Neill Skylar

Neill compares being attacked by a Southern belle to taking some hair spray in the face.

on Aug 15, 2011

So when Courtney blurted out some of those not-so-nice things within the first few minutes I met her, she left me stunned like a deer in headlights.  She asked why was I out having dinner and not with my son with a snide look as if it was bad parenting. I was a bit stunned, because I’m with him most of the time.  And nights out are few and far between! So it kind of hurt like a bee sting.  Or maybe a big cat attack and scratch. Rawr! Yikes. 

However, after the shock, I decided not to take it to personally. You see there is no way she can understand what it’s like to be a single mother balancing a full-time career. As a responsible parent you do your best to be there as much as you possibly can for your child. But it’s a challenge when you are also single and trying to balance a full time career.  I don’t have time like Courtney or other girls without kids to sleep in, shop, go out with friends, and even date! I have to schedule everything in. On top of that…I’m only twenty-three. I do want to do that stuff sometimes. And that’s hard enough to do as it is. So come on! Give a girl a little break. I’m pretty sure I lead a harder, more sleep deprived, busier life than most. And despite that, guess what? I wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s also the most rewarding, life changing, beautiful blessing I’ve ever experienced. I see things differently now. I’m more aware. I am not focused all on myself anymore and I have more compassion for other hardworking people trying to balance kids and life.