Tell us, Ramona, do you think you might have a drinking problem? Perhaps this is what you and Sonja bond over. I lost a dear friend to alcohol because she is only interested in hanging out with people who drink a lot. When we make reservations for dinner, she always reminds me that she and her husband always have two drinks before dinner. She too always brings her flask of vodka with her because she might be in a situation where only wine or beer is offered. Reminds me of you bringing your Pinot around. She like you is a functioning alcoholic. She is surrounded by enablers as you are. I wonder if you remember the horrible things you say to people? She never does. I wish you well, but I think you should give what I've said some thought.