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My experience began in April, when I sent Patti a video of myself begging her to help me find the "ONE." I explained that I've dated for years and now am ready to settle down and start a family. Patti agreed to meet with me, and man was she MEAN. At our first meeting she proceeded to yell at me and abuse me in my own home. She explained a few things that she thought I was doing wrong, and I have since taken her advice by "qualifying the chick."
Next was my big mixer at the beautiful Water's Edge. Traditionally mixers consist of two guys and a group of women. In my case however, Patti decided that she wanted to mix it up a bit and paired me up with a millionairess, Bryce. Patti thought it would be a good idea for Bryce and I to begin a friendship. I'm assuming because we are both single web developers with similar interests in NYC.
When Bryce and I met, my first impression was that she was a very serious person. I however am the complete opposite. We spoke on camera for a while and I didn't even think that she was someone that I would remain friends with beyond this experience. Happily, I was wrong and Bryce and I have remained friends! Surprisingly, once you get to know her, she lowers her guard and is fun. Not like jump up and down fun -- but fun in a quieter sort of way. After meeting Bryce I was introduced to a group of beautiful women who were all eager to talk about dating and the future. For a second it was overwhelming because Bryce and her group were right next to me, but once we separated it was smooth sailing. My dream had come true, me in a room with fifteen beautiful women. These women actually were there to meet me. So that part of it is very humbling. I talked with all of the girls in a group and then in smaller groups of two or three that Patti would bring over. Eventually I had to choose two girls for my "mini-dates" and then ultimately one girl for my "big date."
Andreea is who I choose after Colby for my second mini-date, but I was told that she was unavailable. So I then picked Kristen. After spending time with both Colby and Kristen on my mini-dates, I decided that I felt much more comfortable with Colby and that the conversation was much more natural between the two of us. Oh, and she is smoking hot.
Derek I thought you were really cool... I believe you're looking for a fun, sexy, intellegent woman. You just think the qualities are confined to young women. Therefore you're attracted to them first. But the other thing you love is family, a wife and for the fun to continue. I think if you will allow yourself to look for those qualities in older fun sassy 51 year old(smile) you'll find that you'll be successful in finding a mate.
Loved the date you planned! was a little long for the first date I have to agree with Patti....
Really enjoyed watching you, I wish you good luck on finding your true love!!
Derek, You seem like a nice guy, but you don't seem ready for marriage. You can forget Bryce - you would have to explain her behavior to everyone for the rest of your life. Colby is young and still playing around - she's all for having fun, not settling down with a family and your brothers and male friends would probably be checking her out all the time. Patti's assistant seems to be another Colby - just looking for fun and someone to pay for it. She wasn't resposible enough to act professional in her job and Patti probably hired her to create drama on the show anyway. Please give Kristen a try - although she is more mature, a mini-date doesn't couldn't possibly give you an accurate view of who someone really is. You need someone who has life experiences in common with your life experiences and someone who can be your friend first and lover second.
Derek you were great!! Except you should have chosen Kristen. I could be wrong but I bet it was her hair that turned you off, put Colby's hair on Kristen and Kristen would look 10 years younger and be much more attractive than Colby.
In the interview Patti didn't like what Kristen was wearing. It seems Kristen is a great gal and the total package. Give Kristen an updated wardrobe and a new hairstyle and she would be a perfect TEN!!!
Kristen is a rose among thorns. Take a good guy like Derek, Stylish, down to earth, easy going and FUN would be the perfect guy to get Kristen to loosen up. You can see she is fun but her conservative look is there to scare off the ''Hunters" and catch a good man with morals. She needs a dash of spice and the right guy to make her feel sexxy and confident then LET THE SPARKS FLY!
Thought were a great guy. You remind me of one of my best buds from an old job. Definitely see the appeal of Colby and thought she was great, but drinking seemed like the only thing you had in common. Not necessarily a bad thing, but not the way a long term relationship gets built.
Andreea is the hottest girl I've seen on this show ever...style, smarts, looks...Patti should take notes...that's what NYC guys are looking for.
I could not disagree more with the above comments. Colby was way hotter and had way more spunk than Kristen. Kristen sounded like a car salesman who was trying to impress you the entire time, while Colby was genuine. Even though Colby is younger than you, the show made it clear she is a great catch for someone who is more age-appropriate.
With all of this said, I don't think you made the "wrong decision". There are plenty of women out there, who have the qualities that you are seeking but might be better suited for you in terms of age. Kristen was not a good match for you, I could just not see that happening! You need a girl with spice! Colby was a sexy and cool girl, I liked your pick.
Best of luck on your search!