Here's How to Handle It When Someone Calls You a Bitch
When people thought they heard Chrissy Metz call Alison Brie a bitch, it got us thinking — what do you do if someone *does* call you this?
Chrissy Metz has denied calling Alison Brie “such a bitch” (which some people said they heard on a hot mic) at the 2019 Golden Globe Awards while walking the red carpet.
After several news outlets and people on Twitter speculated about the alleged comment about the GLOW star, Metz responded that no way does she talk like that about anybody.
“I’m so distraught and upset,” the This Is Us actress told People. “I don’t speak about anyone like that I don’t speak like that. I love Alison, I follow her. When I was walking up they said, ‘Do you know Alison,’ and I said, ‘Oh boy, do I.’ I love her.”
Metz’s rep also said: “Chrissy never said that. She would never say that about anybody. She’s a huge fan and friend of Alison Brie. Chrissy has nothing but admiration and respect for Alison and, frankly, every fellow actor who must wade through this much-too-common attempt to create a feud among colleagues.”
Metz then tweeted: "It’s terribly unfortunate anyone would think much less run a story that was completely fabricated!” she wrote. “I adore Alison and would never say a bad word about her, or anyone! I sure hope she knows my heart.”
Brie believed her (or at least acted like she did), writing on her Instagram stories, “Nothing but love for @chrissymetz! Rumors can’t keep us down.”
We’re glad all is good between the two women, but unfortunately this goes on IRL. Ever been called a bitch? Probably, whether to your face or behind your back.
Here’s how to handle it if you hear someone’s said it or you actually hear someone say it.
National etiquette expert Diane Gottsman explained there are a few specific ways to deal. “Ignore it, their words do not matter,” she told Personal Space. “Or address it by requesting a conversation in a civil manner.”
When you do talk, try to handle it like adults and ask what caused this person to become upset. Try to move forward, especially if you work together or have mutual friends.
Or, just let it go, as in don’t just ignore it and quietly seethe. Let it go as in try to never think about it again. “Someone’s words may have been taken out of context and it’s not worth addressing,” Gottsman said.
“Often, just ignoring the naysayer is enough because it says more about the person who is speaking out, which is generally due to jealousy,” she added. “There is power in silence. However, if this is someone close to you and you have heard from several people that they are saying something unkind you can certainly reach out privately. Ask what has set off their anger and try and get on the same page.”
Chances are, if you hear it secondhand, it was exaggerated. Think of the game “telephone.”
“Unless you hear it with your own ears, chances are it may be a distorted version of the truth,” Gottsman explained. “Take in consideration that the comment may have been changed or misconstrued. What it boils down to is how interested you are in the relationship. People will always talk. It’s not worth taking on every person who does not like you. But, if you are being accused or unjustly targeted, take appropriate and civil steps to rectify the situation. Avoid going on social media to slam someone or defame them. The name-caller looks far worse than the person they are calling out.”
