Africa Miranda

Africa updates you on her "friendship" with Vawn, shares her thoughts on Alex, and what this season meant to her.

on Oct 29, 20130

I can't believe we're at the end! It has definitely been a "journey" and I've learned a lot and literally seen myself in a whole new way. I'm still getting used to my life playing out in such a public way. With that said, at the end of this season I can say that I've enjoyed it all and enjoyed the interaction and feedback from all of you.

So now let's get into the episode.

I left the hotel the night before worried if Vawn was OK. The next morning he came by my house to talk and while I knew he was still upset I was glad that he had started to cool down. I understood how he felt but also hoped that it would be resolved.

When I got Tribble's text I didn't know how it was going to all play out. I never really knew how the conversation outside went until I saw this episode. All I knew is that Vawn said Tribble apologized and that it was done. I respect that they have differing opinions but glad that Tribble apologized and they can move on.

77 comments
Alexisfuhheva
Alexisfuhheva

WOW I cant believe how pathetic you are over a guy, I'm sitting at home like who in the hell is vawn never heard of him but you act like he's the king of the world which is sad, you let him disrespect you repeatedly, and then to try and throw race into this situation which is so stupid. vawn was clearly the aggressor, running around acting like a fool. you just look so stupid and you honestly need to have more respect for yourself 

agcbuyer
agcbuyer

Very disappointed in you, Africa. I thought you were great at first. And yes, the security officer was right, Vawn WAS   more aggressive, boo boo. You look so foolish, waiting on Vawn.   And then if you do get together, what then? He'll cheat! Infidelity does not  come from a lack of love, it comes from a lack of RESPECT. 

 

snash1
snash1

I was feeling her until she let vawn silence her, she looked liked a lost puppy and it was sad to watch her eat out the palm of his hand.

US_DOJ_Gov
US_DOJ_Gov

I was rooting for you Afrika, until you showed your true racist views.

 

Atlanta P.D. officer you were talking to was African-American & he disagreed with you also.

 

Shame that you turned out to be a racist.

seniorbitch
seniorbitch

Wow Africa, I was routing for you girl, I really thought you had your act together until you allowed yourself to become Vawn's experiment. What a humiliating situation to watch; you went from supposedly having your act together to just being another groupy sleeping with her producer and making an absolute fool of yourself. I have always said, women speak through two sides of their mouths; want men to respect them until he you take your draws off to move forward then you become like every other artist that sleeps with the one she believes will take her to the top.

ctjcom
ctjcom

I think you just say whatever Vawn wants to hear to keep him.  I can't believe you actually believe what you say to him, sometimes.  I guess you just want him to think you have his back so he can "choose" you.

Sharper13
Sharper13

I repeat, if you have to define your FRIENDSHIP by the private intimate connections and moments that are only known between the two of you.  If he does not put you on a pedestal and declare you to be his one and only to everyone. If you are reserving yourself for him but he has not reserved himself for you. You have just been hit by the MACK MAN!  What you are feeling is by his design, of his creation. it is not by chance or because you are special, it's how he manipulates your heart and emotions.  When he leaves your house he makes five other women feel just as special as he makes you feel!

 

You are not in the wonderful relationship full of trust, respect and mutual consideration. You are in a situation where the man you sleep with carries it as much as he can until you tell him when he's gone to far and he's at risk of loosing the booty.  One day he won't care about loosing the booty and you will have lost all control over the amount of respect he deems appropriate for you.  Then what will you do?

krystal.dumas
krystal.dumas

Vawn walks around like he's jesus reincarnated and that's because women like you and Alex praise him like he's God himself! It's disgusting!

RRNYCITY
RRNYCITY

Africa, you disappoint. I thought that you of all people would not have succumbed to Vawn and his cavalier treatment of women. In case you missed, here is the lesson again: All of Vawn's lady friends are friends with benefits.  And now so are you. Let's face it, you are weak.  

southern_goddess
southern_goddess

You're mean and nasty to everyone, except for the person with whom you should really be mean and nasty with.....  and that's VAWN!  The people who are TRULY concerned about you, you throw them under the bus!  You have the nerve to say you were glad Tribble apologized?  Well, what about Vawn apologizing as well?!  That's the difference between REAL MEN!  Vawn disprespects you CONSTANTLY, and IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE, but he gets praise, protection, and a free pass?  What a fool you are!  And if you cry and get upset over a man trashing you in your face, then YOU'RE IN LOVE, PERIOD!  You're fooling no one, except for yourself; HOW DELUSIONAL!

shanlea
shanlea

Good luck with all your endeavors. You have a lot going for you, so no need for some arrogant commitment phobe.  Alex is a bad model for women, trying to throw shade on your accomplishments by stealing Vawn during your moment. Frankly, he shouldn't have spent more than 30 seconds in her limo. Hi and Goodbye. She really should have more self respect than to get some power by marking her territory.  She has a very dark aura; not really sure how any guy could be attracted to that.

