Tiffany: Damned If I Do, Damned If I Don't
Tiffany reflects on this past season's drama with LeeAnne and shares what's in store for her and Aaron in Dallas.
Happy finale episode everyone! It's bittersweet to be at the end of our journey and I want to thank ALL of you who have been so supportive and for inviting us into your homes each Monday! In a million years, I would have never dreamed I would become a "housewife" in this wildly popular franchise and would like to take a moment to thank all of the "powers that be" at Bravo for this once in a lifetime opportunity! It's truly been the wildest, craziest, most interesting, intense and blessed ride of my life!
Coming off the blur of the last episode when we went to Austin, I wasn't sure if I wanted to see the girls so soon at the Hollman Byron Nelson party. Especially after the strong words I shared with Team Standi! But, as you've all come to realize, I am the one who has consistently tried to unite this group, plus I practice forgiveness and thought it would be a negative stance if we didn't attend. Also, Aaron appreciated Travis for attending his charity concert and really wanted to be gracious by attending his party. Sooooo, there was no backing out on their party! Suck it up, Tiff. I am slightly psychic--for real--or I just have an uber strong intuition and just knew that the girls would need to vent at the party. Luckily, the Byron Nelson is a drunk fest (not a charity event) so if any of the girls needed to have some face-time then the drunkards would never even notice. HA!
For example, in Stephanie's kitchen I was simply explaining to Cary that people who have endured abuse have different coping mechanisms, so at their core they crave and need safety and security. I have never condoned LeeAnne's behavior. Because I also come from a history of abuse, I have always understood that about LeeAnne. I've been thrown under the bus, trashed, bashed and flat out ridiculed for loving LeeAnne through her outbursts. That has been the hardest thing for me through this journey. If I had disowned LeeAnne or if I had been inconsistent with my loyalty, I would have been bashed just as bad if not MORE so I'm damed if I do and I'm damned if I don't. It makes me sad that you guys didn't get to see more in-depth into my life with Aaron, my mission in helping women through www.SanctuaryOfStyle.net, and my salt of the earth family - because I was so busy keeping LeeAnne off the ledge. I get where Cary's coming from and again, it saddened me that she saw me as LeeAnne's "lap dog." A lap dog doesn't stand up to someone like I do with LeeAnne plus we've had so many heated discussions about all of this that none of you have seen. I want the very best for LeeAnne and it all starts with extending love and compassion. But, today I'm happy to say Cary and I have continued to invest in a friendship with each other and have been able to get past all of the drama of last year. I know all the girls were judging me based on their experiences with LeeAnne.
I'm glad that LeeAnne and Cary finally sat down face to face to hash it out. They danced around it and danced around it all season and I know we were all dizzy from it. I don't operate like that! I said it in the beginning of the season--that in Dallas you will be the last to hear if someone has a problem with you. Women will go to everyone else and gossip about it, but rarely go straight to the source. I love Texas so much! It's a state rich in strength, history, interesting and God-fearing people, but Dallas is quite possibly THE MOST competitive place I've ever experienced and I have traveled the world three times over. It's the land of one uppers and I CAN'T STAND ONE UPPERS! Why can't people be confident enough to allow someone to tell a story without cutting them off to share their bigger, better story. Grow up people!
Speaking of competitive women, I decided to confront Marie at the Byron Nelson because I thought there may NEVER be another opportunity for LeeAnne, Marie and I to be in the same room again. I did not want to see their friendship fall by the wayside after all these years and I prayed she would own it and fess up that she told Taylor that story. It's a sign of lying when people look to the side or shift their eyes instead of looking you directly in the eye and that is exactly what she did when I asked her to please tell the truth. I'm done with this sitch. Just freeze frame that part of the show and you'll see what I mean.
The highlight for me was when Aaron told me he truly wanted to start planning how we could put down roots in Dallas instead of Nashville. The charity concert really did open up doors for him here and he's playing three to four gigs a week all over Dallas. He can barely keep up with all the requests! So if you live in Dallas and want to attend a gig--his schedule is on the front page of www.AaronHendra.com. I give the Glory to God. We felt in limbo all year and although I have a gypsy spirit…mama really wants a house to call her own, complete with that island in the kitchen so I can entertain and cook for friends. I miss that so much! In LA, I would host skinnyrita & taco night once a month or so for my girlfriends. Although we didn't get that house (and thank God because I could not have dealt with the construction noise for five years) we are still figuring out what area of Dallas feels like "us." We have recently met so many amazing people who have opened us up to such cool vibe pockets in Dallas. We're still deciding what would be the wisest thing to do because when Aaron goes on tour we may be better off with the "lock & leave" situation like my realtor friend Cortney described. Lots to consider and all very exciting! I'm going to turn my Aussie man into a Texan after all!
Love to hear your thoughts on our final episode! I'll be in West Texas on our yearly family vacay. I'm so excited to end this journey with family chillaxing and floating down the river. It's a spot my daddy has been going to since he was in high school. My sister is even coming in from LA!
Stay tuned for the REUNION! Ohhhh, it's going to be good!
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Love & Ladyballs,
