Hi everyone, I hope you are having a great week! I'm so sorry my blog is late! I have been overwhelmed with work and the kids, as I am sure you can all relate. Before I get into this blog entry I want to thank you all again for your advice and kind words, I greatly appreciate the support.
As you all know, I am the first to admit when I am wrong. I am not perfect and when I make mistakes I own them. I definitely made a mistake when I read Brandi's text message in front of some of the girls, and I regret that. I spoke with Brandi before she came to the party and admitted what I did and apologized to her. In the end, we laughed about it, she forgave me and we moved on.
Yolanda didn't know that I had spoken with Brandi, but at the same time I didn’t know that Yolanda called Brandi to talk about me. Yolanda continued to discuss my mistake with Brandi on the way to the party and re-ignited the issue. I must admit, I laughed at Yolanda's rendition of how it all went down. It was hilarious because Yolanda had all of these distorted facial expressions when mimicking me and spoke with a very exaggerated intonation that reminded me of Cruella de Vil, not me at all. Yolanda was trying to be a good friend to Brandi, even if it meant throwing me under the bus for a mistake that I made. Lesson learned, it won’t happen again and I am truly and deeply sorry.
There is a time and a place to discuss a situation, not at a row renewal party. Yolanda should have invited Marissa and Brandi over for coffee to discuss the text. That being said, Marissa should have spoken to Brandi directly about the text, not talk to others about it. As for Marissa, we can't judge her marriage. We don't know what goes on behind closed doors. However, I do find it odd that Marissa jokes about wanted to sleep with other men. Joke or not, I find it disrespectful to Dean. Perhaps there was some truth to Brandi saying that Dean is more in love with Marissa, then Marissa is with Dean. But, we don't know the whole story. I hope everything is okay. GOD bless.
I saw the episode over and over again and Marisa is 100% correct, Yolanda tried to start a fight between Marisa and Brandi, Yolanda seems to be the trouble maker on this show, maybe she should pack it up and as far as her marriage David seems to be a very nice man but it also seems he is always out of town working, I wonder, what is this his 3rd marriage?
Wow. Sounds like your trying to defend yourself quite aggressively there whilst pointing your finger at Yolanda. Couldn't finish reading your blog because of it. Bitter, are you? I would love to have a friend like Yolanda. You showed your character when you made a public announcement about doing it with other men and thinking it's okay only because "we" all think that. Not true. That was so distasteful and disrespectful towards your husband. And then you reveal it to someone you barely know. How crass. I've been married to my husband for 23 years and would never say that. I have so much respect for him. Marriage is hard, no doubt, but you, my dear, are a fool to make such statements.
I initially liked you because you didn't just go along with what Kyle and them thought or acted towards Brandy, but I can see you're starting to feed into these women drama. Steer clear and be authentic and you'll be great next season. Also when you say inappropriate things so openly about your marriage the line gets blurry, so you can't really be upset at Brandys comment
Marisa I love you on the show! I hope you return and Brandi and Yolanda leaves because they are two horrible people!
Wow! I am amazed by how you twisted not one but, two of Yolanda's comments. Quite a talent. You must think we are idiots.
isn't it sad for you that exactly how Yolanda said it... was how it happened? you were catty and gossipy and you certainly were not being a friend. it probably surprised you to watch also. Glad you realized you were really in the wrong. don't be a two faced person like your friend Kyle I know you are better than that.
Marisa, thank you for clearing that up! I had really liked you from the beginning and was totally struck by the way you dealt with that text. It seems like Brandi felt close enough to you to bring up a subject like that bringing it up to Kyle, Faye and Adrienne - people that you had defended Brandi against in the past was disconcerting. Seemed totally out of character for you and I worried that you really were apart of the dark side for a bit. You seem cool as hell, so I'm glad that things were resolved (with or without Yolanda). Hope to see you next season! :)
Great for owning up to the Brandi situation. And good for Yolanda for having Brandi's back, after all, that is what REAL friends do...............
I think the test message is typical of Brandi's behavior. She always seems to know what other relationships need. That might have been her way of warming Marisa up to the idea of a threesome. I think Brandi is a little, okay A LOT kinky.
