Kari Wells

Kari doesn't think it's snobby to choose to not be around grown women like Mariah and Toya that resort to violence.

on Apr 11, 20130

As I prepare my thoughts for this week's blog about Married To Medicine here on Bravo, I find myself filled with many things that I would like to say. But the words of my wise, old mother, run through my head "Least said soonest mended."

Of course the fight scene was very hard to watch. It happened on what was otherwise a beautiful evening. Please understand that I am seeing some of this footage for the very first time. I too was trying to piece together what happened in an attempt to still get my head around it.

It was one of the worst nights of my life, with the sorrow that I felt for all of those people at the party, for all of our guests, the staff, my dear husband Duncan, Aydin, the wonderful musician, but mainly for Mariah's guests. I shed many tears that night, and both Duncan and I were in complete shock.

226 comments
ElegantLady
ElegantLady

While you are in Europe, I would recommend attending one of the distinguished etiquette schools because clearly you have missed  the  true meaning of being well-bred and well-mannered.

 An an impartial observer,  I have observed your lack of character. Your "pure true lady" mother and grandmother must be ashamed and terribly disappointed in you.  You are unrefined and undignified. 

Adrian08615899
Adrian08615899

you come off as a condescending snob.  If you have such a high pedigree, why are you on this show????

Rabbitb
Rabbitb

I agree, Kari and Mariah were supposed to be such great friends but, Kari never went to her to get her take on what transpired. It appears you never really liked Mariah,just tolerated her and once the fight took place,that was your opportunity to kick her to the curb.

aspi777
aspi777

Stop always siding with Toya. She is not always in the right. She was wrong with her comments to Quad and she was wrong with what she did with Mariah at the party. She should be just as responsible to pay for damages and you should be just as mad at her. You were mad when Quad made her comments about you and your husband. You should sympathize with Mariah and how Toya isn't a real friend because she couldn't keep her mouth shut about Mariah's daughter.

NeutronBomb
NeutronBomb

I love you Kari...but you are too sophisticated to be on a trash Reality TV Show like this! I am hoping you don't return next season...purely to salvage your reputation! Maybe Bravo could give you an Ettiquette spinoff?

jucee82
jucee82

Kari,

 

I think you were wrong for kicking out Mariah and not Toya.  They both were fighting and Toya swung first.  If you truely believe that fighting is wrong then place them equally responsible.  And how dare you ask Mariah to get on her knees & apologize!  If you and Mariah were such "good friends"  how could you allow y'all friendship to be ruin without wanting to get her side of the story!  You allowed Toya to explain and from what I saw she was sitting when she apologize, not kneeling.  Right is right & wrong is wrong, there shouldn't be a double standard.  There appears to be something that is missing from this story because everyone is placing blame on Mariah.  In my opinion you and Toya were waiting for an opportunity to shun Mariah.  I'm sure you have done things that you are not proud of and if you haven't, you will.  And when you do watch how the B**** name Karma works!  Mariah, Toya and yourself need to come down from the high horse y'all on and humble y'all self. 

RoyalMother
RoyalMother

Kari,

Beware.  There are wolves in sheep's clothing.  You are surrounded by one and you refuse to see it because you are so blinded by the information you know about Mariah.  Yes her background may be a lot different from where she is now.  But what about yours.  You as it has been pointed out were a MISTRESS before you married your prized doctor.  How did that effect his reputation??  How dare you be so snooty.  Your snootiness does not meld well with the show at all.  It looks ridiculous on you.  Take it off you definitely do not wear it well.

 

Think before you open your pompous mouth and sound as ridiculous as you look.  Toya is playing Mariah because of her background.  She knows what the trigger points are and aims straight for the bulls-eye.  You my dear are a pawn.  An obviously silly looking and sounding one.  If you insist on looking and sounding silly and ridiculous by all means continue to rant like an idiot without all the information you need to make a formative decision.

evette10
evette10

Kari, Mariah may be straight forward, but that Toya is a snake. She starts problems then act live a victim. She was wrong from the beginning. She asked for what she received. Her intentions were evil from the start. Mariah could have handle it better and walked off, but everyone has feeling. Toya needs to grow up just as well. You should have taken her check, because she started the mess from the beginning. 

PSM33
PSM33

Kari,

I like you I think you have alot of class but lets remember you are what you hang with and hanging out with Mariah and Quad brings you way down. You need to hang out more with Simone she is another classy lady like you are.

