Tom Sandoval

Tom reflects on being free on the dance floor and is appalled by Kristen’s harsh treatment of Scheana in Cabo.

on Jan 100

I was really stoked to go to Cabo! I was a little worried about going to Cabo with this group of people, though. I was maybe a little concerned about this whole Ariana stuff clouding an otherwise great time, but figured that we would be too distracted with paddle-boarding, dancing, and tequila to sweat some annoying Jax rumors.

The one thing I was not looking forward to was hearing Stassi cram 'It's MY birthday' down everyone's throat for four days straight. Stassi didn't pay for our tickets to Cabo, or our rooms, or any dinners for that matter. So really, in my opinion, it's a trip that we all decided to take that Stassi's b-day just happens to take place during. I thought it was pretty weird to have all the girls staying together, I bet that would've been different if Stassi had a man at the time.

72 comments
okidikiepokie
okidikiepokie

Tom,

It's never right to cheat, but once she knew and stayed with you she made a choice to forgive. It is hurtful to be cheated on but its obvious Kristen is going to spend her life and yours making it miserable. Checking your email, drilling other girls, crying constantly about every rumor cannot be any kind of life to lead. 

At first I really did believe she cheated because anyone that harps so much about it usually does it. It's just that Jax's lies about anything to tell Stassi what she wants to hear. Remember also that Stassi used Kristen's phone to text Jax to trick him about Kristen so thats the text Jax showed you.Could be???


I also figured something else that might be going on. It seems like the more drama around Stassi and Jax the more air time they get. The are trying to become actors?? They are on TV???  They strile me as two people that will use or do anything to get ahead.

louis1111
louis1111

Tom...

A few weeks...well actually almost at the beginning of the season...I blogged to you that I believed that Kristen and Jax may have hooked up. Of course it wasn't posted...and I see now why. The phrase "I knew it!" came flying out of my mouth Monday night when I saw the episode. Listen, I'm not gloating...I always liked you dude. I hope it turns out to be another Jax lie (what a waste of time he is and he thinks he's so hot...he's not). But either way, I would like it to work out for you (and her). Jax can never be a friend again...he crossed that friendship line either way. Plus you and Schwartz are too bright for him...he's kind of dim. He had a good friend in you and he f___ed it up...like he does with everything. Good luck in the off season. I hope you and Kristen can work it out.

crystal.s.austin.1
crystal.s.austin.1

Tom, you make a mistake, but its time to let Kristen go, its painful for me to watch and Im not in the relationship with you guys, you are a touchy feely person who needs someone confident

ejd7
ejd7

Tom, want more for your life. Spend a couple years single and get to know yourself.  Eventually, you'll enjoy your own company and feel a solid sense of self-worth. Once this happens, the partner you pick will be someone who adds to your already rich experience...and not someone who just fills a void.  

semf2006
semf2006

Tom  hope you and Kristen go your separate ways because you bring the worst of yourself.

viewerindallas
viewerindallas

Dude, break up with Kristen.  Watching the two of you is painful and it is clear that she is never going to leave you.  There is too much history and dysfunction to ever make this relationship successful and you are just spinning your wheels.  Get. Out.

kiki13
kiki13

I don't see you as a cheater but some hide that pretty well-BUT I think if there was any evidence of it, we would be seeing on the show.  They don't hold back any punches it seems.


It seems like you really do love Kristen, but man I gotta say- she's a train wreck and not good for you.  She needs TONS of therapy before she will let go of this cheating idea.  Newsflash:  the next boyfriend will be guilty of the same thing in her mind,


Some of your friends are NOT your friends:  Jax, Stassi, & Katie, specifically.  All three are involving themselves when it is none of their business no matter what you and Kristen decide.   The girls know they are preying on a weak mind with Kristen and it looks like they are doing it for their own ego inflation- it borders on emotional abuse.  

Kristen is bouncing off the walls- Anyone giving her a bottle of alcohol is NOT her friend. Kristen is in real trouble emotionally..


