Kathy Wakile

Kathy opens up about Victoria's struggle.

on Jun 12, 2011

Unfortunately, being in denial that your kids may experiment during their high school years doesn’t mean that it’s not going to happen. However, after my initial shock, I realized that, the most important thing with kids is to keep the dialogue going. We may not always like what we hear, but we always encourage them to be honest. Honesty we can deal with, lies on the other hand, not so much.

Overprotective, sheltering, paranoid. Yup, guilty as charged. Especially when it comes to my kids. There’s a reason for my madness. Now you know why! I never would have thought when naming Victoria, she would fit her name so completely, victorious! That is truly what she is. Victoria has been through a lot at such a young age, as you see in this episode. Rich and I want everyone to understand that deciding to share this with you all was not an easy decision, there were a lot of things to think about. First and foremost, it was Victoria’s decision to make. After carefully considering the pros and cons, we decided to go forward. Our hope is that by sharing our family’s experience, someone in a similar situation may find comfort and strength. I’m going to take this opportunity to share a little more about her.

Our family was in Florida on spring break seven years ago. Victoria was ten years old. Victoria fainted on the beach, and my mother’s instinct told me to take her to the ER just to be safe. This had never happened to her before. The doctors ran a series of tests, and then just before she was going to be released, the ER doctor decided to do a CT scan. (For the record, we refer to that doctor as an angel.) When the doctor returned to me, she tearfully gave me the news. Victoria had a brain tumor. It was the size of a tennis ball.

What? This has to be a mistake, impossible! My child had never even been sick, never showed any signs. Victoria was very active and did well in school. I think I can safely say, this was probably one of the scariest things that any parent could hear. So many things were running through my head and nothing was making sense. I knew though that we needed to get Victoria home near our family and friends. We had no idea what lay ahead for Victoria and our family.