The RHONJ star answers 20 of your burning questions.

Sep 19, 2013 - The Dish

What does it take to keep a marriage hot and happy? How do you "fight right"? And what's the secret to raising happy and healthy children? Melissa Gorga knows the answer. And the Real Housewives of New Jersey star dishes her advice in her new book Love Italian Style. This season, Melissa and her husband Joe Gorga have endured plenty of drama, so if anyone knows how to keep a marriage working, it's her.

To celebrate her new book, Melissa answered fans questions—20 of them. Which of Joe's habits annoy her the most? What's one thing she regrets about filming on the show? And has her relationship with sister-in-law Teresa Giudice improved or worsened over the years? Read on to find out.

What did the Housewives think of your book?
They all were very excited and receptive when I told them I was writing Love Italian Style. They felt like it was a perfect fit for me. I can’t wait for them to read it.

Has your relationship with Teresa improved since you started the show? Or has it worsened?
I think that being on a reality show definitely magnifies our flaws, so it might seem worse to viewers, but the truth is it's really always been this way. Being on the show forces us to work out our issues and if we weren’t on the show we very well could have cut off all ties. And after all the therapy this season how could you not be better!

How did you and Joe meet and what was your first date like? Were you nervous? Was he? When did you know that he was the one?
We were both in Cancun on Spring Break with our friends and Joe spotted me. He told his friend that he was going to marry me one day. We never met, but he remembered me and the leopard bikini I was wearing. A couple years later, we met at a beach club down at the Jersey shore. It took him a little while to get my number, but when he finally did we went on a first date and he made me dinner at his house. I was impressed that he cooked penne a la vodka for me. Joe wasn’t nervous at all and neither was I.

Come to find out after I moved in with him, that he pretended to make that dinner! LOL. He put out the pots and pans and even made a point to show me the vodka he used to make the sauce. Years later after moving in with him, I realized Joe had ordered the food from our favorite restaurant down the street. To this day we still laugh about it! After that first date, we were inseparable.

Your book is about your husband and your marriage. But do you have a similar values (respect, honesty, loyalty) when it comes to your extended family and friendships?
I do. I believe that respect, honesty and loyalty are key, but I believe there is a difference between family and friends. When it comes to friendships, I keep my circle tight. If a friend brings too much negativity to your life, then you need to cut them out. That rule doesn’t apply to family, you have to be more forgiving and let things go.