You are a handsome guy and seem real, so I hope you will find the strength to distance yourself from all this BS.  I can see why you are friends with Arianna- she is normal.  

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Tom lets say this was not a tv show and Kristin worked elbow to elbow with a guy she laughed with...had some history with....even in a friendly not romantic way....would you like the idea they worked next to each other?  Would your imagination not possibly conjure up what ifs?  If this is to be believed the answer would be no...you would not tolerate that in the real world....


Women will gravitate to  the guy that makes them laugh...every time...I suspect men do the same...you laugh a lot with Auriana...the viewers are somewhat confused about this arrangement and feel it is way too contrived even for reality tv....then to have dragon lady be behind a lot of it is just far fetched...


Careful Lisa...Ken may get his mojo back and have you in tears one day...ohhh yes honey...your tough brit exterior can crack

ammratan89
ammratan89

U are right in every bit ! Jax is not ur friend, he acted like a girl and betray and lie to everyone just to get what he wants. Ur girl also..rude, annoying and doesnt really deserve u.  I really wish u date ariana instead 

sunnywalk
sunnywalk

kristen is a terrible person, why you have wasted 5 years on her i will never know. you and tom are so adorable and you are dating two of the nastiest girls i've ever seen.

#teamarianna

grub
grub

This episode taught me that Jax is a 13 year old girl.

Denise903
Denise903

Tom - you appear to be caring in your blog but I no better now. Last season I thought what a nice guy and good looking. Now I don't believe anything you write or say on the show. You lied so many times and i can't stand to watch you. If you love her stop messing around and if you don't break up with her. Why lie all the time? When I watch you and Kristen I get anxiety. WTF already....take some action. And I don't feel sorry for her at all. I'll always be there for my friends but not if she was one of them. When she cries- which is every episode- I have to fast forward! It looks so pathetic that I'm embarrassed for her. Your the worst kind of guy...you look innocent but your really sneaky. Does she realize how desperate she looks? I think you secretly like this messed up kind of relationship. Your head got too big from being on TV and you think your something your not. I do think Kristen is beautiful but only when she smiles and is happy. Jax isn't the only one that's full of it...right tom?

baaboo32
baaboo32

You really need to get rid of Kristen .  I get that you've been together for 5 years but man the abuse that she dishes out.  Can it really be worth it?  Ugh !  It's exhausting to watch her.  I can't imagine living it. 

pcofwork
pcofwork

It seems that a lot of people have a problem with Kristen, but aside from her poor treatment of Scheana, I totally get where she's coming from this season.  Obviously, your relationship was in a really bad place, and all these people getting involved isn't helping matters.  Kristen loves you, and feels betrayed, as well as angry-anyone would, it just happens that there are cameras capturing every moment.  People should be more understanding about that, the poor girl was going through a rough time.  Hopefully, you two have put this in the past, and can weather this storm.  Tom, treat her right!

Sally12567
Sally12567

PLEASE do the right thing and LET HER GO! You are both good people but you do not belong together.

loripoole
loripoole

Don't feel like I can say much at this point because everyone is saying wait to see what happens, I think you are a super nice person and can totally see why Kristen wants so hard to hold on to you.  Stassi so so so stirs the pot, she is a mean girl and acts like she is there to help Kristen but she is a man hater and only wants to find drama and use it against everyone so ppl will think she is so great.  Be leary of her and Jax,  Jax is just super insecure and wants so bad to be liked that he'll do anything, even lie to make himself look better...(in this case at your expense).  Glad he is getting help, hopefully it works.  I hope you and Kristen  figure things out whether its to stay together or not.. you are the only two in this relationship and you both have to do whats best for you.. Kristen just needs more self esteem and to realize she is ok.. better friends might help.  actually she should befriend Sheana and Ariana, I think they would help her with her self esteem issues. Like who you are and that will make you happy.  Good luck.

dexter.pie
dexter.pie

You are wasting a great time in your life being with this insane older woman who acts like an immature brat school girl.  She is an alcoholic.  She has mental health issues. 