 

Honestly, Emily and Tribble are way more invested in your well-being than Vawn.

 

And Man U All? Puke.

BoricuaBlueEyes
BoricuaBlueEyes

When the show started, I dug Africa's style and thought reality TV was finally featuring a classy woman confidently rockin' her own long natural hair.  Unfortunately, it didn't take long before Africa became a disappointment and typical; fighting like a hood rodent, choosing a dude of low quality, sexing someone that passes out paper towels and wouldn't even spend money to take her out (the old home-cooked meal trick), failing to wait 3-6 months to get to know the person, disrespecting her body by not demanding STD testing upfront...not even from a icky dude known to sleep around.  Yawns exist and do what they do because there are dumb females that continue to swallow the garbage they serve up.

 

When will females quit defending these dude's bad/negative/aggressive behaviors all the time and at all costs?  When will they cease with this sickening one-sided loyalty? 90% of the time women and children are the receivers of their aggression and violence, and how often do they stand up and defend women? *birds chirping* ...I thought so!

 

I've never interacted with the police, though still not a fan, but I'm glad the cop put Africa in her place.  Playing the race card was as pathetic as defending Yawn's disgusting aggression, in addition to foul and inaccurate, since the 'rent a cop' (Africa's words) told the truth.

 

Yawn *was* more aggressive!  When the guard was trying to do his job, prevent a fight, and *rightfully* keep the two parties separate, Yawn was threatening the guy, cursing, shouting "Don't put your f*cking hands on me!" and pushing him.  Additionally, Yawn pulled at least 2 p*ssy moves by popping Tribble on the nose then hitting him in the back of the head from behind when Tribble was being held.  It wasn't Tribble foaming at the mouth, spitting, yelling, cursing and trying to charge, it was Yawn.  I've no doubt Tribble would pound Yawn into the ground one-on-one without his boys!

 

...yet the hypocrite told his son to never fight or put his hands on anyone!?  I'm not surprised because that's how losers like Yawn roll.  No doubt he's hypocrite enough to feel entitled to sleep with whomever whenever, yet his ego couldn't take a female doing the exact same thing to him.  Further proof of Yawn's everlasting bullsh!+ is evident in the way he fakes being sensitive and caring by claiming to have felt sad watching his mother cry over being mistreated - when he does/did the exact same thing.

 

I just can't wrap my head around Africa's overwhelming stupidity.  Yawn basically banged a girl in her face and, 2 days later, she eagerly and desperately eats the pile of sh!+ he feeds her then kisses him on the lips, showing absolutely no regard for the disgusting places his lips had been, or respect for her own health. Chick is thirsty and has zero self-esteem!  Instead of fronting as black-power-Africa-earth mother forever choosing losers and getting crapped on, she might try truly being progressive, self-loving and dating a guy more apt to treat her with respect -- like Tribble!

 

It's would be a mistake to think the Tribble's of the world can't take that back out!

tomahawblue
tomahawblue

As a young African American women, I am disappointed in you. How can you date someone like Vawn who disrespects you, and yes he disrespects you by flirting and sleeping with other women. You are a beautiful women, you deserve so much better. Do yourself a favor, and move on please.

ceeacee
ceeacee

Africa,

All I can do is shake my head.  I hate to see young women fall for cads like Vawn.  I know you say you're just "friends," but who are you trying to convince?  It was abundantly clear that you had fallen for him, otherwise you would not have been so upset when he left with the other woman.  Get some self-respect and leave him alone.  I'm sure there are some good men in Atlanta.

