Jevon 'Vawn' Sims

Vawn shares how the show changed his perspective, why he rejected Alex, and what about him you still need to learn.

on Oct 30, 20130

Vawn's Final Thoughts. . .

I'm happy to have made it this far, but I'm sad to know that it's over so quickly! There are so many people to thank, but I want to start by thanking God for giving me the power to believe in my passion and pursue my dreams. I would also like to thank Eastern TV, Mona Scott Young, Bravo, and everyone who worked on the show. Without you giving me this opportunity, none of this would be possible. So thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Now on to the final episode!

I was really upset about Tribble's actions at my town hall meeting. What he did was very disrespectful. He interrupted the meeting more than once, grabbed a microphone, and said things that were inappropriate -- and then put his hands on me more than once. It was not even his event, and it was not his place to behave in that manner. For myself, I could have handled the situation differently. I'm growing everyday. But I did give Tribble several passes. I tried to be the bigger man, but he pushed me to the point of no return.

After watching this episode, I'm still upset at myself for my actions. To see Tribble and Emily say they don't understand why I was upset was crazy to me! Deep down inside Tribble knew he was wrong, and Emily knew he was wrong too.

96 comments
Janice1980
Janice1980

No, Vawn is NOT entertaining. he looks like a recipe for disaster. He must have gotten to Africa real good for her to consistently stick up for him(go on head' miss argon oil and everything hair)

valshan
valshan

Well Vawn  you are very entertaining.  Who knows who you are for real.  This is a show.  I would like to see you in person to see how you really are.  There is hope for you and that was proven in your interaction with your son.

WandaP
WandaP

Vawn, good lord, Alex wanted you because Africa liked you! PERIOD... It was so tacky for you to leave in the middle of her performance! I tried to like you but, ur actions at the town hall meeting, we're unacceptable, why call a meeting if your not going to let people speak their opinions.. Tribble grabbed the OTHER MIC in defense of Emily and Ladies out there.. Sleeping around relates to being a commitment phobia.. It's hideous how you flirted with a girl (Alex's ) for your ego!? AFRICA you can do so much better.. Class your not, playing woman against each other to stimulate ur ego, is poor example for ur son... REMEMBER that!

aishah.henry
aishah.henry

Vawn obviously has the mentality of a 16  year old boy. The sad thing about it is those boys usually grow up and grow out of that way of thinking; Vawn is in his 40s and writing a book about it. Let's hope he had a really good editor, he obviously needs to go back to school and learn a thing or two about grammar and the true meaning of  "honest relationships".

Consciousness
Consciousness

Hi Vawn, I am proud of you for speaking from the heart! Life is about learning from our experiences! There is no good or bad only learning lessons for growth and development! You hit its right on the head when you wrote WHO AM I BECOMING! Keeping growing my brother. I send this message with my LOVE & LIGHT!

jorgie
jorgie

Thank you for showing us who you are: 

An honestly arrogant, egotistical, self rightous, ignorant fool. You haven't the first clue about what a relationship is all about, and that is why you don't have one. The test of a true man, an honest man, is one who can treat women with respect, that means honoring their virtues, mind, body and soul, and not taking, taking, taking sexual proclivities under the guise of "honesty" -  it is time you are honest with yourself. Women beware of under evolved men like this.. a man who is selfish and arrogant under the guise of "honesty" WHAT AN IGNORANT FOOL YOU ARE!

housewifeforreal4
housewifeforreal4

You and Africa are just FRIENDS??? I don't think she agrees with you.

chel6464
chel6464

First -- I love your personality and how true you are and bring out in the open how men really are and why.

 

Second --as a women I agree with you 1000% about being open and honest. Respect me enough and keep it 100 and leave the decision to me if i want to continue or exit to the left.

 

 

 

 

Appleton1
Appleton1

Leave GOD out of your messy life! You're just an insecure little boy - grow up! Wow - hitting someone from behind - how manly!