Violetfishes
Violetfishes

Kari, my advice is to stay far away from the obvious trash on the show (Mariah and Quad) and continue to live your life with your children and husband. Those two girls (clearly they do not act like women and are as far from ladies as one can get) deserve each other. Do not let someone else's poor choices and ignorant statements have any influence over the life you are providing with your husband for your children.

cstafford
cstafford

You still are a SNOB, but..If you're your man was still married whether he was separated or not...and you were living with him or dating him...you were his mistress...the definition of a mistress in a long-term female lover and companion who is not married to her partner; the term is used especially when her partner is married....in regards to both of you (Quad and yourself) slinging mud at each other...stop looking down your nose at others, like your entitled. Maybe she will stop giving it right back to you! 

ElleMcPherson
ElleMcPherson

Love you Kari, don't have one negative thing to say about you....however, I think that you should advise your husband to separate himself from this group of people....period!  You were right in not wanting that kind of behavior and that Ghetto Fabulous Quad in your home!  She was terrible to you and disrespected you...would Duncan still have wanted to do business or network with one of those guys if they had done that to him?  I don't think so! 

Marleylen
Marleylen

Kari I applaud your poise and grace. You are a very classy lady who knows how to carry herself as such. Hats off to you!

EvieWoo
EvieWoo

Kari, if I were you, I would stay far away from these women. They will only bring you down. We are only as good as the company we keep. It is shocking that the two female physicians would consent to be on this show. It puts you all in a very poor light. 

 

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

Basically Toya confronted Mariah about her mother and was touching Mariah's hair while she was talking to her. Next, Mariah started touching Toya's hair.  Then Toya swung at Mariah and threw a drink in her face.  Mariah fought back and the rest is history.  Toya should have been asked to leave the party due to she started this fight. In addition, she should pay for any damages (broken glass) because she threw the glass.   Mariah was avoiding Toya at the party.  

Msknoitall
Msknoitall

Kari, you were wrong to throw Mariah out of the party not even knowing the details of what happened.  Toya started the fight, she approached Mariah and she threw the first punch.  You not only owe Mariah an apology, you owe her a refund for that low budget lame party you threw.  Here's a tip, next time...hire a party planner!  

ncafferello@yahoo.com
ncafferello@yahoo.com

ughhh!! I think your phoney! Why did you ask the other host to leave and not Toya. She was the one who started it . its obvious you resent Mariah for bein friends w/ Quad and what about how you act at ppls house. You are a snob no ones got that wrong. It seems you were a mistress also yikes get you life!

Nvizibl2
Nvizibl2

I agree that you should have not only been offended by Mariah not helping you with the party, but also disrespected by the physical altercation between Mariah and Toya, no matter who started it. They like to throw around the "respect" word, but don't even really know the definition. Keep acting like the lady that you were at the party!

Fetia-NewYork
Fetia-NewYork

Kari. DON'T listen to any negativity. You have the most Class. And I like h ow u stick up for yourself. Mariah on theother hand....................Class -Less!!! I love you and watch the show for you. Jealous women do & say nasty things,  you can't please them all. You best to keep to yourself & Toya.

queenbartleygal
queenbartleygal

This needs to be said. If you think your a true friend to any of these ladies please rewind your life x5. You are a snob!!!!! You portray yourself as being so Much better than the other ladies. Wake up Kari you are just as messy as the other ladies if not,worse! Let's go back a couple of days before when you sent a text message uninviting Quad to your "Home". Really????? How dare you go that far then brag about it to Toya and never consult Mariaha? Mariaha btw who put her coins into your tacky party! Really Kari see yourself for who you are ... a down low trouble maker ... in the words of Quad "throw your life up Mistress"

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

You're so fake and delusional that I actually feel sorry for your children to have this to look back on.  You act as if your husband's accomplishments are that of your own and you  behaving as if your hands aren't dirty are ridiculous.  And shame on your husband for whispering that Mariah's husband was going to divorce her for the incident.  You two are far from a proper example of what a classy couple is in the medical community.  

ArethaPoindexter
ArethaPoindexter

Dear Mrs. Kari u come off bing sooo classy but u are Not! U suck & very shaddy no the fact before u speak U suck! You are no Lady & I use that word very loosely!

Daisyatl
Daisyatl

You crack me up how you think you can come to the states and reinvent yourself as though you were born with the silver spoon in your mouth! You were a doctors mistress and you know the same way you got him is the same way you have to keep him! You and your husband the DO are just social climbers! Climb right off the show please!

