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No Offense, But You'll Probably Forget About Your New Year's Resolutions in About a Month

You'll try, oh you'll try hard.

Save some money, go to the gym, yeah yeah. We get it. Your intentions are good, but in all honesty, most people’s resolutions for the new year fail by February.

According to U.S. News, 80 percent of resolutions fail by the second week of February, in fact. The gym memberships sit unused, the cash is out the window.

If you do find yourself slipping after promising yourself you'd change this time for real, remember this point USN makes.

"It's important to recognize that outside-in solutions such as dieting, joining gyms and so on are doomed to fail if, other than your well-intentioned resolve to change, you've done nothing to enhance your capacity to either sustain motivation or handle the inevitable stress and discomfort involved in change. Saying this differently: Unless you first change your mind, don't expect your health goals to materialize. As the saying goes, it's not the horse that draws the cart, it's the oats. It's not the gym, Pilates class or diet that will change you — it's your mind."

They advise the following:

Begin with small steps. “Take a look at the habits that are holding you back in life … Throughout the day, find simple challenges that you make happen.”

Understand that “what I say to myself is what I do.” “Don't challenge yourself with a pledge that you're not sure you can handle. If, for example, you're not sure you'll stick with going to the gym five times a week, then don't promise yourself. Better to do the best you can than to fall short and wind up jeopardizing your growing capacity for believing in yourself.”

Try not to procrastinate in completing your small challenges.

Try to focus on what you have done. And focus on who you are. “With awareness, you shed light on your destructive, reflexive habits and thinking and on any self-sabotaging mind games at play. When it comes to self-sabotage, mindless capitulation to destructive impulses is your number one enemy.”

As for resolutions, the top ones are exactly what you think.

According to data from Nielsen analytics firm, the number one promise people made to themselves was to lose weight. Next was finding true love, and third was saving money.

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