In England, where I am from, my parents sent me to a very posh all girls, Catholic convent school. The Our Lady (Notre Dame) Acadamy. It was a school dedicated to young ladies, guaranteed to give your child an excellent education, and an indoctrination into being a lady. In actuality, what I encountered during my time there, was a bunch of mean and often very jealous (young ladies). I was so glad to graduate and I moved on.
Now, I am a grown woman, a mother, a CFO, a mentor, and a professional in the work environment. Never did I think back to those days until recently during my time on Married to Medicine. I was once again catapulted back amongst a couple of mean girls. Girls, whose sole purpose is to bring you down in a way to make themselves feel elevated.
It came as no surprise to me that the reunion would be any different. I had dealt with it all season, and so I knew what I was going into. My thoughts were, just be real, be yourself, be kind, forgive, and take the high road. That was my MO. I may have been roped into their pettiness during the season, but I certainly was not going to fall prey to it anymore.
The reunion began with Mariah's rude and disrespectful introduction of Toya and me, trying to instantly put us down. It showed to me that she is still full of anger to and resentment. I have to admit that even I was not prepared for some of the lies that were thrown into my direction. I have not been called names since middle school, but recently I was called a "liar" by Mariah, several times in fact. It is a word that she likes to throw out randomly when you catch "her" in a lie. It is her only defense. I do not lie because it just makes you look like an idiot when people find out the truth. It is a waste of my energy. I would like her to bring up ONE thing that she can "prove" that I have ever lied about. She would be hard-pressed to do so with any proof. Anyone can make senseless accusations, and the reunion had plenty of those, but I prefer to work with facts and there are many facts that can prove I have not lied.
Miss Kari, Miss Kari... well all I can say is, in the words of NeNe Leaks, "you never can win when you're dirty honey"... And sweety if you never got those crooked soup coolers you call lips done, then you should definitely look into it because they are not it.
Kari, I commend you to be yourself and be true to yourself regardless of the haters. Remember, that ol' saying "Don't be trapped by dogma ". - which is the living with the results of other peoples thinking. Don't let the noise of others drown out your own inner voice! You are the only Caucasian on this show. It is now televised how African women treat and think of the Caucasian Race. I personally do not live in Atlanta, if I did I would choose to seek other doctors. Life is hard enough, my belief is we are just passing through. Our purpose here is to observe, to learn, to grow, to love........then we return home. Dr. Jackie gets it!!! Love her ! We all have our own problems, do not let Mariah and Quad problems and opinions cloud your purpose. They are truly not centered. Remember "We all walk in the dark until we learn to turn on our light." Their problem is they cannot understand or tolerate or GET PASSED GROWTH! My hope is that the whole African cast don't turn against you, Here's to hope ! We shall see.
I am so freakin sick of you wanna be psychos (there's one on every show), playing victim when your bad behavior backfires on your sorry asses. Nobody with a brain is buying what you're selling Ms. Wannabe.
Go Kari, go Kari, go Kari; Mariah would do anything to be you, JEALOUS--you right, your husband is the top tier in medicine, catch that haters...Mariah is hardly sure what her husband does. Quad's husband cant be all that great at what he does because he has not been able to diagnose her yet; when he does, only then will we know that he knows what he is doing, until then, he is just....Oh on the point that Quad made about Psychologist vs Psychologist--these ladies are shameful, both disciplines requires years of schooling PH.d, MD or not, college is an accomplishment and anyone that graduates should be applauded.
You Kari are disgusting to me you think you are so high class really you need to bring it down a peg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you don't come back next season even if there is one such a disgrace!!!!!!!!!
kimmy2009 Thats the point why people go on reality shows because they are all narccarcists so whats new? Mariah and Quad (who gives your child a name like this?) are equally as superficial because they talk name brands, money, status etc., these shows are so insulting to women period. Why are so many American intimidated by British people? I sense that there is a little demon in your heart dying to be Kari but you cant.
Kari, I think you are a very superficial person and I dont usually watch the show because of you. Seems like your so far above everyone and you stir the pot. I simply dont like you or the way you act.
OMG ARE YOU KIDDING????????????? Your behavior truely is disgusting!!! You deserve a very big wake up call and I can only pray its coming!!!!!!!!
Kari is no Lisa Vanderpump. She thinks that we are impressed that she is a Brit. She was so insulting on that reunion that I am sad for her. Quad was right, she is a fraud. If I was Duncan, I would get a refund. She can say what she wants, her lips have definitely grown.
