Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki shares how hard this season has been -- and why she's so surprised by Tamra's turn.

on Jul 11, 20120

I told Tamra that I felt her friendship with Gretchen had a lot to do with it. . .and I still believe it. Gretchen obviously doesn't respect me or even like me, and although I wish we did have a good "working" relationship it's just not there.

When Tamra found out about Brooks past child support issues, it was a way for Gretchen to finally get her word out that I'm a HYPOCRITE and of course Tamra had to join in on that because she couldn't let Gretchen be alone in that fight. Personally, I thought she would have gone to bat for him, however she did the exact opposite what I thought she would do.

For a time, Eddie, Tamra, myself, and Brooks had a great relationship. We went to Mexico together to celebrate my birthday and Eddie's birthday months prior to the media exposing Brooks, and we told them our fears of introducing Brooks to the world. They both encouraged us and said we would show everyone our new boyfriends and to show how happy we both were. We spent many weekends together. Never once did Tamra even talk to me about her concerns of Brooks -- until months later. When I told her that I would never do anything to hurt her or Eddie, I wouldn't. There are many things that have not been disclosed about Eddie (or Tamra for that matter) and as a friend I would never want to deliberately hurt them or their relationship by disclosing anything negative about them. We were completely honest with them, as we trusted them with our relationship. I guess we were wrong. Where I come from, a true friend supports whatever decision one makes, unless it is life, financially or emotionally threatening. NONE of these are the case with Brooks or I.

211 comments
jbenny
jbenny

When will you realize that Briana and the others who express concerns about Brooks have your best interests at heart??

 

Vicki, you really need to grow up and stop the whoo-hooing and the drinking and the man-chasing.  This behavior does not flatter you.  It makes you look desperate.

 

Briana is my favorite.  She has a good head on her shoulders.  You should be proud of her and you should listen to her.  I think she is a good daughter..

pamela.l.osborne1
pamela.l.osborne1

Vicki, you are the OG on the show I am a big fan. Your the lady boss act like it. You need to step up and stop taking crap from people. Please Tamra and Gretchen are as fake as Alexis's diamond. I would never take crapoff them scrubs. Focus on your daughter and grandson. However, don't let your kids run your life. I would find someone new kick Brooks to the curb.

pstar
pstar

I don't like or trust Tamara why can't everyone else see she talks about everyone and then lies that she did so

pstar
pstar

Briana expects too much from you. Doesn't she care that you might be lonely and need to start dating so hopefully you can find a man to spend the rest of your life with since brooks is not ok with her. she doesn't realize what you are giving up whether she approves or not. I'm sure you didn't approve of the situation she's in now but you don't tell her i'll only accept you if you do this or that. Brianna needs to understand and stand by you no matter what if you meet someone who isn't that great (which we all do ) she doesn't need to rag on you about she needs to be there when things are not so good. She's young and has many more opportunity's at her age to meet a great guy by the way what happened to her guy you see she didn't care whaty you thought she went and married him . why is it different for you. caring is not ragging on someone telling them we won't be here if you want to date she needs to support you in everything you do as you do to her..

ann.paterson.14
ann.paterson.14

Tamra......used you.......she was never your true friend!!.

coriangal
coriangal

VICKI... i am a huge fan, and i respect you .. there are times (as you have mentioned) that you all said things and did things that were wrong, but i feel you and BROOKS were dumped on!! if you are in love then BE IN LOVE AND DONT LET PEOPLE CHOOSE YOUR DESTINY.. if it is wrong, then you wiill know and you will learn from it anf move on, YOU ARE A VERY INTELLIGENT PERSON, ONE OF THE FEW ON THIS SHOW, 9 in my opinion) , go withy our gutt, live your life, and please dont quit the show.. it wouldnt be RHOC without you!!

 

amanda.l.bradley.75
amanda.l.bradley.75

Vicky, in the seven seasons I have watched you, you have never gone through so much turmoil as you are experiencing now. It seems like everyone's gut instinct (mine included) when it comes to your boyfriend is a resounding Run for the Hills. Don't be blind to reality, don't lie to yourself and don't ignore the obvious.  My instinct tells me that he is not an honourable man. The way that he has dealt with the mother of his "extra child" and that child is really appalling. I think I can guess how you would feel if your son in law behaved in the same way  towards your daughter and your grandchild. That none of this business seems to bother you in the least is troubling. I wish you the best, but most of all, I wish for you a man with integrity, honesty and generosity of spirit. When you find that man, you will have a more peaceful, happy and fulfilled life. Your current boyfriend is not that man.

(P.S. I really, really, liked Don. He was the best husband on the show. Always.)