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Africa, you need to love yourself enough to move away to Vawn and get with someone who will respect you as a person and not an object.

miranda99
miranda99

Well if you two were just simply friends, I'd love to see how you act while dating someone!  lol.  You seem a bit full of yourself to me, and I frankly think you and Vawn deserve each other.  You are a lounge singer, not a rock star----so lower your ego!

nessaedith
nessaedith

I think many of us are familiar with BravoTV editing, but no amount of editing could have fabricate how foolish you acted. Yes, seemingly, it is a bit unfair that everyone is judging you about something that happens pretty often when it comes to the dating, but that is what you signed up for when you do a reality show, especially on Bravo. Hello! Look at the Real Housewives franchise. I honestly couldn't care less about your pathetic attempts to court Vawn. What I am concerned with is your ignorance that you decided to display on this platform when you made the altercation at the forum about race. As if there is more need for people falsely pulling the race card! If this is Bravo's attempt at their sociology experience of the next generation of the intelligent and successful, after this season I think it's clear that shouldn't include you. Vawn should stay. He brings the right type of controversy for a reality show, and he actually represents a huge group of men. You should be cut. You're boring, pathetic, and I think it's obvious from the viewers that you represent no one.

SReid
SReid

You and the Love Junkies SUCK!!!!!!!!!! Don't quit your day job. You look like a broke Diana Ross reject !!!!

lianro
lianro

Africa, you have lost all of my respect by dating Vawn and enabling his bad behaviour. I truly thought you had more common sense.

I cringe watching you fall for this immature womaniser and hope young girls aren't watching you, as you have become a bad role model. Vawn is an idiot, but so are you for dating him.

 

onesmartcookie39
onesmartcookie39

Quite clearly you picked the WRONG man. For as smart as you led me to believe you were, I can't believe you would not only defend Vawn's behavior but then try to say he wasn't the aggressor? Then you turn it into a black/white issue which it never was. I went from thinking you were the greatest thing since sliced bread back to think you are just another dumb pot stirring hater.

Blossomthyme
Blossomthyme

Well, you of all the cast I think were the most authentic and the closest to being who you really are.  Emily and Tribble come in a close second.  I definitely like Sincerely's vibe too.  You guys are interesting enough to keep the show interesting with the occasional splash of bitterness and malice (Alex) to shake things up and shock our sensibilities.  I hope you all come back for another season.  I really enjoyed it!  I use to be in show business, a former singer and model myself.  It's a very hard road, only the tenacious survive.  I wish you nothing but the best.  Stay strong and whatever you do, don't compromise your values.

vanessa197676
vanessa197676

If you had a daughter, would you want her dating someone like Vawn?   Be honest with that answer too.  You need to get a better idea of what relationships should be like, rather than the distorted image you seem to have.  Hopefully, you'll grow and learn from this Vawn phase, because the whole thing is not cute.  

sobolious
sobolious

Africa, the reason the focus was placed on your personal life is because YOU chose to mix business with pleasure.  You put it out there.  

taniasveta
taniasveta

the most telling of Africa short coming...she used a race to defend Vawn inability to control his anger at the meeting.

I just wonder if she will ever have a boy-child...will she teach him self-control?. or support any anger-fused outbursts her child will display. Yet she has zero compassion for the way Vawn is trying to propagate treatment of the women.  In that respect Alex and Africa can hold hands....even though Alex thinks man will not cheat on her while Africa is accepting her 'man-cheating' existence. it is like crawling on the knees in front of a man.    

Bcleva4eva
Bcleva4eva

Yes please get rid of Africa & Vawn. They where totally disgusting and dangerous. STD's AIDS and Herpes is real and destroying the black community. Africa and Vawn are poster boards for when casual sex goes really wrong. I'm sick of these Stevie J, Mimi, and Joseline type plots on these shows. It has gotten old and played out. Vawn is by far a Stevie J but old stupid Africa acts like Mimi Fraust. Btw they both resemble each other. Wow! lol! Africa is boring and stank. Any woman who accepts a man telling her that she's not no# 1 and she give him the va-Jay-jay is a fishy fool. Africa needs to take 2 seats and Vawn needs to take a stadium of seats with all those freckles on his face. He's not as cute as he thinks. Chile bye...

Tall8Dee
Tall8Dee

I'm sure where Africa and Vawn's relationship will end up in the future will totally be left up to him.  He got her nose wide open and it's clear that she's at his disposal.  She can keep telling herself that she don't love him and that they're just "FRIENDS".  Hey, maybe he'll write about the mind game he's playing with her in his book. She talks a good game but no one (except her) is buying it --the lie she's believing or the book.   

taniasveta
taniasveta

the way  Africa singing- show was put together was exactly the vision through Vawn concepts. Over-sexed, luck of emotional substance in the songs, the name of the band is troublesome. Africa clearly sets herself up for trashy songs and questionable clubs performances. What a pity...girl does have some marbles and could be pursuing other carriers. 

a 'non-relationship' sleeping arrangements with Vawn...while he is screwing around...I would not be surprised if she does the same. Dangerous health-wise choices. The fact that he sat the date with Alex on the same night as the show

is just in line with what he is professing. Man is incapable of building a secure home for children to grow in. Period.

