Tamra Barney

Tamra discusses Alexis' nose job drama and her engagement.

on Mar 15, 20120

Its safe to say that My bunko party went from bad 80's dos to bad 80's tudes.

Let me start off on a good note. I AM ENGAGED! I cant even believe it myself, I am still in shock. What a difference two and half years make. Check out this week's issue of US Weekly. Thank you to all the wonderful people that have posted such nice things on my Facebook and Twitter (@tamrabarney).

Let me just start off by saying (again) YES all the guys were invited. . .even Jimmy Boy. To hear Alexis say Jim was NOT invited just blows me away. He chose not to attend. You see me walk over to her and whisper in her ear. I was telling her that Jim was invited and he did not respond to the invite. I would NEVER invite all the men and not Jim, My God, I even had Slade and he just ripped on me.

I was really put in a bad place and was not about to choose sides. I was actually speechless for once in my life. I heard the screaming and the yelling but after a while it sounded like white noise. I can understand both sides. It's not cool for a man to make fun of a woman's looks. However, there has been so much fighting going on back and forth between everyone. where do you draw the line? I told Vicki that "I was removed because I choose to be removed." I just can't take the back and forth fighting anymore. I figure If I am above it, maybe it will go away? Guess what, it did! Sometimes you have to take a step back and stop playing the blame game. It is a vicious circle and you get pretty dizzy while your in it.

268 comments
dmkennedy
dmkennedy

I watched your  reunion show Part I.  What a mess!  Alexis has never been one of my favorites but by what right did you "ladies" feel free to attack her, ticking off all her faults, some real and some imagined.?  Heather  who has been posing as the nice one, really blew her cover.  Like Caroline Manzo, this episode was eye-opening and disappointing.

deergreen
deergreen

hi   I am the bggest fan! Gretchen you & Tamara should plan  getting pregnant about the same time  that would b so much fun.I am sorry to c Vicki so unhappy about herself and her own personal life that she wants everyone else to b unhappy .All she needs is alittle work done to her face,then she can find herself a real man instead of taking not 2nds but like 5ths or 6ths place and getting a loser !

Dorothy KennedyViewer
Dorothy KennedyViewer

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Viewer from Livermore
Viewer from Livermore

You have come a long way (for the better) since your first episodes - we all know why. Regarding the "snarky" comments about Alexis and her rhinoplasty, so what? If it was medical necessity or not, so what? I would venture a guess that those who have had procedures do so to look better, but if anyone comments that they notice a difference it's denied. Do you really think that memories are so short that you wouldn't notice? Who cares if Alexis or anyone else has surgeries or procedures? Why is yours OK and hers not? Because you have to create drama. If everyone would own up to it the conversation would stop there.

LolaMN
LolaMN

Tamra: your boobs look AH MAZING! and don't listen to anyone! I have been a long time viewer of the housewives and you are my favorite this season! you seem as though you have come to such an amazing place in you life and it seems like you finally know who you are and what you want. that what i wish for myself and everyone!! good for you! I wish you the best!!! you go gurl!!!

jenny
jenny

You are not a nice person...Watching you and Vicki on the show makes me sick...maybe that's why I dont watch anymore. Beverly Hills all the way...

JannieLovesBravo
JannieLovesBravo

I have to agree with Pia Diddly, Alycat and so many others. Tamra is a troublemaker who shows her ignorance each time she opens her mouth. At least Alexis is trying to be a good person--you seem to do just the opposite. Watch out Heather! This one is the posterchild for the saying, "Keep your friends close. Keep your enemies closer."

Entertainment
Entertainment

All I can say is your entertainment! I hope it's all acting and that you don't really act that way off camera. Though I must say the other women are not that fun to watch...spread some goodness!

betsy4444
betsy4444

Tamra, You are "TOO" confused to be engaged. You left Simon, you got with Eddie, you were going to move in with Eddie, you want to be independent, you decided not to move in with Eddie, you put another man's hand on your breast, you got engaged to Eddie, you dropped Vicki, your Gretchen's bff and you cried about signing the divorce papers. Are you ok?