 

Sandra707
Sandra707

You need to dump Brooks and move on. You should not end with the first man that asked you out as soon as you separated from your husband. Be single, date and have fun. The right man shouldn't cause you any pain and Brooks already caused you too much trouble. Also, you should not keep attacking the other wives because you just make yourself look bad and bitter. Good luck.

WooHoo1917
WooHoo1917

Ok, so I felt compelled to write after watching the Reunion Part 2 and reading some of these comments. First, I want to say that I am sorry that you and Don lived for 20 years in a marriage where the other person was cheating rather than working to overcome some of the more obvious issues the two of you shared. I come from a family where my grandmother put up with this for 15 years not thinking what impact that would make on her children and eventually her grandchildren. Oddly, this took place in the South which I still believe is just something southern women in your generation have been taught to overlook. I would like to point out that all the times you were screaming "I am an independent woman" that doesn't put up with certain behaviors from Don in previous seasons and you were staying with him makes you a bit of a hypocrite (sorry to use that term). For you to constantly be pointing the finger at everyone else and their relationships rather than cleaning up around your own corral does make you a hypocrite.

 

Now for the good part...listen to your daughter when she tells you to own it. I have to believe that if you got a divorce that all of it must have been a HUGE life lesson especially the second time around. Start realizing that it's okay to fail because if you never fail you don't learn. Own your failures and your mistakes and APOLOGIZE without a single word after you do. You constantly state how you are not perfect and then right after remind everyone that they aren't perfect either. Own who you are and that at times the words and actions you put out into the world don't quite match up. If you start doing this in your personal life I bet you will start seeing some of the successes you've had in business come your way. Also, remember that every move you are about to make is going to be watched and judged by the next generation. The choices you make and have made will be watched, dissected, and hopefully not repeated by your grandchild. Own this responsibility and hold it sacred. I think that once you work on you, you'll figure out what to do about the boy toy without everyone around you sharing their 2 cents. I sincerely believe you have the ability to overcome some of your past grievances and rebuild. It is NEVER too late to do this in life you just have to want it. You'll feel broken at first but you will live to Woo Hoo another day. All the best!

Bravo321
Bravo321

Congratulations on becoming a grandma.  There is nothing like it and I just know you will love it !

mugsie101
mugsie101

tamra is no good this year!!!!Your better off with out her!

WiseOldOwl
WiseOldOwl

You have a very wise daughter - if you choose to ignore the wisdom she is sharing with you - you are losing out precious time.  I'd rather be alone than in a relationship where I am constantly defending the man I am with.  Red flags galore! 

gpedrick
gpedrick

Brooks saying  that his actions are a result of him being from the  South is a HUGE insult to southerners.  This is NOT how gentleman from the south behave.  They take pride in taking care of their families and being great providers. Tough exteriors/gentle souls and fly way above any drama.  Brooks...be whoever you want to be, but DO NOT pretend those flimsy "traits" are southern grown.  I just want to remind everyone of this...SMART woman, FOOLISH choices.   

bravofan53
bravofan53

vicki needs to wake up about brooks and seem him for what he is' he is a loser. he has her brainwashed because she has tons of money; tamra is right about him slade is real loser too gretchen needs to get rid of him

jerianne
jerianne

I think each housewife can use the videos of each segment as a learning tool. How we perceive events in our lives may look very diferent if we see it from others' eyes. If Bravo has the full unedited tapes you can get a lot of good feedback of each segment. It can be brutally truthful. In watching Brooke's compliments to you I understand how you crave nice comments, but you also have to be careful if these positive remarks happen too often.They only mean a lot if they are sincere. 

 

Laguna housewife:  My favorite OC housewife is Heather.

piperoni
piperoni

Who goes by polls. think for yourselfs. we go by the heart.  lexie are fav this season then vicki.

obleo
obleo

Vickie - please just stop. 

Alexis - private jet? really?

Tamara - i don't know

Gretchen - hang in there

Heather - run

GoddessVenus
GoddessVenus

@VickiGunvalson I have to say I am in shock at how much you have played the self righteous card, throwing around morals, values and God like you owned them. Then to hear that you and Don shot all of these seasons under the guise of faith and fidelity, it is very disappointing to me. It's also clear to me why you were in such emotional turmoil this last season. When a house of cards falls around you and all the lies are exposed at once it can be very difficult to swallow.

 

I'm certainly no one to judge however I have to say your behavior to portray a grand facade is heart breaking and sadly does alter my image of you. God bless you and continued good fortune.

Laguna_Housewife
Laguna_Housewife

I'd like to conduct a poll: who's your favorite OC housewife? *Please don't leave an explanation just a name. Thanks! =)

Alipooh
Alipooh

It's sad that your friendship with Tamara is over but you were the one who got jealous of Tamara and Gretchen relationship. 

