Heather Bilyeu Altman is now a mother of two! Just before the Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles agent gave birth to her baby boy, she posted a sweet note to Instagram asking other moms for advice on how to juggle two kids.
"I want to have more time with just me and Lexi but I’m so excited to meet my baby boy. I’m so excited for Lexi to become a big sister but I’m so scared that she’s going to feel unloved by me when she has to share mommy. It’s been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster with extreme mom guilt (already) on how to give full love and attention to both my babies making them feel special and like they are #1. How do all you mommies do it with more than 1 baby? What do you suggest?" she wrote.
Heather received kind and compassionate responses.
"When the little guy shows up that mommy guilt will all wash away!!" advised one commenter. "You will have enough love for both of your babies! The two of them will have such a sweet connection you will forget there was ever any guilt."
Heather's first child, daughter Alexis, is just 2 years old — experts say there's a "perfect" amount of time to wait before having a second child, but that answer isn't the same for everyone and the Altman family has chosen what feels right for them.
Fellow Bravoleb Cameran Eubanks, who has daughter Palmer Wimberly, cautions that moms can't really have it all when it comes to work and family, but the joy is in finding the balance.
“I have gone back to work. I’m working probably 30 percent of what I was … as a mother, you have to shatter the myth that you can have it all. You really can’t,” the Southern Charm mom told PEOPLE. “Unless you are extremely privileged and have the means to — which, I mean, could I afford a live-in nanny? I could. I don’t want to. But you are always gonna have to sacrifice something. For me, it’s having to learn to sacrifice a lot of my independence and what I want to do. Ideally, I’d like to work and make money all day and then be with my child, but you can’t. You literally can’t have both.”
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