Cast Blog: #RHOM

Adriana's Flirting Has Gone Too Far

Joanna thinks Adriana disrespected her fiancé by flirting with Romain.

I feel like my life is falling apart at this moment -- my fiancé won't have sex with me, or marry me, and my sister wants to move out. The perfect world I live in seems to be crumbling down faster than the speed of light.

I won't say I am surprised that Marta wants to move out, as she and Romain have been going at it for a while, and unless they figure things out on their own, I don't think I can be of any help.  I see both sides and am sick of being stuck in the middle:  one is my blood and the other is my future. I won't lie that it breaks my heart and makes me want to disappear somewhere far away and not have to deal with it sometimes.

This is supposed to be a wonderful time for all of us to appreciate each other and thank God for what we have, and instead it’s high tension everywhere. Between Romain’s citizenship and his 10-year anniversary at Mynt, I feel like the pressure he is going through is taking a huge toll on our relationship. Now, I think Marta sees that, and it makes her resent him even more, but I’m hoping it will all get better. I guess Romain just wants Marta to be more helpful around the house, and I guess Marta just wants more brotherly love from him, like it used to be. Oh well, it is what it is at this point, and I’m not gonna put too much thought into it, and I’ll hope it works itself out…

This week was super important for Romain, since he was celebrating two things: his new American citizenship and 10-Year Anniversary at Mynt.  What attracts me to Romain is that we have a similar story: we both emigrated  to America with nothing, and worked from the bottom up without giving up for a second, even though there were many times when it would have been easier to just give up than to keep fighting, but we never ever gave up and still don't. I respect him so much more that he built everything on his own instead of being born into a rich family where he would take life for granted. Instead, he treats everyone equally, no matter the size of their wallet. I believe when you work hard for something, that’s when you appreciate it more. Romain and I both have big hearts, and we always make sure to give back, because that’s what makes us happy (especially if it’s for animals or those in need). That is our motto in life: to help as much as we can, because we can't take the money, the cars, or the houses with us when we die; we were put on this earth to help others and not be selfish. That’s what makes me and Romain bond the most. (And the fact that we are living proof the American dream. Don’t ever give up, because it can happen and I still didn't give up, as I have a lot more to accomplish in my life!)

I am also proud to be Polish and also proud to be living in such an amazing country as America, which gives you the opportunities like nowhere else. I thank God every day for being able to live here and to have the career that I love.

When I look back at the night of the Mynt’s 10-year anniversary, I am definitely not happy about the way I acted -- especially letting the alcohol take over, instead of controlling myself. I was hurt by my sister when she said I never defend her to Romain, and that made me extra sensitive that evening, especially after drinking a lot of alcohol at Lisa’s beforehand... I guess I wanted to show Marta that I do love her more than anything, and that she is so important to me, and that I will do whatever it takes to defend her. However, I went a little overboard, and had a major meltdown and tantrum attack, haha!

Now I think it’s funny, but the next morning I just wanted to hide, and prayed it was just a nightmare that I would awake from. Unfortunately that wasn't the case! I was truly upset that Romain didn't have my sister’s back, and invited the DJ-ex to work at Mynt the night he knew we were there to celebrate. I was thinking he might take a night off to avoid any drama. Too many drinks + sisterly love = trouble in paradise!

I feel really bad for the DJ, because there was no reason for me to get that out of hand, but I guess that night I let out how hurt I felt after what he did. But as many times as I said I hate him that night, I want make it clear that I don't hate him. Life goes on, and people breakup all the time. I can't hate everyone that breaks my sister’s heart, because it’s a part of life, and a cycle we all go through (or have been through), and I was just trying to protect my sister.

It’s obvious that Adriana had no idea what the whole meltdown was about, otherwise she wouldn’t make her nasty comment to Romain, suggesting that he reconsider blondes (“they might wake up pretty, but sure are ugly at night”).  Well unfortunately this specific brunette is just plain ugly day or night, and I am not talking about her outward appearance. I feel bad for her fiancé, because why is she flirting with mine? No wonder she doesn't wear her engagement ring: maybe he didn't feel she is worthy and never bought her one? She has the nerve to make a comment about me, when here she is, full-on flirting with my man when her fiancé is at home??? She wasn't even wasted, so if I had to choose, I’d rather have a meltdown because I had too much to drink (while protecting my sister) than be sober and hit on other men and disrespect my fiancé because I am just so desperate for attention. Hopefully her man wakes up one day and realizes that she is just a big flirt. He should have more respect for himself.
The night before the whole drama unfolded with me and Romain and Marta, I realized that not everyone is speaking the truth, and that there are some snakes in this group… But I am hoping everyone will get to see their true colors. Otherwise, I will make sure to expose them.

God Bless,


Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

Marysol shares what she hopes will come out of the reunion.

For me the reunion is a forum to hash things out and engage in verbal mud wrestling and hopefully come out cleansed from the tension and disagreements. I would like to make it clear that I do not hate anyone; I am not a person that likes to live in anger as it only makes you miserable and takes away from the precious moments of our lives. It is no secret that I have spent a couple of years being accused of lying by Lea when we do not see eye to eye on something. It is very frustrating to have issues with someone and always end up at the same place of “her word against mine.”

Unfortunately, my father this year has also had a rapid decline in his health and has spent the better part of the past few months in and out of the hospital. While dad was in the hospital with nothing else to do besides sleep, read, and watch TV he watched every episode of RHOM. He was very upset when he saw Lea saying I was lying when I said she didn’t call, write, or send flowers to mom for 8 weeks. He called me and said to figure out a way to video tape me and put it on that show of yours because I’ve had enough of the lies. My father was by mother’s side every day from the moment she went into the hospital to the day she came home (2 months later). He saw everyone who passed by, saw every flower and card that was sent etc. I truly was uncomfortable videotaping him in a hospital setting, but I was leaving for the reunion and he called relentlessly several times a day insisting I let him speak his mind for the cameras. If you thought Mama Elsa was tough, guess who she learned it from, that’s right, her husband of 52 years, Donald Patton. You never met anyone more ornery, stubborn, or tough, but I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

I have said my peace, which is what I went to the reunion to do. I have moved forward and forgive those who have hurt me and I forgive myself for those I may have hurt. I truly want to move forward to a better place with Lea to the best of our ability. We may never be best friends, but I’d like to think we can at least be in the same room, be cordial, and maybe even share a laugh someday.

It has been a fun season with the ladies and it provided a great distraction from the personal emotional struggles I was going through with my parents’ declining health.  I hope you enjoyed the season, thank you for all of your support and best wishes for my mother as that has been the greatest gift the show has brought us.

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