In that sense Africa is not set for a secure home provisions for her future kids as well. I am not talking about a perfect family...just a family where 2 parents are committed to make it work for the kids sake and able to make parents needs second to that pf the children they will bring to this world.   The moment Africa accepted the invitation to the first date at Vawn house, i knew she is full of it. No matter how Vawn is showing his parenting skills, he failed to build a secure family for hist child because his child has a broken family. And the time he playd basketball with his kid...he taught him not to hit anybody...then he went on and started a scruple at his own event. Vawn locks many qualities that would define his manhood by the true convictions: restrain, loyalty, will power, ability to love, ability  to try to commit,  control, discency, integrity, dependability, emotional maturity. 

 

ap2092
ap2092

Bravo, since you read these ;), please if this show returns leave Africa and Vawn off. I want to know more about Sincerely. When she stood up for her beliefs to Alex, damn girl that's what I want to watch. Plus I'd like to see Alex's rave business outcome and Emily's dating life. I just want to look at Tribble lol.

jernik
jernik

Africa, first off I think you are a beautiful human being, inside and out. It hurts me to see you allowing this person to get into your heart as much as you want to deny it or keep it from happening.  I've had one of these men in my life, it never worked and I always felt that maybe I was going to be that one woman that changed him and made him want only me, but it never happened even though I'm the one he gave most of his time to.  You just deserve so much better. I worry for you and want for you to find love, happiness, marriage, children, success, etc. and I don't even know you which is strange.  It's easy to get emotionally invested in strangers lives when they are on a reality tv show, I think many of us see ourselves through other peoples lives on these shows.  

 

Emily wants the same for you, she is not out to hurt you.  When she says you are hard to be friends with, I know that she means it's hard to show you and tell you of the red flags she sees and has seen since the beginning.  She points them out to you, you seem to see them but not see them at the same time and allow this person to hurt you which she knew would happen. She doesn't want to say to your face "I told you so".  She would NEVER want to hurt you or see you get hurt, I can tell that about her.  I think she's sort of on a mission to call Vawn out and tell him that his way of thinking is completely wrong and distorted because she see's him hurting you.  One of her best friends is Tribble whom she knows is a great guy.  She would never want to just set anyone up with him, she knows you are a good person so she set you up with him.  Give Emily more credit, she truly cares about you and your life.  She supports your career and just see's Vawn for what he really is.

 

Even though I sort of want to see Tribble and Emily get together, I think he would have treated you like a queen.  He obviously liked you and I think part of the reason he made such a big ordeal with Vawn was because he knows Vawn is going to screw you over.  Tribble is the kind of man you need to be with but sometimes woman want to be with the wrong men.  I hope you break that cycle, you deserve so much better. 

kimmerb
kimmerb

Girl please, a "friend" doesn't get that upset when their "friend" leaves with another woman from the club. Seems like you have a hard time taking ownership of looking weak. "Friends don't get busy with their "friends" and then go at it with another woman in the ladies room when she pushes the right button if they're just..."FRIENDS". Alex is a trick no doubt, but you are in denial about your lack of self-esteem. That mirror everyone keeps putting up in front of you ain't to check your look.....

gigem12
gigem12

I've read many of these blogs, but have never posted before. I started off the season liking you, but damn... you have shown that you are pathetic. I cringe during every scene you're in. You have no self-respect to STILL be interested and wanting more with Vawn. The thing that is most annoying is that you made it seem like Tribble was at fault for the whole debacle. He was definitely in the right. You are a fool, and it's clear to everyone who watches. I wish you'd stop following Vawn around like a lovesick puppydog. You're too old for that.

ambs2013
ambs2013

Stop please stop talking you are so irrritating and you are a horrible friend I just hope Emily gets a clue and drops you as a friend you deserve Vawn and he deserves you your both selfish egotistical people and I guess misery loves company.

andu.alex.58
andu.alex.58

"I have been blind, deaf, and dumb for love in my life. . .we all have."-sorry but NO, speak for yourself. As for your blog, well words are just that: WORDS and you can keep denying that you have any feelings for 'Vawn' beyond friendship; however, your actions (as few as we were shown from bits and clips) prove otherwise. Your behavior stands in direct contradiction with what you are trying to sell to the viewers as far as your relationship status with 'Vawn'.  Since when does a friendship involve sleeping with and (or) dating someone?

