Aviva Drescher

Aviva shares how she really feels about Sonja and Harry's friendship.

on Aug 6, 20120

As anyone who watches the show knows, I'm not always successful in putting on a perfectly happy face when the subject of Harry comes up -- sometimes I come off more a deer in headlights than happy. To date, I have done everything in my power to shield my family from any negativity he has caused. I suck it up, not for my own image, but for my child. I'm not asking anyone to feel sorry for me. Usually, I'm the opposite of the martyr type. For my children, however, I'd throw myself under a bus. Compared to that, making nice with Harry is no big deal.

My ex still does push my buttons though. For instance, when Harrison and I were leaving the studio, Harry had to get in a provocative comment: "You look good in that top." (And he wasn't saying it in the way your girlfriends do.) I didn't call him a jerk or anything but I wasn't completely restrained; I hit him on the head with a magazine. That, Reid said, was the first smart thing I've done on the show. . . 

85 comments
Bravolove14
Bravolove14

I cannot believe that you were ever married to Harry Dubin. He is truly a dispicable human being!!

lenarives2011
lenarives2011

I feel the same way about my ex and the nature of his relationships. If your with ex is with someone who defends or even makes excuses for their dead-beat behavior, you really have to question what kind of person your children may  be exposed to. I would never associate myself with someone who neglected their financial or emotional obligation to their children. And if a man is going to treat their children with such disreguard imagine how he will eventually treat you.

altheda.debroux
altheda.debroux

Aviva...your assessment of the stuff that goes down between Heather and Ramona is WAYYYY OFF!  It's like you play deaf and dumb when it comes to making a 'right judgment'.  Meanwhile...you tolerate Ramona's blatant ignorant comments about your prosthesis and accept bull-crap excuses from her crony and I guess you think everyone else (Heather) should be as wimpy as you have decided to be.  Hmmmmm.  You need a little help.

real1housewife
real1housewife

Aviva,

You seem like such a nice person. Stay away from the other 2 hasbeen blondes on the show. If I could give one piece of advice with womaen like ramona and Sonja you need to speak up and put them in their place once and for all, or they will walk all over you.

stargirl777
stargirl777

It must be difficult with so many of your friends "knowing" Harry, but you just glide with grace, never seeming to get uncomfortable with the facts~I applaud you beautiful :) Also, I love your daddy,I think he is funny and charming, and over the top.. Why do you think Sonja doesn't take your side with Harry and stop seeing him now that there's bad ex-husband blood?

Anyway, love you on the show; such grace, style-you can really work a coctail dress-and gracious manners. Muah! Xxx

Nacyd
Nacyd

Aviva...why does anything Sonja or Ramona do surprise you. Both women will do anything for attention...do not understand why Bravo chose to keep them two hasbeens!!!! However, love you and Heather

stargirl777
stargirl777

It must be difficult with so many of your friends "knowing" Harry, but you just glide with grace, never seeming to get uncomfortable with the facts~I applaud you beautiful :) Also, I love your daddy,I think he is funny and charming, and over the top and would love to share a dinner with your family. I can't believe Ramona threw you out of your OWN bathroom...?! How is that inclusive? There will come a point, I'm afraid, when she'll cross the line. She's SO controlling, and you're so cool and let things slide, but I know you have your limits. Why do you think Sonja doesn't take your side with Harry and stop seeing him now that there's bad ex-husband blood?

Anyway, love you on the show; such grace, style-you can really work a coctail dress-and gracious manners. Muah! Xxx

iloveaviva
iloveaviva

@avivadrescher Aviva, It's Dallas! You told me to comment so here i am! I just read the blog and first of all, your blogs are extremely interesting to read! I love watching you on the show, and i love how you handle each situation with class and elegance. I truly adore you, and i know i tell you that a lot!! But really! You are SO amazing! As far as Harry, My parents are divorced and have kind of a similar relationship... obviously i am not the parent so i can't TOTALLY identify with you. However i am old enough to kind of see and understand the struggles that come with having an ex, things like that! But props to you for being so classy while doing it! I really commend you on that for sure. But can we talk about your looks for a second? Like hello! You are STUNNING. Watching you on the show just makes me really really reeeeeally happy! And now reading your blogs is making me happy! So i will always love you for that! You are the one housewife that can do no wrong in my eyes! You are changing my life, Aviva! And i can't wait to meet you!

Love, Dallas

cehemise
cehemise

I find you, Carole, and Heather to be down-to-earth ladies.  You are all comfortable in your own skin and do not have the need to put on airs.  You all seem to also have much patience for the antics of the other ladies.  I especially liked your comments in the previews.  And, agree.