Sitting here with my mouth open!! I can't believe you have the audacity to call someone a mean girl. You exhibit quite a few of the symptoms listed above, i.e, (1) Expects to be recognized as superior and special, without any superior accomplishments (2) Envies others and believes others envy him/her. (3) Lacks the ability to empathize with the feelings or desires of others, (4) Is controlling, blaming, self-absorbed, intolerant of others’ views, unaware of others' needs and of the effects of their behavior on others, (5) Tends to devalue, derogate and blame others, (6) Exaggerates their accomplishments and achievements and the most telling symptom of all (7) Will often treat others disrespectfully while at the same time demanding respect from them. This is YOU in a nutshell...emphasis on the NUT!!
Dr Jackie, Dr Simone and your puppet Toya may all believe your nonsense. The majority of the viewing public see right through you. You had it in for Quad at your 1st meeting. You continue to disrespect her at every turn. You showed your true colors towards Mariah when the two of you met to discuss Quad's dis-invite. You got rather hostile and called Mariah alot of mean names. Now you say their disdain of you is unwarranted. I see you live in the same delusional world as Toya.
Wow, take some responsibility! YOU are a mean girl and I am surprised that you are now trying to portray yourself differently in your blogs. Why don't you look at your own nasty behavior before analyzing everyone else?
Kari, you can't remember if Mempho-Quad's husband is a psychologist or a psychiatrist and you say she is mean..... you are a CFO for a MD, a mentor, etc, etc, etc.... but can't remember a MD profession.... that is shade..... maybe you should befriend Quad so she can get Dr. Lunceford to be your mentor to help you make the correct diagnosis......DARLING!!!!!
Anyone who can't see Mariah and Quad for the mean, insecure girls they are, is blind!!
LosAngelesBravoLover you're the blind one because you can't see Toya and Kari for the mean and hateful women that they are. Get some glasses on and watch the show again.
Kari, I agree with everything you said. I enjoyed you on the show because you we're a breath of fresh air. Mariah and Quad are very foolish women.
Loved the reunion, love you on the show. I am sure you have dealt with some mean girls in your life. When people see a lady with your class, grace and style they are obviously jealous. I lived in England after college and I have visited France and Italy, several times. I understand you. European ladies have a different style and a different way of doing things. These American girls have most likely never been there and do not get you. You have beauty and grace and a different level of intellegence. I would love to meet you one day. I do hope you stay on this show, but I would like to see a more grown up cast for season 2. I am shocked that some of these women married doctors. They should be married to rappers.
@Karlosmonty Class and this lady, do not belong in thesame sentence. She is quite pretentious in her illusion of class and wealth
Karlosmonty I saw artificial and two-face. She group with Toya real quick .Amen, let the Toya say Amen!
Kari, I have watched you all season and I really like you. You are funny and classy. I was proud of how you handled yourself at the reunion, with all those women talking over you and the mean jabs they threw. You are a class act. I hope you are back for season two, or maybe Bravo can put you on a show with some ladies of your caliber? I like watching you.
Wow, I feel sorry for you, find someone better to admire, like a toad, or a goose. You'll get better results
So.. You went to a nice private school and you didn't get along with those girls either...because they were "jealous". Lmao!
Kari, I found you to be insincere, patronizing and pretentious. You were rude to Quad under the guise of humor (who does that to someone they don't know). You are using Toya and I hope she realizes this during the reunion show.
A lady doesn't have to show she is a lady by exposing the flaws of others and using people. A woman's words and actions will "show" whether she is a lady or not. Just admit that being on this show is just your way of self promotion for your children's book and other business ventures.
Quad and Mariah may have acted silly and inappropriate at times with their humor and banter towards you but I found your behavior by far extremely cunning.
You are incorrect that "narcissistic personality disorder" is not a clinical diagnosis. It is one of the identified and coded personality disorders in the DSM V. Look it up
You were a mistress before you became a wife, so I refuse to believe you haven't been called names 'since middle school'. If you want to play a psychiatrist (or psychologist since you can't tell the difference), please go to medical school and stay off WebMD. You look like an idiot diagnosing someone with a disorder (without any form of training) and then turning around to say you deal in facts. You're insane and people have gone to jail for doling out medical services & advice without qualification.
And, really: all this poshness you like to throw around. Please stop. I went to a 'posh' all-girls Catholic school as well and that's how girls in general behave (factor in money and it's catapulted into space). It's not a good thing but stop acting as if they mistreated you because you were so great. I'm sure you were just as passive-aggressive then as you are now.
@jazziegirl58 -Because every villain has a sidekick, and she is that for Toya the Tiny minded!
