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An Epiphany

Kathy was happy to try and move forward with Teresa.

I think we have all learned a few things with this week's episode. When your friends and family stick their necks out for you and try to help, it can make for a challenging relationship. It’s hard to turn your back and just forget what has been done and said, whether to your face or behind your back. It’s so difficult to juggle it all and it makes you wonder, why do you even have to? Wouldn’t it be so much easier if there were more honesty, more communication, and far less pettiness and animosity?

It seems like there has been an epiphany here in New Jersey overnight. I was certainly skeptical about the shift in sentiment coming from my cousin Teresa, considering that just a day before (to my surprise) she was on Jacqueline’s deck telling her and Caroline that I was fake. (Well, not in those exact words.) But when she actually did call me and suggest that we meet, I was genuinely happy to hear her voice. I imagine that everyone has their time to feel ready to make amends, and I have always been willing to go in that direction. I wasn’t happy about the tabloid articles, especially that things were said about me that were absolutely untrue and hurtful, but I truly wanted to put those feelings aside and look at the bigger picture.

Our lunch together went well. I was cautiously optimistic and did not want to rock the boat, so I did not ask her about the tabloids. As we all have witnessed in the past, Teresa does not like talking about certain situations, and the last thing I wanted was another big blow-up. It’s always been very confusing for me to read all the negativity that has been written about me and quoted by Teresa. It’s one thing to hear the words being spoken first hand and another to read what someone is saying about you. Only to have it be denied. It’s pretty simple, if you disagree with what a particular tabloid is writing, then why continue to do interviews or “photo shoots” with them? Maybe I’m just being naive, but wouldn’t that make sense? The problem for me is that I need the people close to me to be honest with me. I’m easy. I cope much easier with the truth. Show me your genuine feelings, good or bad, and I will deal with it. I don’t like to hold a grudge, however, I do get hurt, mostly from disappointment. I thought it would just be best not to pepper the situation in any way and keep it positive. I thought that if things still bothered me in the future, perhaps Teresa and I could talk about it when our relationship was stronger and she wouldn’t feel like I was attacking her. It felt like Teresa was ready to get back to a happier place and so was I. It was a good feeling.
How happy are you all that Teresa finally decided to join her brother Joey and seek therapy so they can start to heal their relationship? I have to give props to my Richie for the suggestion. Fingers crossed!

It is so sad for me to see that the Manzo and Laurita families seemed to be the sacrificial lambs in this whole process. After all, they have been wonderful friends, and from the time I first met them, they were always trying to help get us all back together again. Let’s hope that they won’t give up on any of us. You can never have too many caring friends. Let’s all hope for the best, I for one am tired of all the fighting.

I leave you all on that note. I know my sister Rosie had a wonderful time enjoying Pride weekend in NYC. I hope everyone celebrating in different cities had an incredible time celebrating Pride Day. Happy Pride!

For anyone still struggling in silence there’s help and always someone to listen. It gets better!

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Lots of Love,

xoxo Kathy

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Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo


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