 

You are chasing a 'man' that is completely void of any substance or morals; that, combined with your quickness to defend his actions (even when violent, aggressive and just plain wrong) beyond all reason makes you blind, deaf, and dumb for love . Insulting someone's profession and playing the race card to defend someone when they are in the wrong just makes you ignorant, low class, and a snob.

gloryboxx
gloryboxx

A disproportionate amount of  "good" sisters go through this all the time. To quote Tribble " maybe that's just not how I was raised" . Tribble gets it!  Learning and accepting bad behavior starts in the home! All too often the "SWAGGER JAGGER", lifestyle is embraced as part of our cultural norms. This is not a gift ladies it is a curse, a dysfunction and those who promote it not only have dysfunctional relationships but raise dysfunctional children . Africa thank you for being the living embodiment of the toll that the player mentality is having on the women in our community. You are the poster child for the type of women predatory playas prey on.  Your "friendship"  with Vawn should be in a "man-u-al" instructing  impressionable young women what not to do or say when you meet a "player". PLEASE women never dismiss your intuition! This is a cautionary tell. Tragically we know how this story will end. We can not afford to trivialize the damage that the "player" mentality has on our men and women. Africa you just put a face to our plight THANK YOU!  

kay.west.10
kay.west.10

I loved you on this show. Now I don't care for you at all. You need to step back and really look at what you are portraying on this show. Classless, low self esteem and dumb. Don't let a man treat you like dirt. C'mon you are smarter than that.

TSan
TSan

I think you're a decent person. I won't get on here to judge your decisions with Vawn, I think you get enough backlash about that already lol. For the most part I think you handled yourself with grace and class. Even in your blog you didn't stoop to certain levels. I do think you could try to be more objective when it comes to Vawn instead of always taking his side or making excuses for him but other than that I enjoyed you and Tribble the most. I wish you the best of luck with your group and I truly do believe you can find a much classier guy who will commit to you and treat you like a queen but you have to want that and be ready when it happens. You have very beautiful hair btw.

heir2me
heir2me

 @tomahawblue Get what your saying, but I don't think Vawn has been disrespectful, actually I think he has been very honest and straightforward via actions and words. When someone says they'd rather be single, that's probably the truth. Even someone says they prefer to be single and acts accordingly, what they said was true. It is not Vawn's fault that Africa got her emotions tied up into him knowing how/who he was.

Heidi_Ylenni
Heidi_Ylenni

 @SReid

 

I don’t think they suck, I just am not sure that what they are doing is marketable. I did really like her in the beginning and have lost respect for her as the show went on.

SReid
SReid

@lianro Let the choir say AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YES!!!!!!!!

SReid
SReid

@Bcleva4eva YES! PLEASE BRAVO!!!!!! Ger rid of them!!!!! We are over the hoodlum and the dummy!!! Bring Sincerely!!!!!!!!

artmything
artmything

 @taniasveta

 Okay, Africa, you are an intelligent adult woman capable of making your own decisions, yada, yada, however, when one person says that a man is not good for you don't listen, but when EVERYONE says that, maybe it is time to get out of your own way...just sayin.

Jamcelroy
Jamcelroy

 @ap2092 I loved Sincerely reacting to Alex too! Sincerely is outspoken and gorgeous- BRAVO, why wasn't she put on the cast in the first place?

falina_c
falina_c

 @jernik oh Africa if only you would read, understand, and most importantly BELIEVE THIS!  EVERY WORD IS THE TRUTH!  You are better than that Africa!  Much better!

AzizaHondy
AzizaHondy

 @kimmerb thannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnkkkkkkkkkkk youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

AzizaHondy
AzizaHondy

 @andu.alex.58 and she is stilll hoping (based on this blog) that they might end up together one day....nonsense

Martinez8Betty
Martinez8Betty

 @TSanGood Luck Ms.Africa,God's Blessings, in everything you do... Take Things Slow w/Vawn....(NO Rush)....Stay (CUTE&CLASSY).....