can get any man you want (believe me, you have the looks and the wit). Please do not settle for someone second best. You owe that to yourself. I really do love you.

hopeless romantic
hopeless romantic

Courtney, just open up about your true feelings concerning Matt. I know there is some deep love for this guy and it scares you. If you keep hiding behind this we're just friends act, you will regret it. Trust me I know. Go big or go home!

AHTXGAL
AHTXGAL

Courtney,

You are So Texas! Finally, Tara and you are showing the rest of the world what a real Texas Lady is really like and that we arent a bunch of backwoods country hicks(ie...Urban Cowboy) who marry our cousins. You aren't afraid(We Texans do not scare easily) to call things like you see them, which is very refreshing, although the rest of the world may not always understand it or may perceive it as something else, it is what it is! Enjoy the show! Best of luck!

R.L.
R.L.

You're a funny girl and the high heels and bikini comment were so true. Obviously you and "Matty" are meant to be; however, shame on your for mocking Neil's little man.

R.L.
R.L.

You're a funny girl, the heels and bikini comment were right on! Obviously you and Matt are meant to be; however, shame on your for mocking Neil's little man.

Kbh
Kbh

Let Matt work for you. Be the lady you are. Your new boyfriend is what drove Matt nuts. Bravo!!!

@ashleyknight10
@ashleyknight10

Courtney,

You are absolutely an inspiring, beautiful, painfully honest, energetic, out-going, girls kinda girl, funny, fashionable, etc. etc. etc. I watch just about every Bravo show and you are my favorite reality tv personality EVER!!! You say exactly what every other girls wonders or thinks about especially when it comes to dating, outfits and life challenges. Any girl or guy that has you on their side is extremely lucky. You care so much and are so passionate about your friends and family - that was oblivious the first episode.

P.S. - I'm rooting for you and Matt ;-)

HeatherMorgan
HeatherMorgan

So I had a best friend, who I never told him how I felt and definitely had several chances to! He was everything to me, and now I basically pushed him into the girl that was never good for him, I do still care about him, but because this girl was so nuts when we moved away from each other she made Sure that he would stop talking to me, so never give up the chance to say whats on your mind, you Will regret it! Life will go on, but yu can't live on what ifs! So I am rooting for Courtney and Matt! They are meant to be!

Morgan A.
Morgan A.

Courtney, You are a lovely person both inside and out. You may have your failings, but at least you're honest and sincere. It's refreshing to see adults resolve their conflicts with others with maturity (Bravo doesn't need more drama queens). It's obvious you live your life with a strong set of beliefs and values.

I thought your comment of how your bathing suit cover up bought you a wedge was hilarious. I don't understand why anybody would wear high heeled pumps with a bikini either. Such a fashion "don't".

You wear your heart on your sleeve with regard to Matt and I hope there's a happy ending with you two. Otherwise, I'm going to be very disappointed!

edithzarzanance
edithzarzanance

Hi Courtney! I was wondering if you can tell me the brand name of your black wedges that look strappyish. You wore them to get your lashes done. Also, where did you get the dress that you wore to Matts event?

love both items and you are gorge.

Thank you Edith