And so here is what I know for sure: I know that I never changed towards Alexis. I was the same friend I have always been -- straight-forward, honest, and fair (rules apply both ways). I say this because Alexis always asked to stay out of the fight with Tamra and I. She said she wanted to stay neutral and that we both had good points. Well when the tables are turned her same rules don't apply to me and that bothers me. I really wanted nothing more than to stay out of their fight this season. Think about it, you don't see me running around with the other ladies talking smack about Alexis to the other woman, and the girls actually confirmed that I always defended Alexis to them in Costa Rica. I simply told my friend some things she obviously was not wanting to hear in a very non-confrontational, non-aggressive, "I care enough about you to tell you the truth" way. So for her to be playing "Poor me, Gretchen was so mean to me" is ridiculous. I'm not buying it, nor am I going to be the scapegoat.
Another question that keeps coming my way, from both the audience and even Alexis, has been why I decided to bring some things up on camera. I'm sorry did I miss something aren't we on a "reality" show? The whole point of this show is to discuss issues at hand on camera, not off camera. We are expected to have an opinion about things and the other cast members -- good or bad. I am not going to do things only off-camera because that would make me unauthentic. If Alexis specifically asked me not to share something on camera or told me something she said she wanted to keep something private, I would respect that and not discuss a personal thing that I knew she didn't want discussed, but the Fox Five gig and the Costa Rica talk was not one of those topics. If you want everything to be discussed off camera then maybe you shouldn’t be on camera. Just a thought.
Bottom line, I care about Alexis and wish her well. I hope she continues to do what makes her happy, and I hope one day we can make amends. But right now there is just too much hurt and question in my mind if that friendship is what is best for me right now, so I have chosen to step back. I know a lot of you might not understand that right now, but remember there is a lot that is not captured on camera or always shown.
The next question I get a lot of is if Tamra and I are still friends -- and the answer is yes. We talk all the time and have really enjoyed becoming real friends. No it is not fake!!! Even though at times it still seems very strange because of all the past issues, the fact of the matter is that when I forgive I forgive. It's not a half-ass thing. I just move forward. Tonight's moment between her and I is really is what created the space to truly just move on because Tamra finally gave me the validation that I knew I deserved way back when she was questioning me.
Gretchen your naughty naughty lady I thought you had a mind of your own. you we're never Alexis friend
Gretchen I meant to mention also; Isn't it a little strange how much nicer Vickie and Alexis are now. Recon it has anything to do with them not being bff with Tamra? It's going to stick to you if you hang on too long. You were much more likable when you were Alexis friend.
I really think your the only real person on the show, including Slade. I like Alexis, but you can not be a real Christian and dress and be so vain. Heather and Tamra stink, because of them I have quit watching the show, I tried it was just so boring. Good luck Gretchen.
Gretchen, you used to be my FAVORITE! Since you have been hanging out with TAMRA, you are a mean girl, how could you let her influence you? She is a mean spirited awful person and is only happy when she is putting someone down! Please stop hanging out with Tamra, she is truly evil!
Love ur new shorter hair style!, really flatters you, was getting so tired of seeing all these older woman with there horsetails & I guess they were under the illusion it made them look younger...your knew cut does however make you look younger.
You, Heather and Tamar are the biggest bullies! It's amazing how immature and social misfits you all can be even with all the money you have. I can't imagine a world where I tell all my friends how to act and what to say. If you were truly Alexis friend you would just say that's Alexis so what, love her anyway...I mean really what she was saying was no big deal... except it was a threat to you, Tamar and Heather because the three of you are very insecure. No class, It's sad to see women treat each other like that. No heart.
Twintastic I agree! She is afraid of Tamara. Tamara can't have more than 1 friend at a time. Have you noticed? Also, everyone has to be on her side as far as who is being picked on. I guess Gretchen forgot what it was like. I truly think Tamara has mental issues. I've never seen someone cry with no tears, Tamara can.
@Twintastic I think ur wrong about that, a real friend doesn't tell you what u want to hear, but the truth.. Alexis was going around to high end retail stores & treating employee like they were dirt now that she thinks she hit the big time, oh how fast they forget where they came from. She needed a reality check, I for one could not tolerate a pretentious friend or someone who talked down to the working class, not cool & not Christian.
Well you and Tamara have started to act like mean girls already. Pitiful. Still not pass what you did to Alexis last year. I would not want you for a friend. You and Alexis were so close and you all ganged up on her saying she talks about what she has, so does Heather. I hope as the season goes on, you and Tamara grow up.
You calling yourself a good friend to Alexis is actually insulting not only to Alexis, but to all the viewer's!! Because you must think were are a bunch of idiots to believe that.....
You call yourself a good friend to Alexis. REALLY! A real friend would have taken her off to the side and said those things. A REAL friend would not of allowed or sat at table of grown ass women and participated in what happen in Costa Rica. Us adults call that bullying and cowardly that you gang up on a person in a group,(highschool) because you are to weak to do it alone. I don't recall in any of the episodes of Alexis standing by and watching this while Tamra & Vickie did this to you. Maybe I missed one??? Why is ok that Heather can have a lavish party
flash the fact that she is giving away a real diamond, but it's not ok that Alexis talks about the nice things she has??? I think you're afraid of Tamra in hence she is your new BFF.