Meredith75
Meredith75

Tamara your a grown woman..your name calling and mean girl antics are befitting toddlers and teenagers...it's disturbing to see you stir the pot and pit the ladies against each other. Please quit it, it makes you look mean.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

Letter to Bravo Producers:

Should there be a Season 8 of RHOC, please give serious consideration to removing Tamra and Vicki as cast members. I realize that Bravo is looking for drama to keep ratings up (and these 2 are the queens of drama!) however I think simply having an ENTERTAINING show will also keep the ratings up. The viewers have repeatedly stated that they don't enjoy watching all the fighting and venom that these 2 women bring to the show. Vicki has lost touch with reality and it's becoming unbearable to watch her. As for Tamra, this is the woman who used a public fountain as a bidet several seasons back and has gone steadily downhill since then. She is the poster child for white trash. These women don't represent the TRUE ladies of Orange County and I BEG YOU to replace them. Thank you!!!!

LyndaS
LyndaS

Tamra, I like your irreverent personality. You're funny, yet gorgeous. I'm not sure you're such a solid friend, though. This season, in every ep, you make a negative comment about VICKI. You tell everyone and their cousin that Vicki can be jealous, upset easily, combative, etc. If you were her friend (er, best friend) that you vowed to be, then why bash her? She never insults or criticizes you to others or in her blog. She's been a loyal friend to you for years. As for your comments regarding the vacuous Alexis. Well, that's like shooting fish in a barrel. "There's arguing with stupid". Point made. Now, it's time to ignore that idiot. You have more important things to address. Take care and stay happy.

Ali beth
Ali beth

I have a boyfriend that pays a ridicules amount of alimony. I commend you for turning done alimony. That is really big of you.

MalaChristine14
MalaChristine14

The way you treat Alexis is exactly how you use to treat Gretchen. The only difference is Gretchen has a lot more sense and is more witty then Alexis. Get over your insecurities, it is getting pathetic.

Tina Oprean
Tina Oprean

Tamra, I am so happy for you and Eddie! You two are a beautiful couple! Wish you the best of luck!

tvgirl2000
tvgirl2000

Tamra, I am awaiting the next episode about your breast implant removal. I have been contemplating this for 3 years. I am almost your age and your comments on this sound just like me. I hope you like it.

flarggy22
flarggy22

In response to Alycat9705, Amen.

Tami Mc
Tami Mc

You owe Alexis an apology. I have bad sinuses and so does one of my good friends. She had surgery almost every year. When my sinuses are hurting I just want to cut my face off. The cosmetic part was even part of the problem because it was totally closing off her one nasal passage. And I also have to say that when I'm having sinuses infections I don't think as clearly. I feel like I'm in a fog. So I don't always remember what I've said or done. I know that alot or most of the show is staged. I think they've asked you to pick a target for awhile and then move on to the next. Too sad.

miss lafang
miss lafang

Tamra, Will you stop saying negative comments about Slade. If you value your new friendship with Gretchen, you would stop jabbing on Slade. I saw the episode last night and you have to say something bad about Slade on the confession camera. It's unnecessary.

Angie81
Angie81

Tamera your using Gretchan to make yourself look sane and Vicki insane.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

Once again you couldn't make it through an episode without insulting Alexis. What is your problem, Tammy? You called her an idiot, but you're not exactly a scholar yourself! Your language is embarassing (and I'm not just talking about the vulgarities....you make statements such as "She doesn't know nothing about my life!" and let's not forget the oft repeated "Cyst and decease" letter). You are a joke, and making fun of someone else's intelligence when you CLEARLY are uneducated yourself....well now that's just plain stupid.

lol21
lol21

Bravo what happened ot the fun OC housewives. Replace Tamara and the new housewives immediately. The OC is known for over-the-top fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

esther194
esther194

I sure don't understand how upset you got over signing your divorce papers - especially since it took so long, and you already have Eddie who seems much nicer than Simon. I ran out and bought myself a "divorce ring" to celebrate as soon as I got my divorce papers!

Pia Diddly
Pia Diddly

Tamra, You are such a beautiful and accomplished woman. You are intelligent, insightful, and have a great wry sense of humor.

But it seems you almost deliberately drag yourself into the gutter with truly crude and unnecessary trash talk. Since you are witty you don't need to make yourself the ugliest person in the room with bathroom grade remarks.