Pollywog
Pollywog

I enjoy watching you on the show. You are a very classy lady. You come across as a real person not fake on the show, and not acting for the camera. Ignore any negative comments. When somebody leaves a negative comment just think to yourself how they would come across on National TV. HA! Can you imagine? Stay true to yourself and your family.

hawaiikaihousewife
hawaiikaihousewife

Ok, you are too sweet...at some point you need to tell ramona to shut up!!!

RitaMore
RitaMore

People need to remember that since the show filmed, Harry and Avila have been in court because he refuses to pay child support. So her blog is stating her CURRENT feelings, whereas the episodes were filmed when things weren't as bad.BTW, I love Aviva on the show. I can't wait until she tells off Ramona and Sonja.

AVJULE
AVJULE

This is off the subject at the moment, but I have to get this off my chest.  I love Aviva and Reid on the show.  Avivia's father on the other hand is not interesting or amusing.  He is vile, disrespectful, and gross.  He doesn't have a shred of class.  Anyone who needs to constantly  talk about sexual things the way he does is clearly not getting any.  Vulgar!   

kentuckygirl
kentuckygirl

I thought and you and your Dad where very gracious when Nancy Grace came out fighting. She should have watch WWHL to see it's a fun place to be not bitching and moaning about moral rights! It's all in fun! Not sure what her point was when she keep saying she was drinking milk like she was better than everyone else! She slammed you all for dressing nice and going to parties etc. She is such a bitter woman I quit watching her show years ago her ego is so over the top she is hard to take. Sorry Andy put you and George on with her it wasn't fun for any of us!

vierachick
vierachick

Aviva I am baffled by your willingness to befriend ramona, you seem like you are in a totally different league than her (have much more class). Please do not invest in your relationship with Ramona she is not in your lane and she will only bring you down. Keep classy not trashy!  I love your Dad, he is too hilarious.

lulugriffin
lulugriffin

Why are so far up Ramona's butt?  You constantly make excuses for her. She will turn on you.....just wait and see.

 

 Stop all this talk about Harry....Reid must be a wuss to allow it. Enough already.

Hecuba
Hecuba

I think that, since Harry is *Aviva's* ex, she gets "custody" of him. Ramona doesn't. Aviva (and Reid) get to decide how much and when he is discussed. If that makes Ramona uncomfortable, she shouldn't be friends with divorced people. (Why does she freak out, as if his name were taboo?)

 

NYC is more a village than a city, in some respects. Harry exists; you can't avoid him. Marriage is complicated and divorce is complicated, and Aviva gets to decide how she feels about Harry, even if it changes day-to-day or minute-to-minute.

EveningToaster
EveningToaster

Aviva.  You seem to be holding onto Harry thing.  How long ago was that????  You are fortunate to have found an adoring husband but you seem to disrespect him subtly every week.  I did not see why Harry was such a catch.  Your current husband seems to be so much more in attractivness and personality.  You also seem to be in everyone's buisness which translate as boredom to me.  You seem unfulfilled and just not content.  I had such high hope for you but you seem to be falling short.

loveyourshow
loveyourshow

Reid is an absolute gem and the two of you are great! I have an older half sibling whose father is a little bit like your ex, and I can't say how important Reid will be in Harrison's life and how wonderful your family is to do your best to make sure each child gets what they need, which can be tricky in those situations. Keep it up, Aviva! 

DeltaDatsis
DeltaDatsis

Thank goodness you failed as a matchmaker.  I'm sure you see now what a bad decision that was.  Just think if you had to have Sonja in your life all the time....or at least till Dad tried of her. 

NunyaBidness
NunyaBidness

WTF is wrong with u?! Your first man cheated on you REPEATEDLY! and apparently with everyone YOU KNOW! (so gross!) and you still seem to bring him up IN EVERY EPISODE! wake up du*b A&S! do you WANT to drive you hubby away???! You're ridiculous with the Harry Obsession! GETTHEFOVERIT!  and be a WIFE to your husband. you kinda suck. a lot.

TondalayoSchwartz
TondalayoSchwartz

Was Harry the model for the character of well, Harry, Jack Nicholson's character in Something's Gotta Give?  His purported successes with women, his charisma, and even his hair make me think so.  As for Sonja's loyalty to him, why not.  They're friends, and not in the Frankenstein-monster of relationships these Real Housewives shows have created, made of women from all different circles.  You would never have been friends with her on your own, delightful as she may be, because of her ongoing friendship with Harry.  Nor can I believe would you have chosen the Countess, foot-in-mouth Ramona, or crude Jewish-by-injection Holla Heather.  Carole, perhaps.  

Aqualover
Aqualover

Avila, It has to be very difficult to have so many people around you talking about how much they love Harry - not to mention the sexual relationships he has had with several of the women. I think it would be perfectly accepted for you to say to people when they bring Harry up - for the sake of my children could we please not discuss him?

