Cast Blog: #RHOC

Starting Over

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Starting Over

Heather explains why she's giving up on having Alexis as a friend.

Listen, life is short. Going around being annoyed with people and not speaking is so ridiculous. I was with Terry and the kids the other night at the circus. We were having an amazing time at the pre-show. As we were walking out I saw Alexis and Jim with their kids. My stomach turned. Completely awkward, and honestly, not a way I'd like to go through life.

If you saw the after show of WWHL last week when I was on I answered a lot of questions about what has transpired between me and Alexis.

(Check out more clips here.)

The part that struck me the most was that at the reunion when during lunch, I came in to offer her some Champs and we spoke. Then, when we were done (many, many grueling hours later) we spoke again. We had this great talk. Alexis then texted me an apology for her part in our troubles, and I texted her back something equally apologetic for the way things had gone down in Costa Rica. I was very hopeful that we could have another start. A few days later she made some nasty remarks about me and my restaurant and hinted that there were other things she had held back at the reunion. .

I've always told Alexis, I don't deal in rumor. I comment on what I see and what I feel. It wasn't nice to give an interview like that -- especially after our recent talk. That's when I decided I couldn't have a relationship with her. I don't trust her. Alexis is not a bad person. I just don't trust her with my friendship. It's too hard. Everything you say seems to get twisted. This was the final blow for me. She had just thanked me for not allowing people to discuss Jim and his past business dealings, etc. She turned around and started maligning my business.

There is no rule that says you have to be friends with everyone. Unfortunately, I don't see a future of a relationship between me and Alexis. I wish she had taken the high road in that interview and just said -- we are working on things. Or, when asked about my business or my life outside the show, just said "I don't know about those things," which is what I always say when asked about Jim and Alexis' past business and monetary issues. Not my business, let them speak for themselves.

So, in light of the fact that we were trying to start fresh, I now understand she won't let that happen.

I harbor no ill will towards Alexis and her family. I'm sad that it has gotten to this place.

Meanwhile, I'm glad the season is over. It has been positively exhausting for all of us. I think reality TV is fascinating. Exploring relationships. The hard part is we have to have an opinion about each other. I've tried to be as honest with everyone as possible. Sometimes it was received well, sometimes not so much.

I'm certainly not a perfect person by any stretch of the imagination. I'd like to think I've learned something this season, about myself and my relationships.

I want to thank you all for allowing me and my family into your homes each week. We are grateful for your support and your (usually) constructive criticism.

I hope you all enjoy the "Lost Footage" episode next week at our regular night and time. It should be fun.

Have a great summer, be safe and enjoy your families!

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