RRNYCITY
RRNYCITY

Not impressed.  Since you were too weak  to avoid flirting with Alex in the first place, it would have shown a sign of  strength and real friendship to Africa if you ignored the text messages and supported your "friend" Africa by watching her show in its entirety.  You should have manned up....instead you exhibited punk behavior.  Frankly, you are too old to be so scatter brained. I would be embarrassed to see myself and that behavior on television.  Tribble is not at all perfect, but you could take a page or two from his book.   

Lilikoi
Lilikoi

You, Africa and Alex all make want to vomit.

shysharon
shysharon

OMG The Soup just showed a clip of you on Bethenny! What a jamoke!

shanlea
shanlea

oh god. You are full o' yourself. You're nothing but an arrogant prick. Also, your words to Alex in the limo should have lasted 10 seconds - hi and goodbye. Your job was to support your friend at her show - not  get your ego stroked by some dumb man groupie.  Alex is a dark person - choosing to come after you at the expense of another woman's moment to shine. But in general, she has no self esteem.

 

As far as Tribble - that town hall meeting was supposed to be an open forum, was it not?

MCShelly
MCShelly

Vawn, you are very good looking and talented. I know it seems impossible, but before you know it you will be in your fifties, still trying to woo young women for "friendships."  You may succeed, but the roles will be reversed and they will be using YOU for what you can do for them.

 

We can only hope Tribble writes a book and gives you a signed copy. Study it.

 

andu.alex.58
andu.alex.58

I'd rather watch paint dry than listen to your(and your panel's) views on any subject, at least it would be more interesting and thought provoking.

B1YB1S
B1YB1S

Vawn... Vawn... Vawn... I am happy to see your growth, and I got my eye on you!

randrew
randrew

You have grown and changed?? No you haven't. I thought well, so he is a good guy till I read your blog. Same old Vawn.

dumpy
dumpy

I did not read your "blog" nor will I.  Only watched this show when re-run.  Not worth the time to watch on schedule because seriously can not represent more than a handful of people from Atlanta (hope not anyway...).  The dude "Tribble" had no right to highjack the conversation.  However when he was being escorted OUT that slap up side the head from Vawn?  Uncalled for.  Vawn a real man would have let the security do their job.  Take him out, away from, your room of people.  Also;  If a woman has multiple partners whether it's just out to dinner or just into bed she is labeled a "Tramp".  She can't be honest about it.  What you are saying is "As long as you tell all 100 women/girls you are "dating" they should all 100 be cool with that".  Dropping the Bulls!+$ Flag on that.  Part of marriage vow is "... forsake all others...".  Seems pretty clear and think of what you would want your son to hear from you??

ceeacee
ceeacee

Vawn,

I'm not going to bash you like some of the other comments and call you names, but you need to learn how to accept responsibility for your actions.  I was really expecting you to apologize o Tribble for hitting him when his back was turned, but you were still acting as if you were justified in making such a low-life move.  One more thing, instead of going out to the car and rejecting Alex, you should have kept your you-know-what in the building and ignored the text.  You still have a long way to go before you can truly call yourself a man.

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Vawn,  I still believe you're selfish and don't care about women in general.  I hope you rethink your treatment of women and learn how to be a better man so that you can be a positive role model for your son so that he will not have a good woman in his life in the future.

truthbetold1
truthbetold1

As a woman, I admire Vawn for being honest.  At least he tells women UPFONT that he will continue to see other women because he is NOT in a relationship with her.  It is the women's choice to continue to see him, sleep with him or not see him anymore.  You have sooooo many men who tell you, you are the only one, while they are SECRECTLY seeing other women.  He admits he has flaws, and continues to grow as a person.  He did the right thing telling Alex no.  Alex is such a silly young #####.  I sincerely hope she can grow as a person.  Africa is a beautiful, poised woman.  However, she chose to go with Vawns' program.  That is her choice, but her feelings started going into full effect.  I suggest  she start dating other men in addition to Vawn.  Africa does not have to sleep with these dates, but at least date or kick it .  Because what gets a man's attention quicker than anything is for him to think someone else is moving in the picture.  And maybe, just maybe, Vawn will realize how lucky he is to have Africa.   And Africa, if Vawn calls you a hoe, ask him what should you call him.