Annie493
Annie493

Aviva you need to stop having Harry show up in the episodes so much.  You don't want him to be a big part of your life stop letting him into it.  You have a lovely husband in Reid.  It is shameful that Sonja is running around with him, but she does seem to be a very desperate woman.  The fact that Luann also slept with him and admitted it on camera is not very classy either.  As for Ramona, I don't believe she is a good friend to you.  I think she is trying to build an alliance with you because she hates Heather and Luann.  She is pretty transparent and I think she would be a toxic person in your life.  Stay far away from her!

loriann760
loriann760

Aviva you need to stand up to people like Sonja and Ramona. Tell Sonja how you feel and ask her how she'd like it you partied with her ex and constantly talked about how fun he was. And you need to just say "SHUT UP" to Ramona. Quit letting her walk all over you.

imasopranogirl
imasopranogirl

I'm sorry to hear you have to deal with that.  You have a lovely family and I look forward to seeing more of you on the show.  You are one classy lady!  PS:  You look AMAZING after having your children!!  Absolutely beautiful!

imasopranogirl
imasopranogirl

I think you are one classy lady and a great addition to the show.  You have a gorgeous, lovely family.  I also got a real kick our of your Dad and thought Nancy Grace came off looking like a real idiot the way she came at him.  I look forward to seeing more of you and your family on the show.  PS:  You look AMAZING after having kids.  Gorgeous & classy!

cwife1972
cwife1972

Aviva, the problem is you are communicating to people through your action/inaction that talking about Harry and anyone else that is an issue is okay with you. People will still like you if you just say something when it starts to be a problem. People like Sonja and Ramona will go on and on with it if you allow them to. They are not perceptive or sensitive to other peoples' feelings, so they will just run over people like you.  Learn this now!

cgarden
cgarden

Seriously enough about Harry....when I finally saw him my jaw dropped...I was like THAT is Harry? Serious letdown, all that hoopla? For what? You have a gem of a man in Reid, feel like talking about and glorifying Harry all the time is disrespectful to your perfect gentleman of a husband and just odd. 

On a sidetnote maybe have Reid offer private lessons to your dad on how to be a gentleman, it is NOT funny and is incredibly crass.

Lynda58
Lynda58

I'm sorry you have to put up with that boorish ex in your real life.  Maybe, you should leave him out of your "reel" life, though.  From what I can tell, he's not "all that".  He's rotund, lewd and uncharismatic.  I thought his show's concept was idiotic.  If you have an issue with Sonja's friendship with your ex, why do you act like good friends to her?  It's odd...

UThousewife
UThousewife

You bring up Harry. All the time. Almost every episode. You say you love him, Ried says he loves him. Ramona tries to stop the conversation. Everyone tries to blame their bad behavior on Ramona. Sonja had a relationship with Harry before you. She has never said anything disrespectful in front of you. Others might have, but Sonja hasn't. It might be uncomfortable for you to have her spend time with him when you're having issues but if he was friends with her first it might be something you have to deal with. They will continue to see each other after filming, will you two? I'm divorced and remarried. So I can relate to an ex-husband dating/spending time, having sex with a friend.

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

Most of the time it is YOU who brings him up. Sonja has mentioned in past episodes that Harry has been a friend of hers for years before you were even around so she really doesn't owe you anything or should stop being friends with him for you. IF Harry is this person you say he is... it doesn't mean he acts that way with Sonja or tells Sonja all the bad things you think he did.

darltarm
darltarm

I know at times it's excruciating to deal with your ex, but you are amazing, as a stepmother I would give anything for my ex and his ex to get along, or at least civil.  As for Sonja, I was surprised to see that women like her do not grow out of that catty immature crap.  It's as though she was trying to act like an athlete that hooked up with the same model everybody else had.

IcyAll
IcyAll

I'm sorry Harry has become part of the show.  You could have said "I don't want to talk about Harry" and everyone would have respected that.  It took Ramona to stop him from being discussed at your own party.  

