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Dorinda Medley Thinks Ramona Singer's "Timing Was Off" When Bringing Up Bethenny Frankel's Past

Can the #RHONY crew ever recover from that feisty dinner party?

By Jocelyn Vena
Dorinda Medley Explains How the Group Recovers from the Bethenny and Ramona Fight

Dinner parties in the Hamptons may never be the same. We're only three episodes into Season 9 of The Real Housewives of New York City and we've already been invited to two rather explosive gatherings. At one, Dorinda Medley confronted Sonja Morgan about comments she was making to the press. And before that, Ramona Singer attempted to start a discussion with Bethenny Frankel about her B movie past... and if she's chatted with her 6-year-old daughter about scenes in which she appears topless. That conversation was awkward to say the least.

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Dorinda admits that the Ramona/Bethenny moment "came out of left field," adding to The Daily Dish, "But I think the problem is it continues, and there are other things that happen and it becomes very cumulative and I think it was damaging. What happened was real and I think the audience is gonna feel it."

While Dorinda credits Ramona for being a great pal to her over the years, she noted that her longtime friend may have broached this subject at the wrong place and time. "Sometimes Ramona's timing is not good and I would say that in front of her. I don't think she is malicious, but I think that the timing was wrong and I just don't think you mention [kids]. There's sort of this thing on our show [where] you don't mention children, you don't mention husbands. There's just sort of these unspoken rules and I think that that [was what] triggered it. The timing was off. It appeared misplaced and it came off as aggressive."

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Dorinda shared a similar sentiment when she appeared on What What Happens Live with Andy Cohen last week, adding, "Ramona sometimes doesn't have great social cues. She doesn't do great social timing. And, remember, we hadn't seen each other all summer. We came off of a very difficult reunion, as you know, and we couldn't figure out where it came from. And she mentioned her daughter and we sort of have a golden rule that we don't mention our children."

Dorinda noted to The Daily Dish that when we see her daughter, Hannah Lynch, on the series, it's a very different scenario. "I mean my daughter's 23. She's chosen to be on the show. She's an adult. They're kids. They're not part of the show. We signed up for this," she said. "You just shouldn't. I just don't go there. I don't mention husbands and I don't mention children."

Still, Dorinda has hope that Ramona and Bethenny can resolve the incident someday. "[Bethenny] deflected it with humor, which is what she does best. It's too bad because they're both good people and they have a longstanding friendship. They've been through a lot and I hope it can be all sorted out and they can come to a place where they can move forward. Even if it's not as great friends — relationships sometimes change and they turn into something different. But, yeah, I think it was difficult for all of us."

These early get-togethers took place months after a very tense Season 8 reunion. And Dorinda thinks that might be why we see so much drama happening at that time. "I was thinking about that. I think what happened was last year was really a dark season and a lot of stuff went down and we all had to really go back into our corners and reevaluate ourselves, each other, the situations," she said. "I think we all came back very sort of [like], 'OK, we got to sort this out. We got to get things straight and this is gonna end, otherwise we can't go forward.' They're all very strong women. They put it out there, not ones to shy away from conflict, and you're gonna see that. A lot of people call it like it is and we were all at a point where we were gonna get it back together or we just weren't going to be friends anymore. I'll be honest, I thought at one point I was wondering how we were gonna all come back together."

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