At one point you said you were a tomboy, athletic, you even spit - you are a man with a vagina. Nothing really original or humorous about that. Just crude.

And what's this with picking on Slade? A person has the right to be proud of their accomplishments even if they did take place in the past. Bicycling took up 10 years of his life and put him at a crossroads. Why so nasty about him bringing up that personal information?

You are so much better than your trash talk and hateful comments. Don't you know that?

Katie in Ct.
Katie in Ct.

Why is it when Eddie does something romantic, he's just the most wonderful guy in the world, but when Brookes is sending Vicki affirmations and romantic notes every day, it's not genuine. You are so demeaning and narcisstic it's embarrassing.

Jennifer Thiers
Jennifer Thiers

Tamra I am so happy to hear of your engagement. Forget all the haters...they're just jealous and don't understand the importance of being happy in life. I also loved your willingness to express the emotion of sadness at signing your divorce papers. I've been through the same thing and it IS really hard, no matter the circumstance. Don't feel bad that you have a sharp tongue sometimes. I say what I feel and mean what I say, too. You only live once. Might as well live honestly.

Cindy in Newport
Cindy in Newport

First, I want to say congratulations on your engagement!!! Very happy for you! Now, watching this week's episode, I have to say I thought you were a little over dramatic about signing the divorce papers. Girl, that marriage was over once you started seeing Eddie and seeing what a good relationship can be. I have been married and divorced twice, now married a 3rd time and extremely happy and we have been together 14 years now. While I understand that spending 15 years with someone is a long time, but it is even longer if it is an unhappy marriage for the most part. Not all things are meant to be forever even if that's what we expected them to be. Things happen for a reason, just saying... You seem to be in a very good place right now. Again, congratulations!

EveJo
EveJo

Tamra, The pictures of you and Eddie in US weekly are adorable! Hang on to that man!

Eve

Aloha808
Aloha808

Heather's blond helicopter friends are more interesting than you. I hope Bravo puts a couple of them on the show as replacements for you and Gretchen.

Liz328
Liz328

I love love love the dress you are wearing when getting on the helicopter. What style dress is that?

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

When you were at the table with Heather and her friends and you said " your guy's " was too funny. Did you finish highschool?

Viewer who should be working
Viewer who should be working

Tamra - Favorite OC housewife moment -- your reaction when Heather's pod-people blond friends are talking about travelling via helicopter -- "shut the bleep up" . YOU are beautiful inside and out and REAL!! Thanks for the gut laugh.

Nadiapeebee
Nadiapeebee

TAMRA! Congrats on the engagement. I was never into the housewives scene but have come to love it with you attitude and personality. You are a really outspoken and confident woman with your own opinions and not afraid to express them. I really respect you for making the decision to take our your breast implants. It just shows you are the strongest in the bunch and with brains ( no offence to the other women).

Lynn T
Lynn T

Congrats on your engagement.You and Eddie make a beautiful couple. Thanks for sticking with Vickie during Briana's health scare.You are a true friend. Great season this year.

betsy4444
betsy4444

Tamra, Why did you not tell Vicki that Slade was going to be at the party, when you were suppose to be best friends? Even though you and Gretchen are now bff's, you should have told Vicki so she could make the choice of going or not. Truth is, you knew that the situation would be bad and you stood back and waited and watched for the fireworks to begin. If you "thought" it wasn't going to upset Vicki, you would have told her before the party, right? I'm still trying to understand your motive for throwing Vicki under the bus.

Nancy~PV ESTATES
Nancy~PV ESTATES

Cracks me up how all the girls seem intimidated by heather but you and Vicki. Goes to show he other girls are insecure and uneducated. I get why you say what you say sometimes you aren't from Palos Verdes Estates but you run with the best of us.. with a smart mouth to boot...careful of the classless remarks and weak moments on camera but over all I think your funny.. kinda look like a gremlin..when your mad... LOL...I wish you all the happiness in the world with EDDIE and also I wanted to say Vicki can be to friendly to men. Vicki acts like a prude but I have seen her act differently at times.

kj1217
kj1217

Not sure why so many people thing Alexis is such a victim. Umm...I think Jim made it pretty clear last year he refused to attend any housewives events (remember the Alexis crying in the bathroom all night because she was alone at the party). I totally believe he was invited and refused to come. Alexis is not victim, look at the footage she lies and twists the truth on numerous occasions and uses her Christianity as a shield every time she is called out on it.