I can't believe Slade would have the nerve to call Vicki a liar!! Lmao!! He better take a long hard look at Gretchen!! She is a notorious liar!!
I always thought you were good hearted and well intentioned. I have to say though that your friendship with Tamra seems to have changed you not for the better. Be friends but be careful not to take on her catty-ness , sarcasm and mean-spiritedness. That wasn't you before this friendship and it was one of the reasons I liked you the most. You can be friends with someone and recognize their downfalls. Tamra is mean spirited and pretty immature. Please don't lose your class by becoming comfortable with her ways of handling situations.
To clarify, I think you are both beautiful women, but you must recognize the extreme level of insecurity Tamra as, it is what makes her lash out so I appropriately. When you are that insecure, you think everyone is always talking about you, you can't get out of your own head...you can't relax, kid around nicely with people or augh at yourself. Gretchen, you seem very confident which makes me think you don't recognize the depth of Tamras insecurity. I don't think she's crazy...just very insecure.
Incredible! Not sure if camera is making you out to be a teenage bully from high school, but you certainly are coming off that way....serious! This is the one time girl I would be reading the negative post!
Wow, you are being mean already? Don't do that to yourself. I have enjoyed you because you're funny and seemed so caring. Last season I did see your personality change for the worse. Don't be Tamra's follower PLEASE. I like Alexis and you should not let Tamra's opinions about her fall onto you.
FYI,, Clam bakes are an actual dining event. Usually on a beach. They are very popular and perhaps if you were a bit more cultured in cuisine you'd know that.
The fact that you hang around with Tamara is reflecting very badly on you! Karma is a "B," so
you and Tamara better buckle up! I'm sorry, you're a talentless bimbo, you and Tamara are perfect for each other! BTW, lose some of the make-up, who goes out of their house like that??
I know you think you were Alexis's friend, but the things you say to her (like pointing out Fox 5 called you first) or behind her back (to your new BFF Tammy) says you were never the person I thought you were, and I am really disappointed. What you put out into the world, always comes back.
Gretchen, can't believe you are still trying to sell us that you didn't betray Alexis last season... wow!
And for the record, I know you're happy that Slade FINALLY got a job, but he is a grown man with childen. Having a job is just the minimum.
lovelymimi And when Gretchen said that Slade got a job, etc, cause some people were saying he didn't, the one who said that the most was her new bff TAMRA !
Alexis wasn't bullied? What nerve!
I was just wondering. Is it possible to do some kind of imitation stone?
Alexaii Yes, Tamra and Heather bullied the heck out of her. I give Alexis props for trying to stay calm and speaking up to these witches.
Gretchen, I truly hope that you and Slade find it your hearts to make amends with Vicki and Alexis. I am one of your and Slade's biggest supporters.
I do not condone the behavior and conduct displayed by Vicki and Tamra, which solidified lack of emotional maturity on their part. I know that you and Slade are better than this and I am optimistic that you both will take the higher road.
Used to like you Gretchen but now that you've been tarred with Tamras toxic brush and become a mean girl cannot stand you anymore. Alexis was a loyal friend to you when Toxic Tamra gave you such a hard time.........wow look at how you repay her for being a loyal friend to you, with friends like you, she doesn't need enemies.
you're friendship with alexis is nothing...because you are friends with tamra now and you guys only know how to have one friend at a time. since you became friends with tamra, she and viki are no longer friends either. as soon as you became friends with tamra all you guys did was make fun of alexis...which means that you were never her friend and just using her when tamra was being a b*tch to you. and you blame alexis for you guys not being friends when you're to blame...more.
Gretchen, you and your hair look beautiful as usual. Congrats to Slade on his new position. it sounds like this is something he enjoys, sorry i am unable to hear him.
Not much to say except I will be watching and will comment more.
To my Myrna Loy and William Powell, the dynamic duo!
Gretchen, Tamra and Brand(y)=3 pit bulls that turned on their friends....I thought Gretchen had more cooth than that...
aries9 You forgot Heather. Leave Brandy out of the group. She has a foul mouth, but you can't compare her to the three pit bulls of orange county.
Gretchen, I have had your back from the beginning. Those women were horrible to you, especially the evil Tamra. Out of all of the Housewives, in all of the cities, she is the most mean spirited and nasty women. It's almost like she has mental problems. Why on earth would you be friends with the likes of Tamra? My opinion of you completely changed when you decided that you would grace her with your friendship. How could be friends with someone so mean, nasty and evil? I don't respect women like her. She is bottom of the barrel!
Just saw your hair on the new season and I love it! Do you have a shampoo? You are missing a major branding opportunity. Its the hair girl, go for it. You are such a beautiful woman and with that comes a lot of bs. Cut your losses with Alexis and move on. I would say the same for Slade but you love him so this fan will be there for you, if he is who you choose and love. As long as he treats you right and he needs to get a job outside of the Gretchen Rossi ventures, then go for it. Life is short. You are fun girl to watch. Live, love, enjoy!
