Let's start with a few comments about our opening scenes. . .
I am so tired of being lumped in with "the other girls," and this whole "us against you" dynamic, like we are on teams. I've always had individual relationships with all of the ladies and continue to do so. Even when Tamra and Vicki were having extreme problems between them, I maintained separate relationships with no problem.
Also, I have never commented on Vicki's surgery or Alexis' for that matter. I've always said they were pretty girls before and are pretty now. Plastic surgery is a personal choice.
KFI Radio show: It was a two-hour show, and I touched on many parenting issues -- bullying being one of them. It is very personal to me, because I have been a victim of bullying. I'm also well versed in the definition. On RHOC, we are grown women on a reality show being paid to give our opinions of each other. More on that later. . .
I was pretty surprised to see Lydia relaying our conversation like that to Alexis. I didn't mention Alexis' ring at the start of our conversation. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't have mentioned Alexis at all, but Lydia kept bringing her up. Also, it wasn't shown, but I told Lydia (based on Lydia's comment that HER ring wasn't her "real" ring) that Alexis wears a fake one and has the real one in the safe at home, not to insinuate that she doesn't have a real ring.
I have tried and tried to like you since you joined the cast. You make it an impossibility. When your talking to people, you talk down to them and give looks of disgust. How Terry puts up with you is beyond me. As far as Alexis, there is no excuse for the way you and Tamra ganged up on her, no excuse. I wish a new cast member would join just for the purpose of targeting you and Tamra. Let the shoe be on the other foot for once, see how it feels to be mistreated. If you left the show today, I would say....Good Bye and don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you.
Heather your Not a Doctor how can you say if Alexis needed medication or not.. I found all of you women cruel and mean
ms. Objective 73 is right on the money with you.
You are horrible. What you did to Alexis was inexcusable. It made you look small, like a low class, immature girl with poor manners and poor upbringing and lack of compassion or common sense. You showed us that money (even your husbnd's) truly cannot buy class. You ganged up on Alexis and with the other 2 loud mouths, BULLIED her and smirked about what they were doing. THEN went all HOLY and went to synagogue. Shame on you!!! You really do need to atone. Your hands are dirty and your heart is black. I sincerely pray that no-one ever does it to your girls/ kids...because what goes around COMES around, sometimes again and again and again. You need to apologize to Alexis...not the BS thing you all do, then go and talk about it behind the person's back and use your OWN insecurities and lay them on the person, trying to divest yourself of your own blatant flaws. You need to get OVER yoursel. Learn from Alexis, she is certainly not perfect, but with everything you 3 old sheep did, she certainly acted with class. Why does it even matter if her ring was fake>!. You are not anyone's friend. Before long your turn will come. Shame!
I'm still not certain what you have against Alexis. Did I miss some major act of disrespect? So Alexis may exagerate her wealth, or wear a faux diamond, or just plain not be the brightest bulb on the Christmas tree; but she isn't bitchy hateful! How much of your dislike for Alexis is authenticaly you, and not just Tamar's influance?
I have to say that I was truly disturbed and frankly nauseated by the aggressive, catty behavior displayed toward Alexis. I don't think anyone in this life is perfect, and I truly feel that she joined the party to be accepted back into the group. It would have been hurtful, to say the least, to any of you being ostresized from the group. She behaved with class and humbled herself on national television. Your behavior was unacceptable!!! All of you! To hear that you were bullied was that much more gut wrenching to me. If you had some constructive, friendly criticism to voice to Alexis in Costa Rica, that should have been done privately. That isn't what you did. Your behavior repulsed me, trying to come across as a classy woman who knows what it's like to be bullied. I am a school counselor, and your behavior defines "bully". You are spoiled and have lost your sense of reality when it comes to your marriage. Your life is what it is because of your husband. Keep behaving in "your manner" toward him and your in for a rude awakening. It's so sad. Your living a truly blessed life and could do so much good with that. Count your blessings for they can be gone in the blink of an eye.
As long as Heather and Tamra are hanging out Heather will continue to come across as a mean girl She treats her husband like crap. He is the reason she has everything to be all she is for her kids and husband. She is a good mother but she is a bitch to Terry. And she isnt even giving Alexis a chance this season. Alexis may be a sensitive person, but I kind of like her this season.. Her and Jim are just doing their thing.
@housewivesfanmaine I agree, lie down with dogs and you get their fleas! Heather is no angel !!!!! Mean girl ! Heather you don't know the meaning of class. Money can't buy class !!
dont we all remember when heather took her husband shopping and gleefully boasted how much money they spent? Heather is so full of herself..trying to pretend she's "classy and proper" guess she missed the chapter in the Classy Girls Handbook.... BEING ON A REALITY SHOW IS NEVER PROPER!!!..
You need compassion. I wouldn't burn your bridges with the other ladies because Tamara's ready to turn on you. Wait until you're down and she won't be around as a friend. She's only in it for fame and fortune. Is that your goal as well?
You're not a bully. I'm shocked by all these haters! I think you're fabulous and gracious. Tamra on the other hand...