nessaedith
nessaedith

I may not agree with your views, however I do respect that you've been nothing but yourself and true to you. It's funny how you make the woman you court into, what you call, "friendships" look ridiculously foolish, but that's why everyone still want to watch you. No one can say that you're boring. You're in the business of making people relevant in the entertainment business, and I can see how you are successful. In regards to your little man, I think that it's great that have a relationship with your son. Instead of making forums for men about how (NOT) to treat women, I think a more pressing matter is how there are very few men stepping up to their responsibilities as fathers. As you even mentioned that you grew up with yours mostly absent, if you want to make a real difference, and get some positive feedback, you should focus on how to treat men to be a good father. THAT'S what you're good at. Not now to turn women into mindless zombies. You were quite entertaining, the good and the bad, and because of the conflict you bring, you should definitely be back next season. Good luck with all. 

miranda99
miranda99

Blogs reads like it was written by a man that just read a million of last week comments from fans that think you are slime!

cmeeks
cmeeks

Vawn, you clearly are a powerful and influential person and I commend you on your journey to be a better man. I think you found your "map" for that journey when you immediately thought of how you would want your son to see you handle situations. If you can always contemplate how your actions/words will be carefully watched by your adorable son, I think you will continue to succeed and will be the best version of yourself that you can be.

Just my humble thoughts!

Shelleycon
Shelleycon

Omg this guy is some kind of Hitch parody lol

SReid
SReid

Mona season 2 should be Sincerely, Tribble and I don't mind Alex because you need a bad girl in the mix. Emily, Yawn and his puppet with the big hair needs to go!!! We have Stevie J and Mimi. We don't need another set! We're good in that dept. Read the posts and you'll see I'm not alone.

Jamcelroy
Jamcelroy

Vawn exemplifies misogynistic, selfish men trying to find new ways around cheating. No matter how many different ways you phrase it, no amount of so-called honesty overrides cheating. Cheating is cheating. It doesn't help that women with daddy issues like Africa and Alex justify this behavior. Vawn's smooth-talking BS will probably only translate to those around him who use his beliefs to justify their own actions or women who feel that since they can't beat 'em, join 'em. His book will fail because, fortunately, the vast majority of America is not stupid enough to have the wool pulled over their eyes.

vanessa197676
vanessa197676

When karma comes back around, it comes back swinging hard.  You better prepare yourself, because you will have a lot coming back at you.  Personally, I don't think you added anything positive to the show, nor did Alex, so maybe you two really do belong together.

mimimommmy
mimimommmy

I had just finished reading your previous blog and comments.  I was pleasantly surprised to see you had written your new blog for this week's show.  Unfortunately, my pleasant surprise was short lived after reading your same old BS from your previous blog.  I thought for sure after seeing yourself on tv and how inappropriate you acted and due to the fact Tribble was man enough to apologize for his part at your seminar, you would be a man and apologize also.  How wrong I was.  Well actually, I'm not wrong, you are the person I thought you were. Notice I didn't say man, because IMHO you are as far from a man as I have ever seen. 

 

You put on a seminar and say it is an open forum.  Then as soon as people namely Emily and especially Tribble get up to speak and contradict your message you suddenly get angry.  I am big enough and honest enough to say, Tribble was wrong to take the microphone, but you were the one who was the aggressor in the situation, not Tribble.  I believe it was due to you being aware that the majority of the people in the audience would/were agreeing with him.  At no time in the footage I watched was Tribble physical with you.  You sir were the one who went crazy with him.  He was man enough and apologized for taking the microphone, which from everything I saw was the only thing he did inappropriate.  You got aggressive with him.  Not until security put several men between the two of you did you puff out your chest acting a fool.  Then as they were dragging him out, you take a chicken sh*t pop shot to the back of his head.  Who does that?  You have serious anger issues.  You had an open forum with a panel you hand picked with all little boys spouting the same crap as you.  What you didn't count on was anyone disagreeing with your warped view and you lost it.  Then you go on Bethenny spouting the same crazy crap, unfortunately for you, your command of the English language is limited.  Is this the reason when confronted with adversity you resort to violence because you are unable to express yourself verbally? 

