Heather your husband calling Alexis "phony" after just meeting her was very shallow. You can tell he is really liking the limelight.

I think it's a little ridiculous how you see fit to have a "heart to heart" with a girl on how pretentious she is.You need to look in the mirror cause you are THE most outright pretentious woman  on the show.I think its tacky and grade schoolish how you and all the rest of the "Real Housewives of Orange County" are able to fight over such petty things,call each other out in front of everybody,and constantly gossip about one another.Truth is, you girls are no longer "real" but rather a group of drama queens trying to prove something to an audience.You guys and your lives are being exploited in the WORST way,and you should be embarrassed and ashamed of yourselves.

Ah, come on Heather...you need thicker skin. You made the girls feel nasty with your "shut down sex talk"...while I don't blame you...you were very blunt. Say it with a smile girl and giggle.

Heather, you bring such a fresh spunk to the show and I love it! Yes, I have seen you in movies. As for Alexis, I think that she's jealous of you and what you have in like. Your husband seems to fun and outgoing and maybe Alexis sees that Jim isn't like that. Keep being yourself! I love it and I think we all do.

you're such a breath of fresh air and I can't wait to watch you put "perfect" Alexis in her place!

Welcome to the cast! You are a strong person who actually has some functioning brain cells .... so it's not a surprise that Alexis feels threatened. I feel like every time Alexis opens her mouth to say something, I grow a little dumber. I can't watch her and am tempted to just skip the OC group altogether.

You are definitely opinionated, but also seem to try and temper it with considerateness. Always great when any of the housewives show some balance! Best to you and your family.

You need to lighten up...if you keep acting like you are better then everyone we won't want to watch you anymore. Who cares if on a "girls night" you talk about sex and men. That is what girls do...don't you have girlfriends??? If so what exactly do you all talk about...how much your house cost and who does what better???? Lighten up you sound like a prude!!!!

Git it gurl! You are fierce, and I love it!

I think your party idea was great! I love trying new things though, from Vick's fish in a bag to painting parties. People should embrace.

I'm glad you can hold your own. I was raised in Ca and have live din 3 western states and 3 Eastern ones. Very different sensibilities, so I get where you are coming from. I love the best of both sides, and both have their own pretensions as well. I think it is difficult to get great food in OC, but CA has many great dining options... don't sell it short. Especially North. 'Course I love my NY eateries as well.

I can't stand Alexis and felt her Jolie comment was ignorant. But this is a girl who compares herself to Katie Couric. She is pretentious.

I still think sex talk is fine, though. Not personal details with strangers, but a joke here or there is fun.

It is also refreshing to see a beauty who is not fashioned by Vegas. It is unfortunate that this is the perspective of CA because I know so many beautiful but natural looking CA gals. Personally, I prefer Vicki's hair to G, A, or T because it doesn't look phony. People who look too pageanty look a bit ridiculous. I actually think T looks better with a smaller chest; now she just needs to smarten up her hair for her pretty face.

Anyway, it is nice to have you on. I am enjoying watching Alexis squirm a bit.

Bravo please post my comment. Thank you.

Heather, I don't understand why you were upset with your husband. I think he has a nice since of humor and the two of you balance each other out, so far. Just remember how you want to be represented and try to be genuine; this is what the audience would like to see. I also think you need to loosen up and allow your husband to be himself. I don't know you or your husband, but to me his comments came off light with a sense of humor not offensive. The both of you look like a loving couple. I think you; Vicky and Gretchen seem more genuine out of the cast members. Vicky is the serious is on the side and Gretchen is the fun side. You are doing the right thing by getting to know each and every woman. I am aware that the show is already taped. I am also aware that most of the people on reality shows are there for promoting whatever service or cause. I think everybody on Reality TV just need to not go way over the top and everybody need to remember what is shown cannot be erased.

Dislike!

My honest opinion:

I think you are fake and are trying too hard, you make Alexis look like an angel which is scary. Good luck with the show but tone it down, I mean where did you come from (not location but family heritage), it's lacking and you married into the money which is quite obvious...Good luck, please turn it around.