LosAngelesBravoLover Heather is not a bully??? Pleeeeez!!! Did you watch the show when they were vacationing in Costa Rica? If you didn't either you are watching the wrong show or you missed it. Find out the facts first or else clam up!
@tlanderson354 - OH PLEASE yourself. Bullies are in schools with kids who are DEFENSELESS. Alexis is hardly defenseless!! Mean is not the same thing as a bully, so check your facts!
I think you are the bully heather. The way you treat your husband does not seem right. you seem to bully him into submission. it seems you might need to work on your marriage before he has enough of you beating him down and degrading him.
Heather is boring, phony and is not a leader but a follower. She follows tamra big time. She needs to go she is solo boring
I would stay away from trashy Tamara. She was asking Vicki how she could be with Alexis., when she didn't like her? Maybe she should ask herself how she could be with Gretchen when not only did she not like her but she set her up to get drunk to see if she would be improper . She is scummy. Really needs anger management therapy. If anyone acts the victim she does. She really has NO class.
You aren't coming across very well Heather, after all you are the rich girl too ...too bad you are immersed in this and you ARE, because you started out the fair and even toned one, welcome to the bad girls club....Tamara is very mean, period.
i know why tamera hasnt blogged in 2 weeks because she knows that the public hates her and doesnt want anyone to respond because it will get ugly.
what did alexis do to warrant all of you ganging up on her? you were the only one who had any class but now you are just one of them now. 99% of every blowout involves tamera. it is bullying and humiliating. there is no excuse for not just being cordial. TAMERA you are a drunk with no class. you are an e,barrassment to your children. the rest of you need to get a little backbone and get tamera to stop. the money would never be an incentive to be friends with anyone of you.
Heather, that's easy, just realign yourself with Alexis. Wait ten seconds and Tamra will redirect her viciousness on you. Ring-bling, who's got time to count carats? Will ya'll just stop jawing about Alexis' ring.
If you weren't on the show I seriously doubt you would even associate with the town bitch, Tamra or the town idiot, Gretchen.
Wow, the way you look at things does NOT jibe with what is happening at all. You are so out of touch with reality. I really wish they would replace you!
You are classy and wonderfully smart. Surprisingly what I love - the relationship between Terry and Collette. Understated, but touching. It's like the "sweet spot" in the show for me. Just my thoughts.
GET OVER YOURSELF HEATHER! how dare you accuse Alexis of being fake and materialistic (thats exactly how all this started) when your 100 times worse than Alexis ever could be. How dare you gang up and bully another human being. How dare you think your Alexis's doctor and psychologist. How dare you think you can dictate to the public that your behavior is NOT that of a bully - please girl we are NOT stupid! and know unacceptable behavior when we see it. How on earth your husband stands for your holier than thou attitude is beyond me. Your behavior along with Tamra and Gretchens was despicable - and 98% of the public is disgusted - your family and real friends (if any) must be extremely embarrassed of you...............You need to take a good long hard look in the mirror and you really need to grow up.
jan.mackay.338 Maybe you should get a clue. Ninety-eight percent of the public doesn't give a damn about this show or what's going on here. The fraction of a percent who've ended up brazenly showing their ineptitude in the comments here, does not qualify as an adequate sampling of the viewing public. What's even more important is that a significant majority of the overall public can grasp the difference between reactionary, childish behavior and bullying. Many of the geniuses here (since you "... are NOT stupid") fall into the minority on that one. If Heather, Gretchen and Tamra are bullies, then Alexis and Vicki are as well. Seriously, before you tell people to "grow up" you should take a long hard look at the behaviors of all the women on the show and really open your narrowed mind to actively thinking, not just indignation.
enufizenuf THANK YOU enuf! You are exactly right! I can not BELIEVE all the ignorant comments on these boards either!!! People don't understand we sometimes HAVE to address our boundaries when another has continued to cross them, and it's just a RIDICULOUS deferral tactic to be accused of being a bully for having done so! PLEASE! Because I have a big boundary of choosing not to accept someone who wants to be a whiny victim full of gross exaggerations and lies and then am forced to let my boundary be known so it will stop in my presence does NOT mean I am in any form or fashion a BULLY for having been forced to do so! What a CROCK and I would defend myself too, just as Heather has had no choice but to because Alexis WONT STOP with her dingy relentless drama queen whining still REFUSING to accept any accountability about all her bs she's been putting out there too! Good for you Heather! Alexis has a LONG way to go to achieve any notion of diplomatic maturity which is clear to me you innately understand. Ignore these ignorant comments my dear!
Heather, you're wonderful and you know it ... I would caution you against staying on this show, though just because it will inevitably take its toll on you, your family and, especially, your marriage. Disregard the haters and keep doing you.
You, classy? Please! Class is about you behave and how you treat others. You treat your husband like a kid and yes, you are a bully! Call it what you want, you're a bully and catty. Not a fan!
What you, Tamra & Gretchen don't seem to get is that demonizing Alexis won't exonerate you. You behaved in an absolutely disgusting manner toward another human being and obviously enjoyed the pain you inflicted. That's ugly no matter who is on the receiving end.