 

Sonja's going around town with Harry?  Was that on the show?  Don't recall that.  I don't recall HER telling you she slept with Harry.  That would be Heather, who laughed as she told you Harry bragged about sleeping with Sonja and Luann. Remember?  Right.  Blame Heather.

theresab77
theresab77

Aviva you are my favorite and you are so beautiul! :)

 

 

 

 

Liznorris
Liznorris

I really enjoy watching you this season, now in the later episodes. I was worried at first that you were going to be too concerned about fitting in than actually being your own person. Mostly because of the few comments about "fitting in with the cool girls". But as the show moves forward it is starting to show that you are your own strong person. I really wish/hope you speak up towards Ramona. The way she was acting towards you in Miami was absolutely ridiculous! I was embarrassed for you! You are not 12 you are an adult that can make her own decisions. I think Ramona should spend a little more time focusing on herself and the way she acts rather than focusing on you getting into a hot tub! I don't want to see you get mixed up with her and Sonja. I'm sorry but they both just come across ignorant and classless to me. And I truly believe those are two things you are not! I love having you and Heather on the show this season. It was about time they got some real well spoken women on New York because frankly Ramona is a train wreck and she gets worse every season. You are beautiful and so smart and have a beautiful family! Hope you actually find time to reads these comments so that you know that not everyone is a fan of watching train wrecks on their televisions and there are people that enjoy watching you! It's a breath of fresh classy air for me to watch you and Heather each week.

cgarden
cgarden

I like you, you are classy understated, are a fabulous dresser and seem to know how to steer clear of all the chaos and craziness and your husband seems to be a genuinely nice guy. Dont' find your father nearly as appealing, feel his off the cuff sexually laced humor is very over the top and doesnt' deserve the spotlight its being given, he is downright demeaning to women and frankly its a major turn off when he is on. I am sorry just being honest.

Seems like Ramona fireworks are a comin...no surprise somehow!

Rustie
Rustie

Handling and ex (especially when children are involved) has to be one of life's most difficult challenges.  Aviva does it w/ dignity and class.

k.miller
k.miller

I love you and Reid, and I love your faces all the time. Like disbelief or what have we gotten ourselves in to?! It shows that you are just down to earth loveable folks and it is a breath of fresh air to watch you.

rbrsoul
rbrsoul

Aviva, any woman who must co-parent with an ex- COMPLETELY understands. Trust me. You're amazing.

HilaryCA
HilaryCA

Right on sister!  I 100% agree with everything you wrote.  Sonja should absolutely know better, especially with the situation she is in with her ex!

lynnej70
lynnej70

I had no clue Sonja was running around town with your ex husband,that is shameful,i thought sonja had more class than that., I  dont like it when women stand up for the men, i have a family member that would stick up for the males a few years back now,and she just couldnt understand why i would get upset as he was a new father at the time and needed to come home to his responsibilities ,since then she had her own bad relationship and  now she strongly takes the womens side.I suppose sometimes one has to feel what you once felt to understand your situation , i just wish she had my back then ,because i certainly always had hers.On a side note,,It seems you and Luanne picked the singers you chose from the same red light district lol ..joke. : )

Paigeone
Paigeone

 @RitaMore

 actually things must have been bad then as well or they would not be in court now for his not paying child support in close to a year

LaurainCali
LaurainCali

 @cwife1972

 But Ramona was trying to get people to stop talking about Harry, though, in Miami.  She seemed uncomfortable with that.  She said it wasn't proper with Reid there. Especially since it was sexual. I disagree with you, respectfully.

 

EveningToaster
EveningToaster

 @cgarden

I almost think she still desires Harry.  It's  unsettling to see on television.  She looked like she was glowing in her exhusbands presence.  Weird! 

GuiltyPleasures
GuiltyPleasures

 @UThousewife Sonja has absolutely been disrespectful. She brings Harry up very frequently and refers to their previous sexual relationship, or his alleged sexual prowess, every time.  This behavior is insensitive and in total disregard for Aviva's comfort and feelings.  Sonja is obviously very threatened by Aviva and feels the need to repeatedly try to rib her, or knock her down, in the only way she knows how: "I slept with your ex-husband!  Remember, remember?? I slept with your ex-husband!!"  It's disgusting and desperate.  I'd imagine Sonja was jealous when Harry married Aviva, after all, she has admitted to being smitten with and charmed by the man many times.  We all know she had given it up to him but he fell in love with and married Aviva.  Not Sonja.  So, she gets back at her, as often as possible, in her all too transparent way.  

AndreaM
AndreaM

  @UThousewife, I agree with your comment..  Harry is mentioned all the time. I don't always agree with the way Ramona acts.  I do feel she should have told Aviva privately about her constantly bringing up Harry.  So for everyone's sake please stop talking about Harry, unless it has to do with your child.

GuiltyPleasures
GuiltyPleasures

 @lynnej70 Aviva didn't hire the singer and dancers who performed at her anniversary party.  Sonja did.  

Eva18
Eva18

 @GuiltyPleasures

 

I think Sonja is a very needy woman. Right now she desperately needs a wealthy man to marry her.

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

 @Eva18

 SonJa is VERY needy indeed, unfortunately, + a past her prime "party girl" ...sad. Also see she seems to mention Harry a LOT. also sad...he's been there, done that.