Love. Love. LOVE you! Everything you said is competely spot on. Alexis' behavior was so transparent and catty and pure jealousy that it was uncomfortable to watch. Her bitchy comments about not being married in 10 or 11 years and after were ridiculous. And isn't she supposed to be "Jesus Barbie" and yet she is making fun of you for not talking about your sex life? Odd. It is so nice to have someone on the shows that isn't TRYING SO HARD TO CONVINCE US THEY HAVE IT ALL (MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY ETC ETC ETC)....because you actually do and it's much more natural to watch.

Ugh.

Grow up and get lost.

When your husband called crawfish low rent is a testament to your artificial level in this life. Yes you have a large house and big cars but so did most of the Dictators in this world.

Crawfish may ot be your bag but real wealth with intellect would have been gracious and try it and not insult the host.

The nouveau riche is dull and tiring

Heather I think you are amazing and such a breath of fresh air! Your husbands jokes remind me of my husbands humor too. Keep being you my dear and it's very obvious that Alexis is sooooo jealous of you. Love your East Coast style.

Maybe, it's a Jewish thing... My husband does the exact same thing in front of other people. He makes jokes making fun of our marriage. I get sooo embarrassed. Although, I swear I laughed out loud by Terry's jokes. I think he is really funny.

I cannot believe your husband called Vicki's dinner "low rent" not one but twice? So, is this what you folks are all about better than us?

LIGHTEN UP! LIGHTEN UP! LIGHTEN UP! Enjoy life and get off your high horse. Your husband seems genuine and real. You don't! You seem very concerned about what others will think of you. I feel sorry for your husband. I'm sure he had to hear your mouth over trying to tell some light jokes. Get over yourself and stop being so uptight! Be REAL, and stop trying to make like your perfect.

Heather- You are lucky to have a wonderful husband who provides you with such an amazing life. If I were you, I'd give him a little slack. Maybe cracking jokes is just his way to try to be friendly with new people. Being so sensitive and not having a sense of humor about it just makes you seem stuck-up and irritable. Just a viewers opinion. On the other hand, I think you are very brave to try and attempt friendships with these women. I'm sure it hasn't been easy. You are right on about Alexis. She is jealous of you and she should be. You have a beautiful home, wonderful husband and you are very classy. I think you bring something good to the show. I hope we get to see you loosen up a bit.

I thought it was funny that after 12 years of marriage you were so easily hurt by your husband's obvious joking. He clearly adores you for who you are! Yes, you were kind of a pain at dinner, but you totally owned it. Alexis is so obviously jealous -- I love that she refers to herself as an 'anchor' yet completely judges you about being an actress ("Um, Angelina Jolie is an actress!" And then she compares herself to Katie 'Keurig') When you actually ARE/were an actress! There goes Alexis, being such a great Christian. I love it. Looking forward to seeing more of you -- and seeing more of Alexis squirming!

You are fabulous and have a brain compared to some of the other woman on the show. I think you have a lot to offer and could see you mesh well with the BH ladies... very classy and smart. Don't change

Smart and classy...you're fabulous Heather!

Heather,I think you and your husband are great. I love your husbands sense of humor! He gives you a hard time and that's what husbands do. You can tell he loves you. He's totally joking around and if people don't get it, well, they are dumb. I think you pose a huge threat to these girls. You are beautiful, very intelligent, out spoken, have lots of cash, a loving hubby, but most of all, you are very gracious and real! I find your life and family way more interesting than the rest of them and hope you continue to be "just you" and not who bravo wants you to be. Nothing is wrong with ordering food the way you want it and it should always be done how you want it. I saw nothing wrong with your behavior in any of the episodes so far. You didn't storm off when your husband made comments about your marriage. You just walked away because you're so used to your husbands joking around and probably weren't sure they would get his humor because they don't know him yet. Alexis is jealous and poor! She has a wannabe life and is not too bright. Think she needs to be taken off the show. She's dull!!! So glad you're on the show. Orange county HWs was getting boring and you have given the show a pick me up. Best wishes!