 

Brooks is a use car saleman and you just bought a lemon.  Hope is doesn't leave a sour taste in your mouth after you guys break up. 

 

In the long run, girl you need to own it becuase you said alot things about the other girls in the past season and it was not becuase of Tamara either.  

 

I really hope things turn around for you...

foxy500
foxy500

You looked so good on the reunion show! VERY pretty and fresh! I think Tamara is jealous because you make more $ than her. I think she would like you to leave the show so she can get more $. Please don't leave the show, you are the reason for watching!

Cryslynns
Cryslynns

I think you are very fortunate to have the tables turned on you a little bit, Vicki. Count it as a real blessing that you were able to learn from your mistakes. The big shame is that Gretchen, who I considerd to be a victim in previous seasons, chose to behave the same way at the reunion and side with Tamara. I was really shocked to see her carry things so far. That said, Tamara IS the reason for that. It's not Gretchen that's igniting the fire under Tamara, it's the opposite and that is apparent when you watch her interviews and listen to her talk. She is very good at turning the tables to take the heat off of her. She is immature, vindictive and when she finds a target she goes for blood. I'm suprised you don't see this?

housewiveskeepitreal
housewiveskeepitreal

I have watched the OC house wives since the very beginning. Vicki always came off as money, money, money, working, while fussing and degrading don on whatever he was not doing right .

Years later her kids are the best. Smart, and happy. They are standing up for themselves sounds like they love don very much still, and I'm sure don will be a wonderful grandpa.

As for Vicki I hope she gets her stuff straight with Brooks. There are so many Red Flags.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

Vicki, why are you always so defensive?  Is it because you know down deep you have hurt a lot of people yourself? I am no fan of Tamara but the writing was on the wall.  She used you as a pawn to help end her marriage. I suspect Simon isn't the villian she wants us to believe. The more distance you keep from her the better. However, blaming Gretchen is wrong. It was Tamara who put out the olive branch to her not the other way around. 

It is very telling that your own daughter did not confide in you. You are so absorbed with being in control and  making sure others fill up your love tank that it is exhausting.

We don't get the good sides of Brook only the negative. But, he has put himself out there and he now must deal with the consequences.  The red flags with him, as a viewer, I see, are that he moved from his kids to be with you, he has been jailed due to failure to pay child support, and you have to "cover" for him on a constant basis. You have to ask yourself is it worth it?

I think you think you can pass along your sage widsom to Alexis but I suspect she will figure out you are using her to hurt Tamra. WAKE UP TAMARA DOES NOT CARE.

I think this would be a nice time for you to bow out gracefully from the show.

raider75
raider75

you are defensive, a hypocrite, and do not know how to take responsibility.  YOU also said something to Alexis in Costa Rica (mexico) - the comment that you have more money than her.  you need to watch the season and open your eyes.

valerie22
valerie22

Why do you think and say, that NO one wants you to be happy ?? IT makes No sense. They were all happy when you re married Donn, and they were always happy for you when you have success in your business, so why would you say that they don't want happiness now for you? Hm...could it be because they are UNcomfortable with Brooks? Why are you SO resistant to that? How many people have to feel the same way before you decide it may be HIM they are unsure of? You are smart, successful, sincere, thoughtful, but when it comes to him, you are clueless, ignorant, scary and dumb. And now we read that you hired an attorney for him? I think your very smart daughter was and is right about him and you really should listen to her...if NOBODY ELSE>>>>Brana.

 

AVTGIGI
AVTGIGI

Vicki, You are a beautiful lady among a lot of vile creatures.  Don't get wrapped up in all of the mean and dark hearts on that show. Tamra and Gretchen are not worth your time. FOcus on your relationship with your daughter and your personal life.  If you have feelings for Brooks then I am happy for you - but there are zillions of fabulous men out there that are intelligent, successful, and would adore you.  

backinblack
backinblack

H Vicki,

 

There is something about you that I do like and connect to, maybe because we both grew up in the Chicago burbs, and  I am about your same age. 

 

Anyway, I have no doubt that that you miss your friendship with Tamra, and it is sad to see that unfold over this past season.  Unfortunately, I did see the piece on 20/20 with Brook's 4th childs' mother.  It was hard not to believe what she was saying and basically exposing him, with no $$ support or even contact with that adorable three year old since he has been born.

 

 I would run for the hills, there are too many red flags.  All the naysayers can't be all wrong.  You deserve better.  Find an equal. Don't choose this man over family and friends, you will be sorry, and I would hate for you to hear the old saying "I told ya so".  Best wishes to  Briana and Ryan for a safe delivery and a healthy baby boy.  I have 3 beautiful boys, and there is never a dull moment!

