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Tom Schwartz Addresses "Douchey" Comments to Katie After Their Worst Argument Yet

The Vanderpump Rules cast member explains why he "snapped" at Jax Taylor's 40th birthday party.

By Laura Rosenfeld

Jax Taylor's 40th birthday party turned into a prank-gone-wrong in the March 31 episode of Vanderpump Rules. After Randall Emmett hired a couple of actors to arrest Tom Sandoval for toilet papering Jax and Brittany Cartwright's house, some people didn't find the joke so funny — namely, Katie Maloney-Schwartz, who said she thought it was in poor taste.

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When Katie expressed this during the party, her husband, Tom Schwartz, didn't agree with his wife, saying that she was "ruining a great moment" and that no one wanted to hear her opinion. He also said that he had "never been more turned off" in his life. Katie was visibly upset during the argument and told her husband that she wasn't going to leave with him before the episode ended.

When Tom appeared alongside his wife on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen: @ Home on March 31, he told Andy Cohen via video chat that he was "way out of line" and "way douchey" during that Vanderpump Rules moment (clip below). "I was hammered. I had been drinking all day, which is usually a recipe for disaster within the confines of our relationship," Tom explained. "I don't know, something about the way she responded just rubbed me the wrong way. I tried to explain it to Beau [Clark] the next day. First of all, I know I was wrong, but in that moment, I saw her as the embodiment of a YouTube comment or recreational outrage."

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Stassi Schroeder then chimed in via video chat, "Just apologize!"

Which Tom then did. "I'm sorry, I love you," he told Katie. "Way out of line."

Tom elaborated on why he "snapped" at Katie's comments during Jax's birthday party in the Vanderpump Rules Season 8 After Show, which you can find, above. "I know it's my wife and I should be compassionate, but instead I got really annoyed. I thought it was really self-indulgent," he said. "It really, really rubbed me the wrong way, and I was s--t-faced."

Katie said in the After Show that comments like Tom saying "that's why I don't have sex with her" or Katie saying "your dick doesn't work" are emblematic of their arguments with one another. "We go for the jugular a little bit," she shared. "We just say outlandish, mean s--t that we don't mean. And we don't take it seriously. It's f--ked up. Like, we hear it and we might react to it and it might hurt, but I don't believe it."

However, Katie noted that at the end of the day, Tom "was being a f--king a--hole."

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