Cast Blog: #RHONY

I Can't Win

Ramona doesn't know how to please Aviva and after the way she talked to Sonja, she doesn't want to.

We have reached the conclusion of St. Barths! What a trip! I really was surprised when Carole told me in the morning that she was going to take off as couples for dinner and not include everyone. I thought the reason Aviva had Reid come was to have him bring her to be with all of us.

I really thought the night before I had calmed Aviva down and smoothed everything over. When she walked into my room and started in on me, I got angry. I still say this was a girls’ trip. Why was Aviva insisting this was not a girls’ trip just because a few boys stopped in?

Carole is casually dating Russ and he was not living at the villa. Sonja and LuAnn are single so they if they did have a man come over to visit, who cares? They did not have them move into the villa!

Aviva said she expected me to put up a banner welcoming her, are you kidding me? One minute, she's angry at me for talking about her prosthetic leg and the next she's angry because I'm not talking about or acknowledging her phobias. I can't win with her.

When I got back to the table, Carole was standing up and crying, big drops of tears were running rapidly down her face. She very quietly mouthed the words, “Can't talk now.”

I so wanted to hug her and take away whatever pain she was feeling. I respected Carole’s wishes and backed away quickly. This way, she could recover from her emotions privately. She never told me until we left the island that she was reliving the deaths of her loved ones. Some things are sacred and shouldn't be shared with the world. When I genuinely care about someone I protect them.

Aviva, Aviva. The way Aviva spoke to Sonja was so uncalled for. She was so was insulting to Sonja and me. Aviva was making up stories, and I thought Sonja handled it quite well. 'Return to sender' was the funniest comment Sonja ever said to Aviva. Here we were worried about Reid being a problem at the villa, but he wasn’t -- it was Aviva.

In the end Sonja, LuAnn, Heather, and I went for dinner and we all had a super great time. It made me realize how draining and how needy Aviva is.

On our last day I wanted to stay as far away from Aviva as I could. Sadly, Carole planned an entire day at the villa where we were around each other all day. I really wished I left for the day and had done my own thing.

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xo

Dorinda: Sonja Is a Trip

Dorinda talks about meeting the other ladies and explains why she was nervous to meet Bethenny.

OMG, I’m on again! Is this really going to happen every week?! Funny how I’m still freaked out by myself on TV…

As you may or may not know, I am not a Hamptons girl; I am #TeamBerkshires. But hey, this could be fun too, right? As close as Ramona and I are, I have never actually stayed or even seen her home on the beach, so I was excited to go. Meeting Lady Morgan was a nice little adventure, too. She’s so beautiful. And I can totally see why Ramona gets flustered with her and her tendency to monopolize a conversation. But Sonja is a trip. I really like her.

Luann’s estate sale was something, huh? In the Berkshires, we call it a tag sale. Not as fancy, but much more real. After 22 years, it’s got to be hard to see the home where you raised your kids and built a family be taken apart and sold to strangers. But it was time for Luann to move on and write the next fabulous chapter of her life, as well as unburden herself of the past. (I need to start thinking about doing some of that in my life in Great Barrington. As my Mom would say, “Only when you’re good and ready, and not before that.”) I was excited to see Luann’s new house and watch her new beginnings flourish. I’m so proud of her.

So this was the weekend to reconnect with the girls I knew and meet the "new girls” I hadn’t met. Meeting Kristen and Carole was a breeze. They strolled into the estate sale with Heather and were as kind and as a welcoming as I expected them to be. Very, very sweet. I have to admit, I was a little nervous to meet the whole gang (operative word: gang), but I figured my closet helps me keep up with the best of them, and for this weekend, it was all “Hamptons Country Chic.”

At the cocktail party that night, I finally met Bethenny…at last! I was excited and a bit nervous, since she has quite the reputation. And all the good things I’ve heard…they were right! All the girls seemed happy to see her, but there was some sort of weird tension with Ramona that I didn’t really understand. It was almost like a Mexican standoff —a designer standoff, but a stand off. I was surprised to see Ramona “KellyBensimoning” Bethenny. It was weird and pretty tense, to be honest. It appeared to be about some brunch plans on a Sunday, but beneath the surface, it felt more like a timeless power struggle. Not comfortable with all that, and I’d hoped the next day would go smoother after it was all sorted out.

Honestly, I don't care where I go to brunch, as long as there’s food and good company. After that night, I was mostly concerned with getting through the weekend and making friends and/or figuring out who I had to keep my eye on. Ideally, I wanted to have a fun girls' weekend, not have to be the "hostess with the mostest" for once, and just get to relax...NOT!

For me, that weekend was mainly about supporting Ramona and really letting her know that I was there—that we were all there—for her, and that I understand what she is going through. After a long, happy marriage, divorce is a real bitch. Part of you dies. It’s that serious. Especially after 25 years…that’s a quarter-century! As much as I am so sad Richard is no longer here, I know it’s over, it’s ended, it’s done. I have to go on without him. In a weird way, this allows me a freedom to cope with what’s in front of me and continue with a new life. With divorce, you don’t have that “luxury.” (Weird way of putting it, but there’s a peace that comes with a solidified, unchangeable event that has no tomorrow.) Divorce, of course, keeps two people going, rebuilding their lives, and you know all about it. Whether through friends or social media—or even tabloids, in some cases. You know about their next act. It can be really difficult. After a divorce, you have to untangle your life emotionally and financially with expensive lawyers and sometimes in the public eye, though in front of family and close friends can sometimes be more draining than a tabloid can be.

In the end, if there ever really is an end to a divorce, you end up splitting your life up in half… (but it’s really “half of the half,” because the lawyers took most of it), only to run into the bastard in the grocery store with a new woman two weeks later. That’s a pretty crappy situation. You know what they say, "Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together." All true, but boy…the process sure is daunting!

Signing off, see you next week!
xxx

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