 

hershey59
hershey59

Viki, you are a grown woman and we are about the same age, with grown daughters. I feel bad for you, because I know what it is like to be in love and not see the signs that everyone around you does. As a viewer there were many Red Flags about Brooks, but, you have to find this out on your own. I just hope when that day comes, you will realize that Tamra was being a friend to you. A true friend tells you the truth, whether you like it or not. What scared me the most about Brooks, was not that he appears not to have a job, but that the very first night he met Michael and Briana . . he said to someone, I love those kids !!!!!! How on earth can he love your kids, when he just met them !!! Your children love you, with no agenda, and though it may be hard for you, perhaps listen to what they are saying, as they can see things that you are not, because love truely is blind.  One more thing, it is astounding how things have changed. 2 years ago you were yelling at Gretchen about what a Dead Beat Dad Slade was, and now you find yourself in the exact same position, and all of a sudden it's no one else's business, and no one has the right to say anything about this . . you did, so why can't they ??? And by the way, watch the show . . Tamra did NOT Gretchen about Brooks history, if you watch the show, Slade found it online . . . .

joyinbama
joyinbama

I think Tamra is hiding something from her life, she always keeps things stirred up about others, it keeps the focus off of her...........Something to think about.

justmee
justmee

Tamra is the one who has had issues with a lot of people. Why else would she be saying she was sorry to so many people this season. Gretchen seems like she is never going to let go of the past when it comes to you Vicki. She forgave Tamra, but she is going to have it out for you until she is avenged. Slade is a loser and will always be. He still can't get caught up on his child support. With that said, Brooks agreed to be on the show, maybe give the viewers a chance to get to know him. All we know is what everyone on the show has said. It doesn't look good, but there is always 2 sides to every story.

Srrent
Srrent

Dump Tamara, listen to your daughter(doesn't mean you have to do what she says) and be smart. Have fun with the show!

strongwoman
strongwoman

Vicki Don't try to blame your distancing from Tamara on Gretchen, its brooks who is putting a wedge, sometimes a person is so in love that you don't see the truth. And as a friend Tamara may not want you getting hurt,. At the end of the day it's your life. But ..if it smells and looks like a rat....ITS A RAT! 

wishihad3wishes
wishihad3wishes

Vicki, move on girl! You were good to Tamra for whatever reason, now be glad the girl is gone- count your blessings:) You are wonderful, beautiful, good person. No one needs that kinda mean spirited person around. If it looks evil, it acts evil, maybe its evil- ya know?

Davis7
Davis7

Vicki - I think in the past years you changed alot because of Tamara and not for the good hopefully without her you will realize what a true friend is. Im not sad to see your friendship with her end but I was sad to see you and Geana's end maybe you can reconcile that. True friends love the good, the bad, and the ugly about each other and at the end of the day are still there for one another regardless of who they may be dating. Just keep moving forward and best of luck to you, Brooks, and your family. 

buzzman9054
buzzman9054

hi vicki, chicago    buzzman love's you lol.xoxoxo

Lck
Lck

Vicki.. Don't blame Tamra for not going to bat for Brooks..it's impossible. She cares about you, that's why she dislikes him.. We ALL dislike him and don't trust him. Tamra is being your friend by not just telling you only what you want to hear.

shezlong08
shezlong08

 @ann.paterson.14 i don't believe that for a second and u could see how hurt both woman were today on the show. i believe they r true friends and as i do with my own girlfriends they will sort things out  they r the only too i believe have had that bond. 

MERRYWAY
MERRYWAY

 What goes around comes around. Vickies relentless attack on Slade has come back to bite her in her HYPOCRITICAL  butt.@amanda.l.bradley.75 

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

 @Laguna_Housewife I hate to sound wishy-washy, but it's true: They all bug me on some level, so I don't have one! 

TreFaninFargo
TreFaninFargo

 @Laguna_Housewife Alexis! She was my least favorite going into this season, because I can't relate to her in many ways. But she seems to be genuinely the nicest of the bunch! And that counts for a lot.

MellieJean
MellieJean

 @@seasonedviewer7 I clearly heard Vicki say that Gretchen was not the reason for the rift between her and Tamara.  I understood Vicki when she said she felt that if there wasn't a friendship her and Tamara would still be friends.  That was more along the lines of Tamara not being able to be friends with more than one person at a time.  

keytothecity43
keytothecity43

 @raider75 Vicki absolutely joined in on the Alexis "intervention" by saying that and she also said, "but I don't talk about it." That shows me that even Vicki thinks that Alexis talks about money constantly.  Vicki acts like she saved the day, but really she chimed in, but did it in a way to make it look like she was being nice.  She said the same thing the other girls were saying.