Cast Blog: #RHOA

"Gone with the Wind Fabulous" Explained

Kenya shares her thoughts on the fight and gives some background on her comment.

MY LOVE LIFE

I moved to Atlanta around February, for one, hoping to rekindle the relationship I had with Walter. He was still single, said he wanted to have more children, said he could see me as his wife and wanted the same things I did. I moved forward hoping that I could have everything with him. When the RHOA came along in April, he couldn’t have been happier for me and said he didn’t mind our relationship being followed on TV. He intimated to me that he wanted to be married to me and that it would happen soon. I’m always talking about it on the show because he made it seem imminent. It was an exciting time for me.

NeNe is a good judge of character, which is why we are friends. I think she saw something that I didn’t see or didn’t want to see when we were in Anguilla.

MOVING FORWARD AND BEYOND

I was sweet and kind to all the women on this trip. I was trying to get to a better place and bond with them and move on. ALL of the women acknowledged that my behavior was positive toward them. But when someone has it out for you, they want to have a problem with you, so they will make one. Clearly, I was trying to avoid conflict until the condescending and nasty insults started being spewed at me like: “I’m a nonfactor, I’m old, etc.” I admit, I made some mistakes being too “wild” on the trip, but certainly steered clear of confrontation with the ladies. Being called old by someone only 10 years younger than you is just trite. But, some names are an abomination and one should never call a woman, especially one that you barely know. My flirting and silly nonsense on vacation doesn’t warrant being called a whore. This was way below the belt. This was unforgivable.

“NO ONE PUTS BABY IN THE CORNER”

Being called old is the last dirty word you can call a woman. The fact is, if we are lucky we will all age graciously with wisdom, grace, and dignity. If we are blessed, life is about seeing our children grow and their children grow to live a long, happy life full of love. Life is precious. After seeing the senseless Connecticut massacre this week, it makes this sentiment all the more precious. Life is never promised to us. My heartfelt condolences go out to the families who lost their angels.

I’M GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS

When an insecure woman is jealous, immature, spiteful, and/or ignorant, they will always try to tear an accomplished, beautiful woman down in order to feel better about their own lack of success. However, one cannot rewrite history. My legacy is untouchable, and I’m most proud of my professional achievements and accomplishments I have been able to bequeath despite the odds.

With that said, there have been many women whom I admire, respect, and marvel at their inner strength and beauty from the past that have provided inspiration for me as a young girl studying history and the arts. Knowledge is truly power. Without these bold, brave trailblazers, there would be no past, present, or future for generations to come. In 1939 (73 years ago) Hattie McDaniel was the first Black woman to win an Academy Award for her performance in Gone With The Wind. Ms. McDaniel played a loyal maid in a time where roles for women of color were few and far between. Hattie was widely criticized for playing a maid, but without her inner strength, it’s unclear what our legacy as a people would be now. Certainly, she has enriched my life. Her incredible feat defied racism, hatred, segregation and civil uncertainty and unrest.

In my eyes, Hattie McDaniel is a “shero.” She is the sole reason that Halle Berry, Whoopi Goldberg, Mo’nique, and Octavia Spencer, etc. (all Oscar recipients) can proudly wear their crowns of being legendary and fabulous Black women of film. I appreciate all the incredible women I have to admire and aspire to be like. I will strive to recover from my many missteps and win my fans over again despite the people who laugh when I stumble instead of offering me a hand.  I hope that I can find a man who loves me for me. But in the meantime, I’ll continue to be strong and humble and not let anyone steal my shine in order to gain fame off my misfortunes.

I’m Kenya Moore. I’m 41 and fabulous! My age, race, religion, social economic standing, and marital status are not indicators of my past, present, or future as I too can defy the odds just like Hattie. I am bold. I am humble. I am strong. I am complicated. I am complex. I am vulnerable. I am resilient. I am good. I am honest --That’s what makes me fabulous.I will forever be GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS. And I hope I can inspire others to be Gone With The Wind fabulous too at any age.

“We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” -Marianne Williamson

Claudia: This Group Should Reserve Judgment

Claudia Jordan thinks the other 'Wives shouldn't be so willing to believe rumors. 

Bravotv.com: How shocked were you when Cynthia shared the rumor about Chocolate?

Claudia Jordan: Well I really don't know Phaedra that much to comment on her personal life, but from the little bit I am privy to, I was surprised to hear about an alleged affair considering the extreme criticism that Kenya got. At the end of the day only two people know what really did or did not happen, and I would love for this group to reserve judgment on everyone until there is confirmation. But I think a precedent had been set a long time ago, so that has opened the door to where we are now. I think it's easy to believe something negative about someone in the group, because in the past it's been shown that it takes very little actual evidence or proof for some to jump on that bandwagon. Hopefully we can get to a place where we afford each other the same benefit of the doubt that they may one day give us. At the end of the day there should be a protocol that we all follow and it should be applied to everyone. Until then I suspect we may continue to have a problem. But I am hopeful. Perhaps a lot of the drama in this group is because there are so many unresolved issues. And that combined with all the double standards in place is a sure fire recipe for disaster. I still have hope though. Again, not to have everyone be besties, but just being able to co-exist in the same space would be a major accomplishment with these ladies.

 

Bravotv.com: What were you thinking when Phaedra blew up at Kenya?

CJ: I thought it was silly and out of character. But I am glad that Phaedra had enough good sense to not actually hit Kenya. We don't need another physical altercation in this group. Again, we are all supposed to be mature ladies, so with that being said, I think the majority of us have a pretty good grasp of the English language and should be able to talk anything out without resorting to violence. Hitting each other is low class, childish, and ignorant behavior, and I'm so glad that Phaedra didn't really go there.

 

Bravotv.com: Were you surprised when Phaedra walked out?

CJ: Although this has nothing to do with me, I am around these ladies and a witness to all the shenanigans, but from what I've gathered, I wasn't surprised that Phaedra walked out. That seems to be a recurring theme in this group when things get uncomfortable. But at the same time, I am glad she did. If you ever feel the urge to put hands on someone and you are done talking, I think the best thing to do is excuse yourself and leave the situation without adding any more inflammatory language to the mix.

I would like to say that a lot of these issues in this group of course started way before I came around, but being here and seeing things with my own eyes has definitely been enlightening. It tends to get confusing as to what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior in this group, because there are clearly double standards. So in some cases it seems like it's OK to bring up sensitive information in front of the entire group, then in other cases it's not OK -- seems like it all depends on whom it's about. In a perfect world I wouldn't expect for us not to spill tea -- I mean that's what we do -- but if folks expect to be pulled aside to be asked about a rumor or some "tea," then I would hope they would abide by that rule and extend the same courtesy. That's all. Because the way it is now is causing far too much confusion, and as long as there is confusion and unfairness, there is going to be conflict. I've never been around so many arguments, so much shadiness and mudslinging in my life. And especially not since I graduated high school back in the '90s! Maybe there is a way we can get us to a place where we can co-exist peacefully. Hey, a girl can dream can't she?

Again, I want to thank all the viewers that tune in weekly to The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I just returned from Charlotte, North Carolina where I was making a few appearances at CIAA and the love and support I got from hundreds of people that wanted to take pictures and talk about the show; it was amazing! So many people told me they love what I'm bringing to RHOA and I just wanted to say thank you to any of them that may be reading this. The show is loved by so many and I feel we have a responsibility to entertain and hopefully inspire. We've got a lot of the season left and I hope the fans will be happy with how everything turns out! Love you guys!

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