Cast Blog: #RHOA

"Gone with the Wind Fabulous" Explained

Kenya shares her thoughts on the fight and gives some background on her comment.

MY LOVE LIFE

I moved to Atlanta around February, for one, hoping to rekindle the relationship I had with Walter. He was still single, said he wanted to have more children, said he could see me as his wife and wanted the same things I did. I moved forward hoping that I could have everything with him. When the RHOA came along in April, he couldn’t have been happier for me and said he didn’t mind our relationship being followed on TV. He intimated to me that he wanted to be married to me and that it would happen soon. I’m always talking about it on the show because he made it seem imminent. It was an exciting time for me.

NeNe is a good judge of character, which is why we are friends. I think she saw something that I didn’t see or didn’t want to see when we were in Anguilla.

MOVING FORWARD AND BEYOND

I was sweet and kind to all the women on this trip. I was trying to get to a better place and bond with them and move on. ALL of the women acknowledged that my behavior was positive toward them. But when someone has it out for you, they want to have a problem with you, so they will make one. Clearly, I was trying to avoid conflict until the condescending and nasty insults started being spewed at me like: “I’m a nonfactor, I’m old, etc.” I admit, I made some mistakes being too “wild” on the trip, but certainly steered clear of confrontation with the ladies. Being called old by someone only 10 years younger than you is just trite. But, some names are an abomination and one should never call a woman, especially one that you barely know. My flirting and silly nonsense on vacation doesn’t warrant being called a whore. This was way below the belt. This was unforgivable.

“NO ONE PUTS BABY IN THE CORNER”

Being called old is the last dirty word you can call a woman. The fact is, if we are lucky we will all age graciously with wisdom, grace, and dignity. If we are blessed, life is about seeing our children grow and their children grow to live a long, happy life full of love. Life is precious. After seeing the senseless Connecticut massacre this week, it makes this sentiment all the more precious. Life is never promised to us. My heartfelt condolences go out to the families who lost their angels.

I’M GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS

When an insecure woman is jealous, immature, spiteful, and/or ignorant, they will always try to tear an accomplished, beautiful woman down in order to feel better about their own lack of success. However, one cannot rewrite history. My legacy is untouchable, and I’m most proud of my professional achievements and accomplishments I have been able to bequeath despite the odds.

With that said, there have been many women whom I admire, respect, and marvel at their inner strength and beauty from the past that have provided inspiration for me as a young girl studying history and the arts. Knowledge is truly power. Without these bold, brave trailblazers, there would be no past, present, or future for generations to come. In 1939 (73 years ago) Hattie McDaniel was the first Black woman to win an Academy Award for her performance in Gone With The Wind. Ms. McDaniel played a loyal maid in a time where roles for women of color were few and far between. Hattie was widely criticized for playing a maid, but without her inner strength, it’s unclear what our legacy as a people would be now. Certainly, she has enriched my life. Her incredible feat defied racism, hatred, segregation and civil uncertainty and unrest.

In my eyes, Hattie McDaniel is a “shero.” She is the sole reason that Halle Berry, Whoopi Goldberg, Mo’nique, and Octavia Spencer, etc. (all Oscar recipients) can proudly wear their crowns of being legendary and fabulous Black women of film. I appreciate all the incredible women I have to admire and aspire to be like. I will strive to recover from my many missteps and win my fans over again despite the people who laugh when I stumble instead of offering me a hand.  I hope that I can find a man who loves me for me. But in the meantime, I’ll continue to be strong and humble and not let anyone steal my shine in order to gain fame off my misfortunes.

I’m Kenya Moore. I’m 41 and fabulous! My age, race, religion, social economic standing, and marital status are not indicators of my past, present, or future as I too can defy the odds just like Hattie. I am bold. I am humble. I am strong. I am complicated. I am complex. I am vulnerable. I am resilient. I am good. I am honest --That’s what makes me fabulous.I will forever be GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS. And I hope I can inspire others to be Gone With The Wind fabulous too at any age.

“We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” -Marianne Williamson

Claudia: NeNe Turned Up, Not Me

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the tense moment with NeNe Leakes.

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Cynthia's acting in Kenya's pilot?
Claudia Jordan: I thought Cynthia did a great job and was very funny and believable. It was an over-the-top character, and Cynthia committed and gave 100%. I thought she came off really cute! I told her that she should continue pursuing a career in acting.

Bravotv.com: Was the vibe still positive between everyone at Phaedra's event?
CJ: Yes, the vibe was still good between all of us that went on the trip. I was pleasantly surprised that we were all able to be around each other, be civil, and greet each other and not be rude or nasty. I didn't know what our duties would be when I agreed to attend the event -- all I knew was that we made progress on the trip to the Philippines and there was no reason for me not to go and support. So when we arrived and were told we were just going to be in the kitchen making plates, I put on my apron and got to work.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind after the confrontation with NeNe?
CJ: I didn't feel I was out of line at all! I was not loud and no one heard me in the audience at the event. I kept a calm, cool tone. I was standing next to NeNe in the kitchen making plates, and I certainly wasn't going to ignore the woman for the entire time while we're supposed to be working together. So I started making small talk. And it started off fine, I asked how her health was and told her that it was too bad she couldn't make the trip because of her blood clots. Then I said we hadn't seen her since the Dr. Jeff session that she put together, and she started insulting me and Cynthia, while never once making eye contact or acknowledging Cynthia, which was very rude. Then she started talking at us, not to us, and raising her voice to the point where she could be heard in the other room. She turned up at the event, not me. So when she threw out the false statement that we had said very rude things about her (or something like that), I wanted to know what she was talking about, because it just wasn't true, and one thing I hate is being lied about. If you are going to throw that out there, you better have examples. I found it funny and ironic that this woman was standing there lying about me without taking any responsibility for anything that she has said about everyone else. My thing is this -- we all have been shady, but do not act like you are such a victim of everyone else's shade when you keep on doing it over and over again -- then you wonder why folks don't accept your apologies…


I started off saying hello, being kind, smiling, making eye contact, and attempting to work together. I thought there was nothing wrong with my tone. When NeNe made comments about "taking it to the streets," I was surprised. What has really transpired between us to get to this point? All I did was expect an answer to a question, and now someone wants to fight? Girl, bye! We are both over 40 and we will not be jeopardizing anyone's delicate hip bones with a street fight!
Although it was a step backwards with NeNe, I'm still happy with how everyone else at this point was still being cordial and doing their part to keep as much of the group on good terms as possible. When NeNe exited we finished the event in good spirits. I explained to Phaedra and Porsha what had happened between me and NeNe, they didn't hold it against me, we went back to serving the men at the event nice warm meals, and we laughed and took pictures together. So no one was mad that day. Just saying...

I just wanted to add that one of the benefits of being part of #RHOA has been making new friendships and doing business with other successful women. This weekend I was honored to work with Kandi Burruss on her Women's Empowerment MasterClass. She asked me to moderate, and I was happy to do it. The panel discussions were amazing, and it was such a positive and powerful event. Kandi truly is an example of a woman that empowers, employs, and uplifts other women, and I appreciate her for it! Good job!

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