That speed dating event that The Real Housewives of New York City women found themselves at was pure gold on so many levels. Tinsley Mortimer’s Colombian connection, Ramona Singer being rude to a bartender who didn’t know who the “guy in the red scarf” was (answer: it was the much sought after Brian, duh), Bethenny’s silver pants, all of it. But the best nuggets were watching each lady flirt with these guys. Such different styles, much like their clothing, or apartments, and each had a unique way of putting themselves out there.
Personal Space spoke with the host of that glorious event, Rori Sassoon, founder of Platinum Poire, an upscale matchmaking service, about what the cast did right —and where there's room for improvement.
The break down:
Let’s start with Ramona “You bought me a drink so I bought you a drink” Singer, who tousled her own hair so much we're worried she got a concussion, and batted her eyes so often it looked like she needed contact lens solution STAT. She physically lets a guy know where she’s at, that’s for sure.
“There’s two sides to Ramona,” Sassoon says. “She was married for so long, and that ended and she didn’t have a choice. So dating can be hard. She comes off like someone who is used to being married … she could hold that back a little bit. Give a guy a little more of a challenge. Be a little mysterious. You’ve got to play the game. She’s way too loud and clear, but at the end of the day a person has to do them. Someone is married all those years, it’s difficult getting back in the dating game. And she looks amazing.”
Ol’ Skinnygirl Bethenny Frankel was kind of single at the event? She admitted to Brian Red Scarf (that’s his last name Red Scarf, it’s on his birth certificate and everything) that she and ex-boyfriend Dennis Shields love each other, but that he’s not really ready to be a full partner to someone. So she flirted.
“There’s a side of her that is funny and witty and speaks the truth and she’s not afraid to do that,” Sassoon says. “But there’s a time and a place. Like when she says sexually suggestive things to Brian [Red Scarf] … she’s hyper-sexual — and that’s good when you’re in a relationship. But being funny and sarcastic can emasculate the crap out of men. Most men like femininity. She can look into her feminine side, she looks the part, great tits and ass, but she doesn’t act the part. She’s a businesswoman and a survivor but when it comes to dating, men love a challenge. No man minds the type of partner that brings something to the table financially, but she could bring a little more femininity to it.”
Luann de Lesseps was fresh out of rehab at the speed dating event, so, Sassoon says, she was unsure she even wanted to attend. Let's cut her a break, she was a good sport about it, and gave it her all.
“Luann really needs to date herself right now, she needs to learn herself, she just came out of rehab,” Sassoon says. “At the end of the day, she wanted to be married. A lot of them want to be in a relationship but don’t do their due diligence. She was definitely not in the best head space, she was a bit more distant. She really needs to stick to her new life and needs to be with someone who knows about her past and accepts her.”
“Carole is level-headed, grounded, extremely dateable as long she’s dating more age appropriate men — and I told that to her,” Sassoon says. “A younger guy has more of an expiration date. She’s looking for a connection, not marriage. Carole is very healthy inside, mentally, and she brings so much to the table. She’s smart, witty, humble. She’s a class act. She keeps it cool and keeps it cute.”
Tinsley “wedding dress” Mortimer is half Southern belle, half savvy New Yorker, Sassoon says.
“She commented how she’s a Southern belle, and wants to be courted, but at the end of the day she made out with Scott on their first date. She wants to be married. She was trying on wedding dresses. You don’t need to seem desperate, you just want to be married to the right person.”
Dorinda Medley is in a relationship, but Sassoon had some thoughts on her flirting style, too.
“I love Dorinda,” she says. “You can make fun of John [Mahdessian] but Dorinda is a widow she didn’t ask for this to happen. She’s with her partner a long time. She knows how to share, she knows give and take in her relationship and it’s not all about her. Straight men don’t want to be emasculated and she knows how to massage the ego.”
Lastly, let’s get right to it — Sonja Morgan. Ah, Sonja. Sonja came in that party hot to trot and wasted no time before she was talking to a man with a stain on his shirt about being whipped. Side note: Man with stain, meet John Mahdessian.
“Sonja definitely does not take herself too seriously, nor anybody else,” Sassoon says. “She was pretty upfront with what she’s looking for. Frenchie was around for a year, but where was that going, it had an expiration date. At the end of the day Sonja needs someone who should love you for who you are. She’s not gonna attract a guy who would be shocked by her. She’s a bit outrageous, but that’s who she is. She knows how to make a man feel good. She can stir the ego, she is attentive and fun.”
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