In honor of Ex-Files Week, The Real Housewives of New Jersey’s Siggy Flicker is taking over Bravotv.com as Guest Editor. For one whole week the relationship expert is sharing advice for those just getting out of a relationship and those trying to stay in one. She also has a lot of opinions when it comes to your favorite celebrities’ love lives. It’s all leading up to our new series A Night With My Ex, which explores what happens when former couples reunite…for one night only. Check back each day for exclusive content straight from Siggy herself, and don’t forget to catch the premiere on Tuesday, July 18 at 10/9c.
In today's world, which is not my world because I’m 50 years old and considered an old dinasour, people will text, “I don’t want to go out with you anymore.” It is so disgusting and rude. Treat others how you would want them to treat you.
Don't Do It Over the Phone
I, myself, hate confrontation, but I have to force myself to do a show like The Real Housewives of New Jersey and confront people, and I have to be honest about my feelings. And guess what, it’s hard. It’s hard to do that, but you have to do it. So I tell people, "Please call them up at least so they can hear your voice, and say, 'Hey this isn’t working out. I’m sorry I’m not happy. I feel like our chemistry is off. You know, I’m not myself around you. I find myself wanting to be other places, and I do think it would be great if you go your way, and I go my way.” See the person face to face. Yes you’re going to cry. Yes it’s going to hurt you. But it’s better.
There’s something called karma. Karma is a rubber band. It will slap you back, it will come back to you. Don’t disrespect somebody. Don’t do it, it’s not nice, and it will come back to you.
You don’t have to be too honest. You don’t have to say you don't like the way they look when you have sex, that they've gained 50 pounds or you don't like their mother. No! You just have to say, “Listen, I’m not happy.” It can be, “I’m not happy, the chemistry is off between us.” That’s all. Blame it on chemistry. "I’m not feeling it anymore, and I find myself miserable when I’m around you." You don’t have to go into details and hurt that person. Blame it on chemistry.
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