 

Trust me.  Move out. Get an apartment with other Tom.  Both of you dump Kristen. Kati, Stassi and Jax from your lives, and start to have fun.

 

Youth and looks fade.  Enjoy them while you can.

ale74
ale74

Good moves!!! Stassi is a pain in the *** and Jax wants to create drama...

bevin1972
bevin1972

well, I am probably old enough to be your mother, but you are adorable!!!!  you are the reason I watch the show.

susielyn56
susielyn56

How much longer are you going to take crap from Kristen?" You screwed up, granted, but she is still with you, says she loves you, blah, blah, blah. She's never going to trust you again, no matter what you do or how long you wait. It's really kind of pathetic. I agree with a comment from someone else on here, Ariana is better suited for you than Kristen. Your personalities seem to mesh better.  

Trvel
Trvel

Sorry, meant Kristen, not Katie...tho they're not much different.

Trvel
Trvel

Good read on the situation. Seems like you're seeing Katie for who she is (?) . Hopefully; would hate to see you invest even more time in a stock that is going downhill...fast and ugly.

freedomlover
freedomlover

Have you ever heard of "co-dependence?"  You and Kristen feed off of each other's actions.  No one stays with a cheater, if they really believe them to be one.  They would leave.  Kristen seems to be very masochistic and loves drama.  If she left you, she would have to find someone else exactly like you to continue with the same drama.  She thrives on it, and you happily provide it for her, because that is what you want as well.  I ended a friendship with someone like Kristen, because I got sick of hearing how her husband mistreated her.  She wouldn't leave, and just wanted to be the center of attention, forever asking her friends for "advice," which she never took.

Hulali
Hulali

Don't waste your 20's trying to make a relationship work that is so obviously unhealthy.  There is no trust and too much insecurity.  Move on!  There is someone out there that you will be compatible with and you are just wasting time.  Otherwise you'll be in your 40's married with 2 kids and looking for a divorce lawyer!

trecia3
trecia3

So GG on shahs of sunset admitted to sleeping with Jax the last 10 months or so on Andy Cohen talk show. I wonder how Stassi fees about that?

trecia3
trecia3

To be honest the show needs to get ride of Tom, Kristen, Kristy and her boyfriend. The new young men and women who are fun out going but a little naughty to.

trecia3
trecia3

Tom you must be getting paid well to be taking all that crap from ur gir because there is no man that would cheat and stay with a girl crazy as her.

CherMay
CherMay

From  what I see you are totally in love with Kristen and if you had any intention of leaving her you'd do so in the 5 years you've been together. You know that she acts the way she does because of her insecurities concerning your unfaithfulness.  She looked hot in that red dress ....really beautiful.  You looked great together.  Good luck. 

MissLuvRealityTV
MissLuvRealityTV

I was rooting for you two but Kristen is starting to get on my nerves.

msmith76
msmith76

Great dancing style.  Kick Kirstein to the curb.  Disassociate with Jax and Stassi both of them are sickening.

staugielady
staugielady

Dude, I don't know if anything really happened between you and Ariana, but seriously - she is a much better match for you than Kristen. Ariana is stable, mature and fun. I would rather have a root canal than spend 5 seconds with Kristen. Get out, get out now!!!

heebs32
heebs32

It's time to move on from Kristen  Just sayin'

 

ruke
ruke

Tom, you have so much more going for you than Jax. I don't understand why you stay with Kristen, she is so sad & I can't imagine how you both think you can fix all of the damage in your relationship. You two are a perfect example of

"""Sometimes Love is Not Enough"""!!!!! While you both have put a lot of time & energy into the relationship, it's just      

not working. Listen, from someone who has been there, there has been too much negative to turn it around. You're  hurting & depressed more than happy. Please, stop beating that dead horse!!!!