Huneydelicious1
Huneydelicious1

Kari,

Both women should have been escorted out not just Mariah. Toya was wrong for approaching Mariah in setting. What ever her issue were they should have been discussed some other time. Also, your husband was wrong for suggesting that Mariah's husband would divorce her. Both of you should apologize for your behavior as well.

Thanks

Huneyd

Flana
Flana

Where did you get you gown? PromsRUs.

Fetia-NewYork
Fetia-NewYork

Kari,

You are my Fave....and have the most Class, keep up who you are, I watch the show for you, Toya....I was embarrassed for you at the party the Mariah was late for.

Anndagreat
Anndagreat

You are a Nobody.. You are very condescending.   You are nobody in France are where ever you are from... Home-wrecker. 

peacockcalif
peacockcalif

Quad was right... kari = mistress of medicine

not a class act

not a party planner

not a friend and in Duncans little mind,,a incident as small as this would give him reason to divorce you and not look back...how scary that much feel..to have to be perfect..hopefully that wont bring up old eating issues..stress can do that.

mandabell1326
mandabell1326

Kari, I commend you on how you handled the situation. Mariah should had been at your house earlier to help set up, or at least of called to let you know that she would be late, I mean it was suppose to be her party too.  Also, Mariah was either drunk or had a chip on her shoulder when she arrived. her behavior was classless and disgusting! She threw the first punch first and I do not think Toya was out of line for telling Mariah how her mother approached her.  For you throwing her out, you had every right to.  It was your house and technachlly your party, Mariah did not help or communicate with you that day and you were the one being hostess to her guests.  For Mariah on her blog trying to say that you and your husband pre mediated the fight is bull crap. She is just trying to justify her very bad behavior. 

TwinPoets2013
TwinPoets2013

Kari, You are so fake.  You didn't tell Mariah how you felt about her lateness nor about not helping you with the party as she had allegedly promised.  

 

Also, if your husband Duncan believes that Mariah's Husband should file for divorce (while awful I agree) than he is not someone she should be married to.  Marriage is suppose to be forever, through good times and bad.   And a little cat-fight should not be grounds for a divorce.  

 

And you should be very concerned and scared that Duncan is going to leave you if things get a little challenging for you two, especially since he things this way.  Obviously you might going from being a MEDICAL MISTRESS to being UNMARRIED to MEDICINE, if things get a little imperfect around the Duncan household.  

Hulali
Hulali

I am surprized to read so many agressive trashy comments about you.  From what I have seen on the show, you have been trying eally hard to fit in with Mariah Quad and Toya.  They don't like you and they never will, so move on.  Don't expect to be in a friendship with any of these "ladies" just because your husbands work together.  Keep your dignity and stay far away from these trashy women. You don't need the income or the negative attention this will bring to you and your family.

susie.markwayrose
susie.markwayrose

I am just in shock reading the comments on here. It is NOT Kari's fault that Mariah couldn't be bothered to show up to her own event! And she had every right to voice her opinion to her friends regarding Mariah's classless behavior. How low class do you have to be as a GROWN WOMAN to actually get into a physical fight at a black tie event? At someone's HOME!!! There is no excuse for that...period. I would have had both of them removed from my home and they would never be welcome again. Kari, you need to choose some grown up women with class to be your friends and get away from these thugs.

 

RoyalMother
RoyalMother

 @PSM33 My love.  Kari is already down and has probably been down long before husband and show.  Actions speak louder than words.  When she acts her words sounds silly.

syrettagetaun@yahoo.com
syrettagetaun@yahoo.com

 @gjsimon3256@gmail.com Exactly! That is why I don't think Kari is classy at all! She tries to act classy, but has no class what so ever. She should admit to never liking Mariah, even when they were friends. She quickly jumped on Toya's side, without knowing that Toya started EVERYTHING! All of these others who call Kari class have not taken into consideration that she doesn't know how to be a good friend...to anyone. Kari will turn on you in a heart beat. That's not a friend...and not classy.