I loved the idea of your party! What a cute studio.

Why did your husband call crawfish low rent? There are rich people in the south that eat crawfish! Your husband is very rude.

Did anybody know... what did the restaurant's name that Heather and her husband have dinner ??

I would like to know the name of the restaurant that Heather and her husband had dinner...

Heather..Alexis is jealous of everyone. As Tamra said .."She wants your life". Your husband is great, sometimes you seem to not like him so much. Just what I've noticed. Your a nice new addition though.

Bravo almost never posts my blogs but I'll give it another try since I feel really strongly about Ms. Dubrow.

You are frankly one of the most pretentious women I've seen on TV in a long time. Obviously, you're a delicate soul since the first thing in your blog was to defend your actions and family. Not sure you've come to terms with this just yet so let me be the first to bring you up to speed. YOU ARE ON A REALITY SHOW! That means, bad, good or otherwise. Own it and stop making excuses. And the viewers are entitled to their opinion and our opinions are based on what we see. So seeing that your actions, words, etc have been recorded on tape, we can only hope you've learned to "act" like a civilized and "classy" woman. Speaking of acting, I've done my homework and it appears you were on a hit show in the early 2000's with some big names but shortly thereafter it was cancelled? One can only speculate that your pretentious attitude and poor "acting" (notice the need for quotation marks when I write acting because honestly, I haven't seen enough to validate your actress title) may have been the demise of the show? I wouldn't want to work with you. I feel bad for the OC ladies. You married a successful man, you came from NY (why is that constantly brought up anyway? If Cali doesn't fit you just right, go BACK to NY. Cali will be alright without you in it.) Two episodes and I'm officially over you. What a waste of space. Alexis is looking really good right now compared to you and that's not really saying much. Ahhh....relief... thank goodness for the freedom to blog!

OMG!!!! As if Orange County wasn't pretentious enough ! And then came ...... Heathaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh! She' Jewish, you know. She's an actress, you know. She's a singer, you know. I think I now know enough about............. Heathaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

Hello Heather, I have never had very much time in the past to really sit down and watch every episode on the last few seasons. However, you have definitely caught my attention!! And I have started to make time! I enjoy your confident strong personality it's so intimidating and it's very amusing to watch Alexis feel intimidated and react with ignorant, negative   responses I find it just hilarious! Please give her examples of how a woman  should really behave instead of being insecure and jealous of what others have. I also wanted to comment on your husbands "corny jokes" i think it's hilarious my fiancé is exactly the same way! He is a doctor as well, maybe there is some type of connection there! but his jokes to say the least are not funny and he thinks they are hysterical! I would love to have my fiancé and your husband in the same room they would probably fall in love with each other!.. And laugh at their own silly jokes. Amazing doctors but terrible comedians! But we have to love them! You're definitely a star and wish you the best on the show and any other projects you may be working on! Best of luck!

Aw, I loved your hubby's sense of humor! So far you a breath of freash air and the painting party ended up being a perfect idea.. no drama! I wasn't a fan of Tamra and Gretchen pushing Vicki's buttons but all in all it was refreshing to see something new.

Heather your awesome and a great new addition. The other ladys wish they had it together as much as you do.

Heather, I totally get your exasberation with your husband. My husband tries to come off with jokes and he just can't. He has no timing and he forgets half the words he needs to complete the joke and it sometimes comes off like our marriage sucks. I forgive him too and BEG him to not to try to tell jokes! It just doesn't work for him. I love him very much and we have been married for 28 years. You go girl!!

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Heather grew up in wealthy family and went to one of the most prestigious universities in the country. No wonder this woman is CLASSY, WELL-SPOKEN, and INTELLIGENT. If you have ever been around this caliber of person you would know right off bat that this lady is a true upper class woman. Just for contrast, Tamara is the classic example of marrying into money, and it is extremely apparent.

Someone obviously has a case of the green eyed monster.

I'm really getting to the point that I can't stand people who find ways to trash someone's character just because that person has money. Having money and being a decent person can go hand and hand. Get over it.