Kari, you claim to have a well off up bringing, call your self "well mannered" woman who acts like a "pure lady". I'd advice you to give your sister a call, and get some brushing up on how a pure lady with good etiquette acts. First, a pure lady does not constantly have to put people down and talk in a condescending manner........just watch the first episode with you and Quad. A pure lady does not call someone "a low class whore", talk about who needs to see a shrink and even diagnose people, just because she feels affended. A pure lady is suppose to call her first, if he or she is in the wrong. Also may i add that a pure lady should know the real meaning of the term mean girls, because that about sums up who you are.
mesaasy Kari was not the one holding up signs and saying mean things. She had to defend herself from the onslaught of nastiness.
Kari if you want to be the classy english woman again take tips from Mrs Vanderpump, please
firstname.lastname@example.org Love Lisa Vanderpump! I totally get her English humor! Kari is just a waste of airtime. A legend in her own mind!
Please. In all this, you neglected to mention your (and Toya's) part in keeping the drama going. You turned down Mariah's dinner invitation to bury the hatchet and instead sat around with Toya looking for internet mug shots. We all see this play out on TV and your assertions of innocence only say that you question the audience's intelligence. Save it. I'm hoping Mariah has complete veto power to get you and Tacky Toya off the show for next season. You bring negative energy that the show can do without.
Why would they WANT to go to her house after all she has done? She just wanted to make fools of them. She only has jealousy and is unable to forgive. I would not put myself in that situation and I can see why they did not attend.
Mikez RHOtheCaribbean They should have went because they were part of the cast. Why get paid if you dont participate . Correct?
Honey, are we watching the same show? please wake up and be for real! Mariah acted classy by inviting them. That how a real lady acts and first of all Maria did not start the fight Toya did she confronted Maria in a very rude way she wasn't polite and when Maria talked back she put her hands first on Maria remember she had already lied to stupid Kari who believes anything anyone says that maria was jealous of her house so when she went making the trouble Kari stayed on her side! Even after watching the whole thing and seeing that Toya started this she still took Toya's side! Back to dinner they had accepted invitation why cancel the last minute who does that? I can assure that I haven't seen anyone behave that way! And do you know why Kari cancelled dinner? Because Her Boss Toya had told her about her disagreement with Quad! SO them witches cowardly cancel dinner to go gossip about Maria and Quad that's how dirty low they can be! Kari and Toya were wrong and they both wanted Maria's position! That's why they kept attacking Quad like that. So they expected Quad to let them say whatever they wanted to say about her hell no I have heard people call me classy but believe me I would have talked back too! They want to throw Mariah out on her own show yes that's what they want!
I don't believe she has complete veto power. But I believe Andy/Bravo has had enough feedback to know that KAri and Toya are not welcomed back by the public. I certainly will not watch if they K & T, are back next season.
Kari I freaking love your honesty! No questions asked, to stand amongst these woman you definitely have to be a strong confident woman! Any signs of weakness and Maria and Quad would pounce all over that... Good for you for standing your ground... Bye the way Mariah definitely owed you an apology for, A. being late for the co party B. for Fighting at the party C. not checking her mama at the party! D. stopping payment on the check!! Then I was perplexed when your husband apologized to Mariah's husband for kicking them out of your house?? I mean it was clear that Mariah was still volatile at that point, nothing good was going to come out of her being there?! Oh well let them be the mean girls... I really hope to see you next season!!!
I like Dr Duncan, he is an honest dude. I could see his apology to Aydin was sincere and I do not feel he had anything to apologise about. Mariah was the one that fought and Toya. His birthday was ruined by those two ladies and he is the apologising. Give me a break people! He had nothing to be sorry for. Aydin is a loser for not forgiving him. It shows his weak character and how he is whipped by his wife.
Mikez piperbeau @Mikez-So you don't think Duncan owes Aydin an apology for his comment "aydin will divorce her tomorrow"? Give me a break.
judy@london Mikez piperbeau This Idiot Duncan really does owe Aydin an apology for his comment "Aydin will divorce her tomorrow. I guarantee it." He was totally out of line for making such a horrible commnet on someone else's marriage like that. You don't curse somebody else's marriage or situation or it can come back on you. It's called Karma.
Please,you need glasses, 'Duncan is a hen peck just as crazy as his phony wife.He suppose to be his friend & he kick 'Ayden family out 'ONLY' The party was 4 him also. Ayden, paid his 'Coins. Real friends don't act the way these 2 act.Them crooks took sides w/ T.T.she needed the boot.Mariah, had rights 2 stop pymt.I agreed100%. Duncan is the loser,4 not standing up for his friend to his wife. Assume it was all ;Mariah's fault. 'Aydin, don't owe Duncan 'jack' he need to apologize on his 'Stupid comment.I like 'Ayden' he's shy unlike his wife! He knew when he told the guy's @ Simone house he could [forgive, not forget] He was hurt his so -called fakes treated his family! Duncan was not sincere w/ his apology.Shady as his wife.