withak
withak

Tom, You totally cracked me up with your dance moves! I think you are adorable and seem like a really nice guy, but you've got to cut Kristen loose before she ends up finding some reason to resort to even more bizarre behavior. After she for sure knows you cheated in LV with the bottle chick, Kristen will not stop harping on the subject of you and Arianna, until she either catches you two together or you break up with her. How can you stand the constant whining and the non-stop checking up on about who you are calling/texting, hanging out with, etc.? I am embarrassed for you. Face it -- if you cheated on her in LV, you must not love her properly anyway and out of being humane, you should set her free.

ellen2012
ellen2012

Man, I don't get you Havent you had enough of Kristen  She immature, paranoid, a drunk and a mean girl  I wouldn't blame you if you sought the company of a real girl, not nasty, drunk Kristen Move on already! 

samsung
samsung

Tom stop lying the way you interact with your blonde friend is apparantly more considerate and shows your much more fond of her then the way you act with your girlfriend. Your clearly not making the poor girl happy. She appears miserable and unloved most of the time. You leave her feeling jealous and suspicious instead of cared for and the center of your world. You should let her find the right guy for her because its clearly not you.

waytogo
waytogo

Tom, that was a great blog.   I hope you are catching on to Jax and start staying away from him he is nothing but trouble.  And thank God you are catching onto that horrible 10 year old girlfriend you have.  Please please get rid of her!!!   I sure hope she is the one to go next week.  If Lisa doesn't fire her I don't think I can watch her stupidity anymore.   Stassi was bad but she really is taking the cake.  I hope this is a turn for you.  You can do soooo much better.  I'll be watching to see if you get rid of her too.  

L.L.R.
L.L.R.

Nice blog Mr.Sandoval :) I don't really know what to say about you and Kristen other than... I'm sure she's manipulative, b!tchy, great, awesome wonderful gf all rolled up in one. That's the only reason why I can see why you stay with her... you take the good with the bad and very preservering. I think most of your fans and  viewers won't blame you one bit if you do end up leaving her. Personally I like to see happy endings and would prefer to see Kristen treating you nicely and both of you staying together HOWEVER I don't think that's going to happen. Tom honestly you would be better off leaving her than her leaving you because if you leave her first, then all of your fans and viewers will see that you took the first step at doing something that is RIGHT for you. While camera's are rolling hit it hard with your band. Really use those camera's to your advantage by inviting everyone at SUR to your gigs. The main staring SUR staff is what the show is about and your part of that staff. Pour more honey (or staff) and the bees (or camera's) will come. :) lol haha just my analogies.. 

EDSimpson27
EDSimpson27

Life is too short to be as miserable as you and Kristen appear to be. 

mtrae9
mtrae9

I think all you guys (except Shay) need to ditch these little girls and get some real women.  They are a lot of them out there and you guys deserve a mature person to be with.

Blink
Blink

You write your blog as if you and Kristen have parted ways.  If so, Congrats, you're free to be you now and don't have to wake up on pins and needles.

crystal.s.austin.1
crystal.s.austin.1

@sunnywalk i know right, i thought if she wasnt so cute, maybe she would have a great personality but she is gross

ruke
ruke

 @pcofwork

 Finally someone looking at both sides. Thank you!!!!   It is obvious Kristen truly loves you. Tom please break away from Stassi & Jax as much as you can, otherwise you & Kristen will never have a chance.

They are both losers and totally selfserving..

Denise903
Denise903

@pcofwork I agree! Treat her right or break up!

okidikiepokie
okidikiepokie

@loripoole  

Jax only wants Stass's approval and Stassi just wants more air time to be a star. The more trouble she causes the more attention and scenes shes in.

okidikiepokie
okidikiepokie

@loripoole  

Jax doesn't want to be liked he just wants Stassi's approval. Stassi wants air time at everyones expense.

Denise903
Denise903

@samsung What you said is perfect and so, so true!

Hulali
Hulali

 @Blink

 Nope!! They were just on WWHL and said they are still "working" on their relationship!  Yuck!