I did not like the way she grabbed your face. I did not like it when she said "I need to clear this up". She wasn't involved I don't understand why she thinks she's the big fat boss of the situation. And it's disgraceful how she treated Kim yeah go ahead amazon woman kick lol Kim when she's down but that's what they learn in holland. U go marissa
Marisa you didnt see the intent behind Brandi's action. She was being discreet because it is something she didnt want to say on camera but you brought it up and you were defensive. We the viewers, can hear you what you are saying, along with your body language. There is a lot of grain of truth in what you are saying that after long years of being with the same man, there is always that kind of feeling of wanting to experience that magical feeling again. However, this is not something you say in public. You are voicing your thoughts loud and it is obvious you are bored with your marriage. You know the praise " She is crying for help" that is exactly what you were doing. Hopefully your husband gets it and do something magical to rejuvenate your marriage.
Dear M when someone text you things like that, you should tell everyone bc what B. text you was not right I think she did only bc she was on the show.. After she got cheated on she should not be saying things like she did. If she was a real friend, and really cared about you she should of called and been a real friend. The way Brandie talks, she can for sure take care of herself. Then after what comes out she is sorry for what she said, Its not ok to say whatever you want to sometimes. Words do hurt and some people do not understand that. WORDS HURT
sherrip I don't think marisa was HURT and I don't think Brandi was SORRY. it was just a comment, period. Marisa was grabbing for attention at the party. that's it.
Yolanda wasn't trying to throw you under the bus. She was trying to prevent you from putting your little spin on the story and from minimizing what really happened. You started the whole sh*t when you brought up what Brandi texted you.
@Ceci2468 Yes, but what right does Yolanda have to police Marisa? She is not her mother, or teacher, or boss. The fact that she didn't like it doesn't give her the right to be her judge and jury. She had done her job as a friend by telling her what went down and that should have been where her role ended.
Ceci2468 I agree. This is how it looked to me. Marisa needed something to tie her in with the other ladies.." Marisa is Kyle's friend don't forget that" so she used the private text Brandy sent her. By the way who talks on national TV about how their relationship with their husband is boring and how other men are very appealing unless they asking for problems. Seems to me that Marisa has problems enough. I feel sorry for her husband. Has anyone seen her husbands face when she talks about how appealing other men are and how she is like a man in that way? Marisa's husband looks hurt. She should watch the show and this time pay attention to the way her husband looks when she is running her mouth so to say! Right??
Marissa, as viewer what made it all look bad for you is the tone, the comments, and and the audience of women you chose to share that text with. You know these women are not fan's of Brandi, and would slam her for it. It made you look insincere, and deliberate. I am glad though that you and she smoothed it out. I think Yolanda saw it the same way and was just being protective of Brandi..that's all. Glad it all worked out. You and Yolanda should work it out too!
No Marissa she put you on the spot for a damn good reason ......you showed your true colors ....I would never trust you ever.....YOU ARE TWO FACED.!!!!! its that simple.
Yolanda igniting the drama with Brandi? There wouldn't have been any drama if you hadn't whipped out a cell phone anxious to share a text from Brandi with a group you knew would hang onto every word. You made a huge mistake, and even though you admit it and regret it, own it. Do not blame Yolanda.
Marissa, if you go back to the first episode and review the footage,as I just did, Yolanda wasn't causing trouble, she was repeating something that Brandi jokingly said and Yolanda was not being judge- mental whatsoever. I don't know how you could misinterpret that.
You are just like Kim and Kyle. WE ALLLL lost love for you. I hope you don't join the show or I will stop watching.
Sorry Marisa, we all watched the episode too. You weren't just light heartedly talking about the text. You knew exactly what you were doing and to try and blame Yolanda for how this went down is just crazy. I hope that this wasn't a glimpse of your true character. I really liked you at the beginning for how you didn't stoop down to the bitchiness and seemed to form your own opinion of Brandi. Time will tell if you are on next season...
I don't think Marisa did anything to be upset about. She acted like a classy lady and admitted when she was wrong. The text that Brandi sent her was pretty shocking and if someone sent me a text like that I would probably talk to my friends about because I wouldn't know what to do. I definitely don't think she was throwing Brandi under the bus she was simply just having a conversation.
You're just like K & K. Blaming other people for your doings. Please don't take us fans for fools.
You would be better off hanging with the TRUE ladies of the group, Yolanda< Brandi and Lisa. You seem to be a very intelligent funny lady and I hope to see you on the show next season!!!
I really like you on the show. I hope your going to come back next season. I would really like to get to know you better
I liked you at first and then I saw what a follower you were - your original MO was what would win you fans and supporters...you chose to play mean girl and did...you just aren't the smartest chick in the room...shame on you for your bad behavior and not owning up to the reason you felt the need to smear another person...who's whispering in your ear??? You are a huge disappointment.