Katie in Ct.
Katie in Ct.

Why when Alexis made it clear all along that she's ALWAYS wanted a nose job, and now that she had to go under for her sinuses (which she OBVIOUSLY wasn't making up), it was the perfect time to have her nose done, did you sit there and mock her and tell her to OWN it when she clearly already HAD owned it?

jb5513
jb5513

TAmra-- go back and look at how you treated Gretchen in the past. You've chosen Alexis as your "target" this season.

Soncie
Soncie

Dear Fanfromdayone, or should I address you with your real name? Alexis In my opinion, the reason the OC housewives is going down is because ooof. wait for it. wait for iiitt... You my Duranged Alexis & Dysfunctional Jim. Now, back to Pinocchio & our regular scheduled program--already in session.

sweetbelle
sweetbelle

CONGRATS!!!!!!! U seem so much happier with Eddy and am so happy for u. Alexis is full of bananas!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is just jealous that Gretchen and urself r trying to get along and she is being left behind. Who cares if BORING JIM did not show up. He has no personality and Alexis is all talk dont let her comment get to u.

fanfrumdayone
fanfrumdayone

the reunion should be awesome....you have something negative to say about everyone...behind their backs. You only attack face to face when you know that others have your back. Looks like all will see you for what you are soon enough, pull the knives out of their backs and confront YOU this season. YOU have a serious self image problem. One week you are into "being your own woman" and the next week...after a private helicopter ride to BH, mind you, you are ready to walk down the isle with someone who is indeed hot, but with a drinking problem. Fun and free spirited? Hardly. OC Housewives took a downward turn once you parked your trailer in the gates. All who have written comments of praises to you must enjoy drama that is quite uncomfortable for most. Being a strong woman does not mean that you need to be a manipulating b****....it means that you can show etiquette, tolerance, independence, empathy and show grace under fire! ...but that would be less camera time for you =( you will need it cause men may have the money, but women choose the house that they buy. I know I would not buy a house from you...the new OC house wife didn't either....hmmmmmmm

iowafan
iowafan

I think Eddie has been a good influence on you. You are not as catty this season and I like you a lot more. Congrats on your engagement!

mary mac
mary mac

You are fun to watch however you really need to watch how you speak, sometimes you are very crass and unlady like. It really is not funny, just you look bad. Alexis is a very jelous person and it makes her ugly. I never did care 4 her. When she throws God into everything she looks stupid because thats her way of getting out of the subject at hand..

Juliejewel
Juliejewel

Tamra! I think you're fabulous! However, I admire you even more based on your strength when you talked about your hesitation of moving in with Eddie and putting your babies and independence first. The deep love you have for this man is apparent and I know first-hand (single mommy right here!) how challenging it can be to separate a romantic relationship from being a mother. I have so much respect for you and I'm sure you did a lot of soul-searching before taking the amazing leap of faith to decide to marry again. Congratulations, girl- so, so happy and excited for you!

Rberecca
Rberecca

Tamera, I just wanted to mention that when you talk to Vicki, you always have that "scared" look in your face, just like you had when you were talking to Simon. It's just an observation. Your relationship with Vicki is toxic girl. Get away from her.

Viewer2012
Viewer2012

I really don't like this woman I think she is a nasty person and just loves to cause nasty vibes to anyone that will give it back to her and that is why is is only nasty to certain people and I really think she needs to have a good look at her self before she gets on other people cases. She needs to start acting like a lady and not a bull in a china shop.

Wow...
Wow...

Tamra, I like you but wow how rude about Lex's even Vicki agrees that Alexis was having a procedure on her sinus and then decided what the hell have the nose done. And Lex's was owning up to it and said it. And calling her Pinocchio?? really what happened to killing with kindness? Also congrats on being engaged but just a few episodes ago you were freaking out about moving in together and wanted to be your own independent woman and take it slow for the kids? so what now you going to move in and get married and play housewife again? How does that work when just 2 episodes ago u were freaking out? I'm just a bit confused on all that.

mscaligirl1111
mscaligirl1111

Your so much fun to watch. Even when your being coniving.