PSM33
PSM33

 @queenbartleygal

 Kari was right not to invite Quad and she did prove she is a true friend when she reinvited her for Mariaha. I didn't see Mariaha acting like a friend when she let Quad insult her at her party in her home she stood there and laughed. So why does Kari have to be the better freind then Mariah.. AND does a friend show up two hours late to a party that she is supposed to be hosting? AND doesn't even help after she said she would be there at noon to help her... NO she turns her phone off and ignored her completely. Mariaha could not even pick up the phone and say hey I am running late.... I don't know where you come from but where I come from that is NO FRIEND!

syrettagetaun@yahoo.com
syrettagetaun@yahoo.com

 @Daisyatl Yes. Kari had the nerve to talk bad about Mariah coming from nothing, like she was rich or something. Kari said she helped Duncan build his career and get the money they have. Well, that means Kari was not rich. Wow! She really thinks she's better than everyone on that show. When someone tris too hard to display a "Classy" image, it  often means they are hiding who they used to be.

Kalliedreams
Kalliedreams

 @Huneydelicious1

 You are so right Huneydelicious!  Mariah tried to walk away from Toya but she just keep on after her.

falina_c
falina_c

 @Anndagreat

 Excuse me, but EVERY saint has a past, and EVERY sinner has a future.  I am sure you are far from perfect as well!

Sundevil
Sundevil

@mandabell1326 Did you see how upset Mariah was about th EVIL things Toya said about m's daughter? Did you see Kari & Toya walk over to Mariah? Kari kept walking upstairs, turned back to se toya & Mariah, then smirked & continue upstairs? Last thing .....toya was petting Mariah's hair in front of that other couple while bashing her mother? When Mariah & toya were alone, Mariah petted toya just like she had been 30 seconds prior & toya threw the first punch......re watch then let me know if I was seeing things?

ksmalls
ksmalls

First of all I feel for everyone involved.  I believe when I watched the turn of events it was Toya who throw a drink in Mariah's face and had the nerve to cry victim.  I don't condone violence, but things happen in life we all wish we could take back.  Each and everyone of us are vunerable at times even in places where incidents like this aren't suppose to happen.  The emotions were very high and story line is that Toya is gossiping about Maraih's daughter being adopted by Dr. Aydin, and her mother who never really cared for Toya over heard one of the conversations in a beauty salon.  Now Mariah considered Toya her friend and would have never thought in a million years that this would come back to haunt her when she and her husband haven't got to the point of telling their daughter the truth one day.  It seems to me that something was happening way before it became a reality show.  People seem to think because you are educated one should know better, but what I have learned that this is about how people relate to one another.  Some individuals do think they are better than others because of their upbringing and where they came from.  Kari mentioned some things about certain individuals that was quite alarming to me.  And it shows how inappropriate her views are about people in general.  I can tell she doesn't come from a diverse background. 

abajanabroad
abajanabroad

 @TwinPoets2013 Is it not obvious? She didn't mention the tardiness nor the helping bit because it was neither the time nor the place. You need to learn some etiquette and not from Mariah

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @TwinPoets2013

LOL According to Kari's husband, if you have an affair it's OK to marry the mistress but if she defends herself in a fight you divorce her!!  SAD!!! LOL

Hulali
Hulali

 @TwinPoets2013

 Duncan didn't say Mariah's husband should leave her, he said that he was divorcing her tomorrow, which is probably somethingMaraih's husband said to Duncan in the heat of the moment when he was completely embarrassed and angry about his wife's actions that night

CarmenE
CarmenE

 @Hulali

 Was she trying hard when she was talking behind there back and putting them down in their face???  We must be watching a whole different show!

Huneydelicious1
Huneydelicious1

 @susie.markwayrose

 Were you in Mariah's home? Do you know why she was late? Maybe there was an issue with her family. Smh. You do not know: so you shouldn't speak on it.

Huneyd

deedeekid
deedeekid

 @susie.markwayrose

 Did you actually watch the show??? Kari was as much to blame as anyone!  As the Hostess and homeowner she set the mood for the party. She didn't have the right to trash Mariah to her friends or infront of their other Guests. That was classless and in very poor taste if nothing else! A real friend wouldn't behave that way. She should have concentrated on being a great host and waited to take Mariah a side after the party instead of insighting Toya's anger and bashing Mariah while the party was in full swing.  They all acted like immature adolecents Period! 

Ladyalways
Ladyalways

 @Hulali  @TwinPoets2013

 I don't for a moment her husband said anything about that, that's the low class side of Duncan. He threw out the Co--host and her husband, and not the bitch TOYA who started it!! Kari, tried to not invite Mariah's best friend. If he thinks that fight and being late for a party is grounds for divorce, than horse face better have a pre-nup

Hulali
Hulali

 @deedeekid  Kari may have said negative things about Mariah but she was IN NO WAY responsible for that horrible cat fight between MAriah and Toya