 

When I saw the name of your blog I thought you had come to your senses and apologized for your antics, but sadly I was mistaken.  You still take no responsibility for your actions.  You continue to say you gave Tribble several passes?  For what, being a gentleman and owning up to taking your microphone?  Good grief you sound like a child who got his toy taken away in the sandbox and keeps whining to your mommy the other kid won't give it back.  Be a man, if you can, take responsibility for your part in the altercation and apologize.  Stop acting stereotypical and be a good role model for your son. 

 

 

Curvy
Curvy

 @Tall8Dee  Vawn is full o' sh!t. He made a doggone fool of himself trying to shut Tribble up. I thought the whole point of that gathering was for everyone to voice their opinion. smdh.

SoyVeritas
SoyVeritas

 @Tall8Dee Nicely put, Tall8Dee.  I didn't buy a word of his crap.  What's worse is that some people will think his actions with Alex in the limo were on point.  What would have been on point is having enough respect for Africa to not leave her show.  How incredibly weak and tacky!

taniasveta
taniasveta

 @chel6464 YES...THOSE (Africa?) that do not exit to the left will be a perfect fit for a adolescent

man like Vawn. Smart men want to be countable for their actions and can actuality live up to this real manhood. Dumb men find a dumb women to cheat on...call it what you want...'honest cheating'...is still cheating...sticking your d-ck in every hole passing by is an opposite of manhood. Making a philosophy out of it is like putting your stupidity on display.

Curvy
Curvy

 @Lilikoi Omg, I had the same feeling watching the trio, Lilikoi. I had a feeling of total disgust. Especially for Africa. Im looking at her thinking, "she's one of those women". smdh. I would love to hear what she would tell her daughter if her dughter came across a man like that.

MCShelly
MCShelly

 @shysharon

 I saw that clip! I'm surprised Bethenny didn't tear into him! He's ridiculous

 

Curvy
Curvy

 @ceeacee I was expecting him to apologize to Tribble too, but i guess he wasnt man enough to do that. Tribble came out shining and i believe he's a better man than vawn (note the lower case "v") could ever dream to be. 

shysharon
shysharon

 @truthbetold1so he stayed outside saying no to Alex and still hung Africa out alone...he could have said no by text and shown Africa some respect, but that would have meant she got the attention instead of him....I know the type.

 

matchboxpatty
matchboxpatty

 @Jamcelroy  Vawn if you were a woman, you'd be called a trashy slut. Usually caused by low self esteem, needing someone to show you how wonderful you are, yet not feeling that good about yourself. Never could understand why a woman's termed a "slut" and a man termed a "stud". When I hear men brag about ALL the woman they've slept with, I can't help but think "And you're proud of that"?

TaylorDane
TaylorDane

 @vanessa197676 Vawn and Alex were the most talked about people on the show.  Meaning THEY made the ratings. Obviously you found him interesting enough to read his blog and then leave a  comment. Just saying

Lck
Lck

@mimimommmy .. Excellent!

dumpy
dumpy

 @mimimommmy  Agree X 10.  Had to laugh at the "Panel of Experts" he had sitting on raised platform.  "Smooth"???  Yea....  bet he has women falling all over him!!   8}

falina_c
falina_c

 @mimimommmy THIS!!!!!^^^^^^  Ditto! Times 100.  I cannot "like" this comment enough!

shysharon
shysharon

 @MCShelly  I was surprised, too...me thinks she's becoming a little ridiculous, too

 

shysharon
shysharon

 @matchboxpatty  @Jamcelroy

 not to mention, he exploited his own son....you know when kids get that show-offy TV personality....yup, his kid's got it. SAD!

shysharon
shysharon

 @TaylorDane  @vanessa197676

 who said we read their blog...this is where I get to comment on what fools they made of themselves on national TV! Idiots!