And I love you Heather. Great addition to the show.

Do you watch the Real Housewives of Atlanta, Heather? Do you know who Marlo is? The one who was in jail and likes to give etiquette lessons? I kind of feel like you two are kindred spirits. You are trying too hard to act like you are a step above everybody. Real manners are about making EVERYONE feel comfortable. Glad I have TiVo so I can start fast forwarding through your parts.

Heather, I like you, I really do. Poor Terry, he was trying to make you comfortable, and it backfired on him. I get it. Alexis is a jealous piranha, and you assumed she would take Terry's jokes as signs of weakness, which she did. No worries. Her jealously will consume her. BTW... The comments about her having so many procedures, she doesn't need explaining... HILARIOUS!!! GO GIRL!!

P.S. Your house is AMAZING!!! FINALLY a REAL affluent person!

There have been lots of snide comments made by other women too but you clearly have it out for Alexis. Geez, I don't think you are, but YOU sound jealous of her! Her comments were not that horrific! Gretchen called you pretentious last episode and you barely addressed it. And yes your husbands' commemt about Vicki's dinner was rude and you agreed with him.....snobs.

Hiya Heather! FINALLY a real, down to earth girl with spice in the group! (I can't count Tamra due to previous seasons). I love your comments, I get where you're coming from (even though it sometimes come out wrong) and I love your brains! Your kids are simply amazing, so sweet. Your husband is such jokester, he has my sense of humour (I have even said some of those jokes myself..I'm also Jewish) Lastly, you entertain us and thank you for that!

I absolutely love that they've added a pale, brunette, intelligent woman to this show. You are a bit on the "hoity toity" side but you also have incredible wealth which tends to make people act that way inadvertently. Alexis is clearly jealous of the confidence you exhume and has probably lost a great deal of hers due to her husbands constant mistreatment and loss of her wealth.

The painting party was a great idea and something fun for the ladies to do although I think they would have preferred a sit around, drink and gossip party. Good luck here, I hope you stick around - this white trash, blonde girl group is making my head hurt (especially superficial, wannabe Christian Alexis).

I am not sure about you just yet.You seem intelligent and well spoken BUT you also seem uptight, impersonal, condescending, and as if you are on a whole other level- above everyone else's . You are definietly trying TOO HARD and so far turning me off. Please loosen up and cut your husband some slack- he seems like he is the one who has to have a "personality" for the both of you, just sayin.

You are a classy woman and clearly Alexis is extremely jealous of you. She does a"spot" on local tv once a week and thinks that makes her a star!

I can't help but think that you have these feelings towards Alexis because Tamara warned you about her. Tamara is the mean girl and put her opinions in your head about Alexis. Give Alexis another chance as well as all the girls. I thought your painting party was such a good idea and it looked like a lot of fun.

Heather, you may be the only O.C. Blog that I will respond to. I understand when you say your husband embarassed you, it was their first time to meet him and believe me these "girls" are trouble. I totally agree with you on the sex talk they are all very trashy when it comes to parties and how they behave. Good luck on this show. Oh by the way, please tell your husband that his comment in regards to the Cajun food being served was "low rent", made him look very stupid. He should watch that.

The party was a great idea. Vicki and Alexis were annoying at your party. They are more than willing to fling stones from their glass houses and it's just irritating. Glad you're on the show. You'll be able to add some class where those two lack it!

Heather, Excited that you have joined the cast and I really look forward to watching you. You have grace and appear to be very intelligent. I really hope that you speak your mind and stand up to what is right. I almost quit watching because I was getting tired of watching the women act very barbaric and ridiculous. I hope you can show these women what real class looks like.

I like you. :)

I think Alexis is wonderful and she's just intimidated by you because she's in a vulnerable state re: stupid Peggy.

Heather, I think you are just lovely! Finally, a women with some class on the RHOC! My husband is a jokester as well. And, a lot of his jokes are at my expense too :) Good Luck w/ the other girls and I'm looking forward to the future episodes.