Bravotv.com: Tell us about the difficulties with your husband and deciding to open up with the other ladies – what were you thinking as they comforted you?
Due to the nature of my husband’s job, the past three years we have been living in a non-traditional family environment. For the best interest of my teenage children it made perfect sense not to uproot them again. Living in this type of situation is very common in various lines of business. However, it isn’t what I envisioned prior to starting a family. But when this became my fate, initially I thought it was something that I could handle. But as time progressed, I realized that things were not what I thought they would be. I am very family oriented and put 150% into my family unit. I’ve done everything humanly possible to preserve the happiness of my family and have gone beyond the call of duty to ensure my kids are getting a balance so that they feel like a “normal” family. It’s frustrating as hell when you give up you career and basically your dreams to accommodate the person that you love and almost 20 years later you look up and realize that you’re basically alone. People who aren’t close to either of us want to make the conclusion that there is another person involved. Not true! I haven’t met a person yet that hasn’t had issues in their relationships. I am just honest enough to admit my struggles. I am going through a storm right now. A storm I am willing to endure to maintain my vow to God “for better or worse.”
I told the ladies because I knew my marriage was something that was of concern for them. At that moment, it was a super sensitive time for me. I was glad I shared and was able to get their support in return. I’m like Olivia Pope and I’m just used to fixing things and handling things. But normally I am handling those things are for someone else. I’ve never been in a position where my situation needed fixing so I normally don’t go to others to figure my own stuff out. I have trust issues also, and it wasn’t the first thing on my To Do List. But, it felt great having them there for me. I hope they get that same point to be as open about their personal truths that are difficult. In all honesty, there is a voice in the back of my head saying, “What the heck did you share that for?” But the real truth is, I am not ashamed to say my life isn’t perfect, that I am hurting, and it feels like the lonliest place in the world. It helps when you know you have people to find comfort in.
Bravotv.com: What do you think about Ashley Darby Googling all the ladies?
CJJ: Ashley’s party was cute. She’s young and vibrant and thinks differently then most of the ladies. I have young nieces that I hang out with so it didn’t alarm me in any way. The one thing I would’ve added would’ve been a VIP section with champagne for the bubbly girls. I paid $45 dollars for two drinks. Needless to say I didn’t get my pop on that night. Overall, it was what she wanted for her day and she was happy. I did feel like I was at a “My Sweet Sixteen” party when we were asked to go outside to wait for the birthday gift Jag to come rolling down the street. But, she’s young and that’s what they do…I guess.
CJJ: If Robyn was that angry with Ashley about the google search, she should've dealt with it prior to or after the party. There is a time and a place for everything and coming to someone’s celebration is definitely not the place for it. If it were in Robyn’s place I probably would’ve opted not to go if it wasn’t resolved earlier. But, it was resolved. Where I grew up that scenario would’ve gone so left. Only in Potomac!
Andrew and Katie…Get a room next time!