I was really hoping they would ditch you this year. You are skeavy and as fake as your lips and hair. Not that I mind enhancements, but OWN them, especially if you are hawking hair care products.
The worst part of your coming back is having to see your slimy boyfriend; totally makes my skin crawl. Actually, I am not sure I am even going to watch this season. The only two that interest me is Vicki and Heatther, and Heather only to see if she has wised up about you and is the nice person I initially thought she was. While Alexis has never been a favorite, I am wondering if there will be improvement for her as well as some of her faults were pointed out and also maybe being burned by you and trailer park Tamara will have given her life lessons as well.
Gretchen, This is the first time I have ever posted to a T.V. Show, having said that I have watched RHOC since the 2nd season. I don't watch any of the others. I think you got a lot of crap in the beginning and I think it's great that you are a working person. I think you would have been much better on Fox 5 than Alexis. I admit I wish she was not on the show. And now the new girl is a friend of hers....not good. However, you are being smart with your money, which I admire, don't marry Slade and take on his debt. Stay strong on that one, however hire someone to do his job so he can try to find one, or pay him for doing it. I like that you will get into it if you believe it's necessary but usually you take the high road . Good for you
Gretchen ,I do not know if you will come back and tell Alexis you are sorry for last season.She is the most loyal of all.By now deep down you know that.You said last season you did not like the drama with Alexis,You and the other 2 ladies.Vicki was not in on it.But i hope this season there is fun and support.I think by mid-season Alexis and Lydia will be friends with everyone.You and Vicki look like a lot of drama.And Laurie and Tamra.You and Vicki have never been friend on the show.On season 5 Alexis was friends with everyone even Tamra.Vicki has made up with her now.I think Heather and Alexis did not have a chance.But all the years i have watched you and Vicki have not ever been friends and this will be 5 seasons you 2 have been on together.You and Tamra the friendship did not really seem real.Time will tell.
You surprised me the most. Is it keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Tamara is a nasty bully and you have joined her club, Alexis deserves better. Where once I respected you that is no longer the case good luck Tamara will stab you in the back again eventually shame you could not of kept Alexis as a friend too. Housewives rules is it only to have 1Best friend.
How do you sleep at night, you total turn coat, you're just as bad as that free loader of a boyfriend of yours! You should be a shamed of yourself! Discusting! How much did they pay you to become Tamra's BFF.... You're not good enough to lick the poo off Alexis and Vicky's boots.... Shame on you Grechen!!!!! You make some good points but very bad decisions.....
OH MY DAYS, JUST WATCHED REAL HOUSEWIVES HERE IN THE UK..... I AM WONDERING WHEN ON EARTH YOU WILL WISE UP AND SEE THAT SLADE IS A FAME HUNGRY, MONEY GRABBING, PETTY CHILDISH FOOL... NO WONDER HE STRUGGLES TO SUPPORT HIS CHILDREN WHEN HE IS STILL A CHILD HIMSELF.. I AM A SINGLE PARENT, AND I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT I WORK FOR MINIMUM WAGE SOMETIMES 60+ HOURS A WEEK BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT A LOVING PARENT DOES....... HE REALLY GRATES ON ME HOW SLEAZY HE IS TOO.... YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY STUNNING AND WE CAN ALL SEE THAT YOU ARE TALENTED AND WILLING TO WORK FOR YOUR MONEY. I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU THAT YOU ENDED UP FALLING IN LOVE WITH A MAN THAT HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU AND SEES YOU AS A MEAL TICKET... I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR THAT ONE DAY YOU HAVE MET A NICE MAN WHO WILL EARN HIS OWN MONEY TREAT YOU WELL AND EVENTUALLY HAVE A FAMILY WITH YOU....................... FROM THE U.K. WE WOULD LIKE TO SAY WE LOVE YOU BUT BIN THE RUBBISH ( SLADE )
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Where do you find the polls? Do they do them for all of the RHs? I am so glad you shared this; it not only serves Gretchen right, but I always thought that the reason Tamara jumped to Gretchen was for more popularity, so it backfired on her, too! I hope Heather opens her eyes this season; except for her treatment of Alexis, I could really have liked her. I am hoping that she was duped by the other two rather than just wanting to be part of the mean girl team; I guess time will tell!!
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The poll i thought was over.Now they are on the last part of it.Teresa is ahead on jersey,And then Lisa on BH.Tamra jumped ahead of Vicki.Alexis Heather and Gretchen out.Someone said the polls are fake.I do not care who wins.I go with my heart.Alexis!I did Vote Vicki and tried to vote Lisa.only let me vote once.Go to Ryan Seacrest Page and you should fine the Polls!
leelew I totally agree with your posts. Gretchen obviously thinks Slade is the only guy she can get. He is the biggest loser. Gretchen need to grow up.
Gretchen, wow! I don't know how you RHs stand all the negative posts! You must be very strong women...all of you. You are witty, intelligent and pretty. Best wishes in Season 8.