Heather- PLEEEEEASE. Really. You disagree with how Aexis and Tamra acted. Tamra acted like an ass and Alexis handled herself with dignity, poise, and was even polite when she was escorted out of the party. You could take a page out of her book.
Heather you are so full of yourself. You come across extremely phony and materialistic on the show. If we are only seeing a small part of what is really going on then perhaps you should think about that next time you are in front of the camera.
Heather, I find it very interesting that Tamra hasn't blogged in two weeks and you and Gretchen have not blogged this week. You basically said in one of your earlier blogs this season that everyone should blog on time. Talk about looking guilty. Clearly you woman cannot come up with anymore BS about why you said and did the things you were doing to Alexis! We LADIES watching the RHOC can see through you, Tamra and Gretchen! Shame on YOU!
Heather take a good look in the mirror. The very thing you accuse Alexis of "phony, materialistic, Bragging" are the very same qualities in you, The truth being you all resent any good that comes into Alexis life because you 3 mean girls feel you are the only group deserving. You got recognition, and you all now have the Title - own it your behavior spoke volumes to the fans.
It was so funny watching your lieutentant turn on you by asking if you wanted to leave, the dinner party. "No, no, no, no" you said. Next time you better say no ma'am!
How does it feel to know your lieutentant was ready to kick you out after making one false move?! Hope you realize that Tamra doesn't care about you anymore than she does Grechen. She is going to turn on you just like she did everyone else and you deserve it!
My initial though to your addition to the show was, wow, she doesn't belong here, she's so different and smart, classy etc. but you have proved me wrong. Your have put yourself so high up the pedestal, I don't think you could ever find your way back to reality. It's funny how at first glance, you all seem at least pretty but the more we watch, the more ugly comes out and external beauty becomes hideous. No one is buying into your BS. You come off terribly pretentious, back stabbing and an opportunist.
Definition: Bullying is the use of force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others. The behavior can be habitual and involve an imbalance of social or physical power. It can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. If bullying is done by a group, it is called mobbing. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target".
Sound familiar - oh yeah its you Heather and your friend Tamara.
So disappointed, the sad thing is, if think about what you say about Alexis some of it applies to you. You are pretentious, egotistical, and materialistic. Now have a glass of Champs and hope you nannies bring up your kids better than the example you are setting for them.
tobeornottobe Very good definition of "BULLYING"! Other viewers are either blind or refused to see the evidence. This definition fits what happened on the show. Viewers, wake-up and smell the coffee! Thanks, tobeornottobe!
Alexis is right. Just because she didn't slit her wrists doesn't mean you and your 3 sidekicks didn't bully her. Seriously disgusting... Take a little ownership for your actions. You ALL ganged up and bullied her so step up and own it. No one is going to identify with you when you act as though you're perfect. Come down off of your pedestal.
lexilobo1 Nobody ganged up ... everyone felt defensive and tried to defend themselves ... stop being ridiculous by calling a woman who walked into an unresolved situation with an arrogant, aggressive attitude, dominated the conversation, with fingers in people's faces no less, and told the hostess to "butt out", a bully victim. Smh. Additionally, if you feel as though Heather is on a pedestal, maybe a little introspection is in order so you can deal with your own insecurities and stop putting people on pedestals. Heather has been quite reasonable -- while Alexis, apparently, can't do anything wrong.
That is such a lie. She didn't come in with an aggressive attitude and she NEVER put a finger in anyone's face.
i didn't like you from the start & watching the new season now, it just confirmed my dislike for you even more. you have the most evil look in your eyes & face, i always picture you as the evil queen. that's how you come across & you really seem to think that you are above everyone else, even your own husband who i feel really sorry for to be honest with you.
i adore your husband, he seems so down to earth, successful & funny & you constantly put him down, laugh at him & believe that you are more successful than he is. which is really funny, cause you are just a no name wanna be actress who turned housewife.
you lucked up getting married to a very successful rich man who loves & adores you & your children together.
for the love of god, i don't get what he sees in you, especially with your constant dictations, but he does & you need to be thankful for that. not for the money & all, but for having such a great husband who loves you dearly & who's willing to go above & beyond for you.
you have a beautiful family, so many dream of only that, but you have a very comfortable life as well, so be grateful & kick the mean girl act!
You think you know everything. But the truth is, you don't. You are the one who brought a lot of the bullying on, along with Tamra. I thought you were going to be a fresh new positive housewife on the show, but you have turned out to be one of the worst. Not only do you bully Alexis, but you are the rudest wife when you talk to your husband. You talk down to him all the time. You need to take a long look at yourself...changes need to be made with your attitude......
You are a bully...period. I hope you set a better example for your children. You treat your husband poorly and he is actually more fun to watch than you and seems to be a very sweet man. Remember....true friends don't point out the faults of their buds...they except them for who they are.
So your being paid to not be yourself but to look hateful and throw insults like 15 year old girls. What a way to express who you are! You should be so proud of yourself! Your doing great work not showing your true personality!!