A sincere apology happens when someone says they were wrong and that they are sorry. Not when they say sorry and then blog for 2 pages about what someone else did too. Grow up and stop pointing fingers. You shouldn't have shared that text and that's that. What Yolanda did is irrelevent other than to take the spotlight off you.
Marisa, I feel so bad for Dean. The ancient term "cuckold" comes to mind. I don't care how "secure" you think your marriage is, if I were your husband I'd be contacting lawyers to start divorce proceedings and finding a new woman who a)finds me attractive b)wants to sleep with me c)doesn't talk about how much she wants to sleep with anyone but me. How embarrassing for him. Brandi gave you great advice...give Dean a hall pass so he can sleep with someone interested in him.
I agree I do feel bad for Dean the way that she said things on camera might not have came out how she wanted them to be played out. I don't think that their marriage is secure because if it was secure she wouldn't do the things that she does. Marriage is a partnership and that is not this marriage I would never say the things that she said she doesn't care about her marriage.
rhwatcherch I so agree with everything in your post. I feel so sorry for her husband. She should appreciate her husband and not talk like that about him to others and on television.
Thank you for admitting you shouldn't have told the girls about Brandi's text and good for you for calling Brandi to apologize! We all make mistakes and it's how we own it and learn from it that counts. Also, I agree Yolanda pretends she's doing it for the right reasons but obviously it's just her way to stir the pot and get TV time.
What was the point of reading the text to the mean girls who have it out for Brandi? So Jr high, the nerdy girl (you) trying to fit in with the mean girl group by sharing a private text out loud that you knew would create a "Brandi Bashing" party. Perhaps you have realized who should be your friend by hanging with Brandi, next season will tell, however if you haven't figured out that Yolanda is friend not worthy of your bashing, maybe not.
While what you did was wrong, I would have most liikely made the same mistake after receiving such a text! Really! I think it was extremely inappropriate for Yolanda to bring this up at Lisa's party. Unbelieveable! Poor Lisa. Watching Yolonda and Brandi, who did not want to be part of it either, standing over you looked like two great Danes beating up on a chiuaua! Add the nosy pomeranian Faye, and you have the sequal to "Lady and the Tramp."
loisianagirl What was inappropriate was not what Yolanda did but what Faye did and what Adrienne did at Lisa's party or lets not forget Kim's pity party tantrum.
Marissa; Did you forget we were watching when you brought up Brandi's text in front of the other ladies? Yolanda wasn't that far off base with her rendition to Brandi of how it went down. PLEASE just stick to the apology, and OWN your responsibility. You WERE being snarky. You DIDN'T have good intentions. Don't try to brush any of it off on Yolanda. I still want to like you.!
stephd And Yolanda said "she flirts with all the guys" in response to someone talking about her flirting specifically with one guy, as if to say, "it's not a big deal, it doesn't mean anything, it's just playfulness," NOT as if to say, "she's a horrible person who is coming onto all of our husbands."
Not a fan of yours at all.. trying to win points with those ladies, but being a bitch to Brandi? Awful, shame on you!!!!.. And you do.................. talk terrible when it comes to your husband and to your marriage.. its obvious to a idiot for crying out loud.. I hate Fay, and I dislike you... please con't come back to the show
Talking about wanting to sleep with another when you are married is pretty tacky. Maybe being on tv makes your marriage look awkward but it's your interactions with each other are just odd.
You can so tell you want to screw another man, they you demean your husband all the time is shameless, you have issues. Brandi might be a loose canon but she speaks the truth. So sort your shit out, be kind, be nice and you'll be cool. I do kinda think you're cool but don't be tragic.
You say you learned a lesson and it won't happen again. Your "apology" says otherwise. "I'm sorry, But Yolanda really did it." Um, that's not apologizing.
I liked you this whole season. It's nice to see a beautiful face in Beverly Hills that hasn't been tampered with. Please please please don't ever have your face sliced and diced. You have a perfect face.
BTW, I think your husband is very cute. Hold onto to him tight. You have something a lot of single women would like to sink their claws into.
You had every right to be annoyed with Brandi for suggesting you and your spouse fool around on each other. Brandi's random text to you gave me the creeps. It had me thinking she wanted your husband to have a hall pass for her own desires. Ive known of several scorned women who's husband left them for another woman turn around and do the same thing. Brandi should have been put on blast for that text. I'm so over Brandi. She's full of herself and is a big trouble maker.